Soo, the baby's father (20 y.o.) has decided from the get-go that he wants nothing to do with his child... I'm really on the fence about whether or not i should ask for child support or not. I'll be 18 in September and don't plan on nor do i expect my parents to pay for everything, regaurdless of them being super supportive.
Also what concerns me is what IF he changes his mind about wanting to be in his son's life? if i just leave him off of the birth cirtificate and pretend like i got pregnant by immaculate conception, it might save me a whole butt load of drama.
Please vote and post opinions/experiences. Thanks!

My oldest sons father is on the birth certificate, sees him sometimes and rarely pays child support. He helped create the child, if he can't be there physically and emotionally he can at least help out financially.

I say put him on child support... It takes 2 to make a child and he should protected himself. As far as raising the baby I wouldn't expect much from him since he mad it clear from the beginning he wanted nothing to do with it. However people do change so maybe go into it with an open mind.

I'm not sure why you would even question asking for child support. OF COURSE he should pay child support.

Go after child supposrt.....in some places you cant put a fathers name on the birth cert unless he signs off on it!

Why WOULDNT you get child support?

Ok. So. I think that you need to make him step up to his responsibilities as a man. He laid in bed with you and helped create this child, he needs to help take care of it too. Whether it is financially or he wants to be in the baby's life. If you leave him off the birth certificate, you are letting him get away with everything that he has helped create. Who knows? Maybe after baby is born, he will realize what kind of bond there is to develop with a child and he will want to be in the baby's life. I would definitely make him pay child support. He helped create this amazing life and he needs to help take care of baby. Whether he wants to or not. IMO.   Good luck little lady! Hope all goes well for you with whatever you decide to do!

Quoting Mommy of 1.5 kids hehe:" Go after child supposrt.....in some places you cant put a fathers name on the birth cert unless he signs off on it!"

  This exactly unless there is a DNA test I think then it automatically goes on there.

If i do go for child support, that means that he has the right to choose to see his son. Not saying he would make a 180, but if he did, i would be worried about what he is doing. I don't beilieve he is mature enough to make the right decisions like to not smoke pot/be high when he is around my son

you as a mother have the right to go to court and get supervised visits

You can also go to court and receive child support and if you have enough proof, you can tell the courts that he is an unfit father and I'm pretty sure that he still has to pay child support. There are a lot of different ways to protect your child from the father and still receive child support. (My parents were divorced. Friend of the court can be your best friend.)

Quoting Prttymommy3:"   This exactly unless there is a DNA test I think then it automatically goes on there."

If he's not listed on the birth certificate, then he can always claim, "I'm not the daddy"...then OP would be responsible for proving he is, meaning she'd have to pay for the DNA test.

Or go see Maury  

i heard that it was REALLY hard to get suppervised visits. One story was that the father let the child cross the road by themselves and the kid almost got hit by a car and they still said no to the supervised visitation.

Honestly, imo you can not make a man step up and be responsible. From experience the father of my daughter never had a part of her life, he has been in and out of jail and even though Ive been through court to get child support he still does not pay it. Now my problem is that since I put him on the birth certificate he has every right to her that I do. I'm fighting for custody now because 3 years later he decides he wants to be around, when I do not trust him around her at all, I have been to a lawyer and until I go through court to prove he's an unfit parent I have the fear and possibility that he could show up at my door step with a police officer and birth certificate showing that he's the father and lie that I unwillingly took his kid, which he never wanted anything to do with her until now.

It is what you want honestly. My mom was older then you when she had me but also had to work two jobs to raise me and pay bills. My dad didnt want smurf to do with me and she left it at that. If he didnt want to be in my life she didn't want smurf from him. When they asked her who my father was she said " some illegal that i met and he went back to Mexico". Which he is from Mexico, but he wasnt illegal. Lol.
It all depends how you feel about it.