Quoting BG Secrets:" PDD NOS which makes me an even more terrible person for spanking him like I did. and for feeling this way. he clearly has delays, and I just don't know how to handle this HUGE gap in communication."
Do you think he might benefit from a little more scheduling? Like maybe he wasn't prepared to come in from bike riding, but couldn't communicate that?
It seems like a small thing, but a lot of the time if kids with PDD NOS/ Autism know far ahead of time when certain things are going to start/ end it helps them cope immensely. We keep a picture chart with velcro pieces for my son, and every morning we put the pieces in the time frame we are doing the activity. Because of the velcro we can change them as needed every day, like I can stick "grocery shopping" in the 4-5pm category on Thursdays. We even put small things on there, like "outside time" at 2pm -3:30pm Then he gets to take his velcro piece off at 2pm, and put it on the front of his art binder. Then at 3:20 I started counting down the minutes for him to change his velcro piece. At 3:30 he peels it off, puts it in a basket, and takes the net activity off to stick to his binder.
That way ending an activity isn't so much about "stop playing outside" but "come see what's next"