Quoting ☮ Phuket:" Having your own kid is completey different.. I like you id inwould never do certain things insaw other ... [snip!] ... I was the big sister and took care of my micro preemie sister all the time, its not even close to the same as your own kids"
I would have to agree with this. There were certain things that I swore up and down that I'd never do, but it all changed once my daughter got here. What may have worked for my nephews didn't work for my daughter. Since every baby and their personality is different, I had to find what worked best for my daughter and I.
Op, I can understand your frustration when people try to shove their parenting views down your throat, but just take it with a grain of salt. When your LO gets here, you'll figure out what advice suits your needs, and what advice is just useless to you.