Friendship Advice Needed

I have been friends with someone since I first started college, so for more then seven years now. After college we both got married and are starting our families. My friend is Christian but I never thought of her as extreme Christian until she married her husband. She got married a year ago, he is very Christian son of a pastor, pro-life, and so forth.

Well no on facebook my friend writes all sorts of things that are very conservative Christian like that does upset me. I do not share her and her husband's same views. I'm starting to think if we should even continue being friends because of the things and her husband say. Should I try to talk to her about it? I mean what would I even say? Should I just not be friends with her ?

It sadens me deeply because she wasn't this way before she met her husband. I am happy she found someone she loves, as well as the family they have started. I'm just not sure where this puts our friendship since our views on life are so vastly different.

Hmmm .. It might just be me, but other peoples religious views don't effect my life at all.. How are hers effecting you?

I had a teacher tell our class once: It's always good to be friends with people who don't share the same views with you, it always give you someone to debate with.
Being friends with people just like you would be boring.

Now, if debating is something that you two couldn't do without seriously offending one another, that might be a problem.

You gotta ask yourself, with the exception of her posts is she:
A) Still a good friend to you?
B) Are you still a good friend to her?
C) Do YOU want to maintain the friendship?

is she writing it on YOUR fb or just hers?
if i were to not be friends with people who write their beliefs on fb i would have no friends lol that's what people do on there imo..

Quoting Clk:" I have been friends with someone since I first started college, so for more then seven years now. After ... [snip!] ... family they have started. I'm just not sure where this puts our friendship since our views on life are so vastly different. "

Does she do it with hopes that it will "change" you or does she just do it because she is passionate about her beliefe in general?

Honestly, I don't worry to much about another persons political or religous views. The only time I blocked someone was when she plastered the Pro-Life "dear mommy," letter about the aborted baby TO MY PAGE. She knows I am very pro-none of my business and how I feel that it is wrong to shove controversial subjects into other peoples faces. I felt that if she was going to put that on my actual page, she didn't respect me and you can't have a friendship without respect.

Quoting laurenmik:" Hmmm .. It might just be me, but other peoples religious views don't effect my life at all.. How are hers effecting you?"

It's not her religion it's how she and her husband are presenting themselves. For example they are completely pro-life, and anti-homosexual rights. They both post that propaganda on facebook now and are very vocal on it. She didn't use to feel that way when I met her. My husband is actually Christian too just not extreme, he is accepting of others.

Does she just post stuff on facebook that you don't agree with, or is it like every time you talk to her?

I had a friend who I love to death but she annoyed the hell out of me on facebook... So I chose to make it to where her posts didn't show up in my newsfeed, and just not worry about having a "facebook relationship" with her...

Quoting Clk:" It's not her religion it's how she and her husband are presenting themselves. For example they are ... [snip!] ... didn't use to feel that way when I met her. My husband is actually Christian too just not extreme, he is accepting of others."

If that is the case, I might actually start backing away from that friendship. Keep it at a distance. I would also block status updates from them.

Ughhh I have family like that on my list & its super annoying. When all that chick fill a bullshish was going down she was sharing picture after picture and it was totally pissing me off. I also have a bunch of anti-Obama republicans who post crap that's pisssing me off. I don't say anything about it though, because their opinions are theirs & I really don't feel like wasting my breath arguing with someone about something that neither of us is gonna change our stance on.

If it really bothers you, maybe you could just mute her posts so you don't see them in your feed?

Quoting ♥vetoURface:" I had a teacher tell our class once: It's always good to be friends with people who don't share the same ... [snip!] ... posts is she: A) Still a good friend to you? B) Are you still a good friend to her? C) Do YOU want to maintain the friendship?"

That is where I am torn at she is one of the few friends I do have, and she is such a sweet person. She use to be like my husband accepting of others, which is why we were friends in the first place. Lol I hate not being good in social situations.

Friends don't have to have the same views on everything or even need to be the same religion. That's the great thing about cultural diversity in N.America. I wouldn't stop being friends with someone because of those things. You can always hide her posts.

Live and let live! You can still be her friend and not agree with all the conservative views her and her DH share with the world. I have a very pushy christian in my life too.

Quoting Not tellin:" If that is the case, I might actually start backing away from that friendship. Keep it at a distance. I would also block status updates from them."

Yeah I may just have to mute her on facebook and see how it goes. I haven't actually seen her in real life in about a year now due to distance.

Quoting Clk:" That is where I am torn at she is one of the few friends I do have, and she is such a sweet person. ... [snip!] ... husband accepting of others, which is why we were friends in the first place. Lol I hate not being good in social situations."

I have that problem too, it's hard for me to maintain friendships because I'm socially awkward.

Though, with everything you say.. It'd be hard for me to maintain that friendship, though, I have the same stuff posted on my FB News feed from my family, *sigh*..

You could just avoid discussing those things with her, but I don't know? It's a tough situation.

Quoting #3 is on the way!:" Friends don't have to have the same views on everything or even need to be the same religion. That's ... [snip!] ... diversity in N.America. I wouldn't stop being friends with someone because of those things. You can always hide her posts."

the problem happens when someone's views are fundamentally things you can't respect.
if a friend begins to say things that you think are unforgivably dumb.... that ruins the friendship