Experiences of others that have had abortions

I hope to make a sticky of this to help women that are thinking of abortion and want help.

http://abortionassistanceblog.tumblr.com/

http://www.theabortiondiaries.com/excerpt.htm

















http://myabortionblog.tumblr.com/page/8
http://myabortion.tumblr.com/page/8
http://nextthursday.tumblr.com/page/3
http://bebinn.tumblr.com/post/25692970734/story-from-a-reader-who-was-able-to-have-an-abortion
http://maehemsez.tumblr.com/post/23163145833/i-had-an-abortion
http://mommyish.com/pregnancy-health/how-my-abortion-enabled-me-to-be-a-better-mother-647/
http://www.aheartbreakingchoice.com/ [for those who have to make that choice because of the severe fetal anomalies ]
http://sharinghopesanddreams.tumblr.com/
http://www.fundabortionnow.org/learn/how-are-womens-lives-affected
http://www.prochoiceamerica.org/womens-voices/womens-stories/womens-stories-abortion.html
http://my-abortion-story.tumblr.com/
http://abortionconfessions.tumblr.com/
http://abortionstories.tumblr.com/
http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2009/06/02/a_friends_memory_of_visiting_dr_george_tillers_abortion_clinic.html
[^for those who have to make that choice because of thesevere fetal anomalies ]


Please do not post pro life comments.. This is a protected forum. I posted this to help anyone who wants to hear others stories.

I only watched the first one and I cried a little. She's so strong. I love how she puts her child she has now above the risks of her dying and leaving him without a mother. I think more people do need to see this.

Quoting Noneya Business:" I only watched the first one and I cried a little. She's so strong. I love how she puts her child she ... [snip!] ... her child she has now above the risks of her dying and leaving him without a mother. I think more people do need to see this."

'Tis why I asked Mara to make this a sticky.

I was nervous. They talked to me and then the nurse held my hand while the doctor gave me shots to numb me. In a few minutes he told me he was going to turn on a machine that was going to sound a lot like a vacuum and it did. It didn't hurt at all and took about 15 minutes
. However afterward they have you go in a room to make sure you are okay for about an hour. I started having massive painful intense cramps for the entire hour I remember it being weird sitting in a room with a ton of girls crying all about the same thing.
I was 15 when I had my abortion, I am now 29 with two beautiful daughters. I know I made the best decision I could have at that time in my life.
And for anyone considering an abortion, think long and hard about it. Do what feels right for YOU! And best wishes, you will come through this.

*Here is hoping Mara makes this a sticky*

My name is Yvonne. I had an abortion in 2009. I was in a horrible place.

My oldest sons father and I were in a very toxic relationship. He did stuff to me one morning with our son in my arms that I called my mom and I packed everything and I left. A couple nights later, I hooked up with my ex from in middle school. We had unprotected sex. Then a few days after that we had [stupidly and very dumbly] wanted to try for a baby. Yes, you heard that right. I made a baby. Well 3 weeks went by and I was in FL. Found out I was pregnant. I was happy, he was happy. The first day that I got home from FL, my oldest sons father wanted to spend time with me. So dumbly, I agree. I knew what he wanted. He wanted to get back together.

I am not ashamed. I told him that I was pregnant, with the other guys kid. I know he went outside to smoke. I think there were words said. But then he said, I just want one more night with you. And we stayed up all night. Talking. Things kinda felt good, like he had just came home from the hospital after being sick [another story]. Then he said to me, if you want to be with me, you have to get a abortion. Yes, he said "the baby or me". I chose him. So we went, I got the pill. I went home, he went to a wedding the next day and our son went with my mom. I took the other 2 pills and held them in my cheeks, for 45 minutes. 20 minutes after having the pills in my cheeks, I started bleeding. I started crying. I started passing tissue. I kept [TMI] pulling it out and looking for the baby that I "wanted" and "loved". I was in so much pain. My uterus was contracting. And it was painful and all I wanted was my sons father to hold me and tell me that everything was alright.

But he was cold. 3 days later, I felt good. I was RELIVED that it was over and my sons father and I could start everything and plan for our future. But that is when it started. A few weeks after I got it done. What HE wanted me to do.. He started yelling at me when we were in fights telling me that I was good for nothing and that I killed my child. I was useless. I felt horrible. I still do. I had nothing but my 2 year old son to my name. NOTHING. I felt like I had done all of this for him and he didnt give a smurf. He told me at one point, if I got pregnant again that he would force me to keep it. Then a couple days later, told me that if I got pregnant, that he would force me to get an abortion. He would bring it up everytime we got into a fight for a year. Until he left me for his now wife.

I have come to see, that I am grateful that I got the abortion. Some part of me thinks that if I didnt get that abortion, nothing would have put him on edge enough to try and find someone "better". I have a 5 year old son right now who is sleeping. I also have a 10 month old son that I placed for adoption, because again I was not in that spot to have another child. I did not have the money for an abortion, nor were there funds to completely fund it for me. Nor did, I have any other financial help at all.

Here is my thread from march 2009...
http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about571266.html

Here is my adoption story...
http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about2003415.html
Here is my adoption blog:
http://monksporkers0711.blogspot.com/
Just know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. It will get better. <3 If you want to talk, you can message me and talk to me.

He is a piece of smurf.

Karma will catch up with him.

I've never had an abortion so I have no experience...

Quoting £egendary Zeppelin:" He is a piece of smurf. Karma will catch up with him. I've never had an abortion so I have no experience..."

Thanks love <3 Ive never had the guts to tell my story. Its painful to talk about to remember it.

Quoting Yurvon [♥]:" Thanks love <3 Ive never had the guts to tell my story. Its painful to talk about to remember it. "

  sometimes it's good to talk about things though...

Quoting £egendary Zeppelin:"   sometimes it's good to talk about things though..."

I know. You know I love helping women making their choices and helping them in general. I figure, if I can open up about this and be honest with myself then I can release the feelings that I have towards C for it [I still hold hatred -- but time is healing that wound] and then J [the babies father] for doing the same smurf M did to me.

Good idea for a thread. I'm watching this and will share my story later on when I have a moment to type it all out.

Also, if anyone ever needs someone to talk to about any of this, feel free to PM me.

Quoting Yurvon [♥]:" *Here is hoping Mara makes this a sticky* My name is Yvonne. I had an abortion in 2009. I was in a horrible ... [snip!] ... there is a light at the end of the tunnel. It will get better. <3 If you want to talk, you can message me and talk to me."

Thanks for sharing your story....one of my students recently went through an abortion and I literally cried every night for her. It is a very tough decision.

Quoting Mocha Mommy™:" Thanks for sharing your story....one of my students recently went through an abortion and I literally cried every night for her. It is a very tough decision."

It is. My heart goes out to her. Can I ask how old is she?

Quoting Yurvon [♥]:" It is. My heart goes out to her. Can I ask how old is she? "

She is 16. And a very talented kid. I hate that she had to go through something as traumatizing as that.

Quoting Mocha Mommy™:" She is 16. And a very talented kid. I hate that she had to go through something as traumatizing as that."

Awh. Well at least she made the right choice for her and her life. Any choice that a woman makes whether it be abortion, adoption, or keeping it; they all are hard when you arent in that place.

Here are some pictures to help you get through this..