This is so confusing...

My youngest is just about 11 months old, and i've taken BC religiously since he was 3 months old. About 2 months ago I took antibiotics for a sinus infection and avoided having sex until I was done with my meds, I slipped up once. Two weeks ago almost we found I'm pregnant again. I cried and cried and said immediately I wanted an abortion. I talked to PP and my doctor, had my bloodwork drawn, had an ultrasound...and was all set to go through with it. My Dr called saying my levels and my ultrasound don't match, ultrasound shows nothing but my levels are at about the 5 week mark. I thought I wanted to abort, but now that I know somethings not right I feel like crap and I'm realizing that I actually want this. I can't tell if its just because I'm upset that this pregnancy may fail regardless of my choice, or what.
I don't even know if this is in the right forum. I just figured maybe...idk anymore.

Yeah...that's a toughie.
Maybe making a list would help you. What is best for you and your family?
Are you and SO able to support an other little one?

You need to take some time to think about that. You can also wait for an other appointment and see if the levels goes up, if they are able to see something on the US etc.

Yeah...my advice sucks.

my ultrasound didnt show anything either, i went back 2 weeks later for anther ultrsound and it was there it was to small to be seen before,

have you talked with baby daddy about having an abortion?

good luck to you, i hope all works out for you and your family

Quoting Hodor:" Yeah...that's a toughie. Maybe making a list would help you. What is best for you and your family? Are ... [snip!] ... an other appointment and see if the levels goes up, if they are able to see something on the US etc. Yeah...my advice sucks."

I think you saiud it great! And OP I am sorry you are going though this everything will work out the way it supposed to

if you are only 5 weeks then you have plenty of time to make a decision there is the possibility if the ultra sound showed nothing that there isnt even a decsion to be made and your levels are up due to medication or even because you have an 11 month old especially if you breast fed. try not to worry about things too much every mother you included will know what is the best decision for you and your family and dont let anyone else tell you different xx

4 future referance you need to use a back up method for the whole time u take an antibiotic and the week after u finish taking it.....it doesnt leave your system right away. Mabe this situation is meant to be a 2nd chance for u to change your mind. The pregnancy may just be to early to see on the sonogram.

I conceived on antibiotics too. We chose to try during that two weeks though. We decided if we conceived in that small window it was meant to be.

But in your situation, that is a tough one. I think having emotions because something could be wrong is completely normal. I don't think it is a definite sign that you want to keep the baby. I think making a list and talking it through with the father would both be smart choices.

Also, maybe waiting it out a little bit would help too. (Just my personal opinion here) but if you decided it wasn't for you after all you could always chose to place your baby with a loving family.

i think maybe you just need some time to take the shock of it possibly miscarrying. think of what you want from the begining and why you were so sure, how would miscarrying make that any different logically? i know, these issues are hard to look at logically, when emotions get stirred up.
maybe you do want to keep the baby, or maybe its you think you want something that you cant have, or want to be in control of the situation, and a miscarriage would take that away from you.

I dont know your story, and if those are wrong then it may seem harsh that i said they might be explinations-but like i said i dont know you. I dont mean to offend if this sounds harsh...im just suggesting you take some time to really think and sort things out in your own mind so you are sure of what you want or will be comfortable with the outcome if its out of your control.


good luck...


ETA when i took the pill they would not see me till five weeks because it is hard to see on the screen before then, sometimes even then its hard to find.
if your levels are still going up...well i would wait to jump the gun on any of these thoughts until you sort out your thoughts