VENT...Men suck!!!!!!

Why do men find it absolutely nessisary to lie to their friends to make us look bad? Honestly can someone answer this smurfing question!?!? And better yet why do they find it nessisary to do it to their female friends that they treat like their sister but know the chick has a crush on them but keep them around anyways? I'm so beyond smurfing pissed at my husband right now!!!!!!!! He didn't talk to this chick for a month because he said she was flirting a little too much...then he leaves for training and starts talking to her again but only to tell her lies that make me look like a smurfing smurffy ass wife. OMG I'm glad he's smurfing halfway across the country right now or I'd probably be trying to kill him...or at the very least throwing things at him.

Quoting ~AJLR~:" Why do men find it absolutely nessisary to lie to their friends to make us look bad? Honestly can someone ... [snip!] ... halfway across the country right now or I'd probably be trying to kill him...or at the very least throwing things at him."

He is FEEDING off female attention. And that is a slippery slope to an emotional affair. At the least, he is being VERY disrespectful to you. You already know that.

Yeah....real men who respect their wives don't do that.

that sucks   my DH doesn't talk to girls hardly at all unless they are a friend of us both, but he gets really upset if i discuss our relationship with my girl friends like when we argue or whatever but then he tells his guy friends all about it and makes me sound like a total B*tch.. it's super irritating! OR his friends will call me to ask if he can go out with them and i'm like "why the hell are you asking me?!" i NEVER tell DH he can't go out, he's allowed to do whatever the heck he wants so it makes me wonder what he's telling them  

Quoting ~AJLR~:" Why do men find it absolutely nessisary to lie to their friends to make us look bad? Honestly can someone ... [snip!] ... halfway across the country right now or I'd probably be trying to kill him...or at the very least throwing things at him."

My husband doesn't do this. I do know that people who do this behind their spouses backs are generally not happy in the relationship and are "looking" for fulfillment elsewhere.

I would confront the issue. I wouldn't say "Why are you talking smurf about me?" but more "is there something lacking in our relationship that you feel we need to work on?" You actually bait him with this question to open up and talk rather than have a large fight about what he has or hasn't said.

Quoting Derpy Hooves:" He is FEEDING off female attention. And that is a slippery slope to an emotional affair. At the least, he is being VERY disrespectful to you. You already know that."

THIS! 

Because they are asses. All they want is to be center of attention and its always to another female. My ex did the same thing to me and I ended up losing my first baby and we broke up 4 months before our wedding day now he is married to her. Tell him how it makes you feel girl because he should tell you if your doing something to make him upset. Trust me even if he doesn't stop then it will atleast make you feel better. Good luck. And congratulations on the baby.

Quoting Not tellin:" My husband doesn't do this. I do know that people who do this behind their spouses backs are generally ... [snip!] ... You actually bait him with this question to open up and talk rather than have a large fight about what he has or hasn't said. "

Agreed. These kinds of issues are more likely to be worked out when they are discussed, not when they about fought about.

I did bring it up to him and he doesn't see what he did wrong. It wouldn't bother me so bad if he hadn't gone out of his way to straight up lie to her about just about everything he said to her...if he'd at least been honest for part of it then it wouldn't have bothered me nearly as bad because you know its just him exaggerating (sp) but its 100% smurfing fiction which just pisses me off to no end. IDK right now...I thought we'd worked almost all our problems out but I guess not.

Not all men do that... at all.

My SO certainly does NOT. Hell, the last time we talked about one of his friends (a girl who's always had a crush on him and is notorious for trying to get in between relationships), I told him I wasn't comfortable with it and he said "that's all you need to say, I won't talk to her anymore." end of discussion.

Your husband is being totally disrespectful :/ I would've kicked him to the curb if my SO did what your husband is doing. That's BS.