Dealing with losing a baby

I have two children and was thrilled to find out I was going to have another child .My boyfriend and I were gonna have our first child together. Everyone was so happy and excited for us,including us. Come to find out after I had a pap smear, that that night I lost the baby. I was so shocked and hurt, I don't even know how to describe it. We were all ready for this baby and even had names picked out. I never thought I would have to experience it. I am dealing with this so hard, I can't sleep and I keep crying outta no where. I just don't know how long it'll take to come to terms with this lost . I don't wanna get depressed or loose it, since I have two other kids to raise.It's just so hard , especially since my boyfriend's sister is also pregnant and is having her baby same time I was due.We do still wanna have another one, but my boyfriend wants to wait a little. I just need some advice on how to cope and what to do next.

There is really no advice to give in this situation, as every one grives differently and at a different pace. I went trhough this 6 months ago and I am still not completely over it. I sometimes cry when I think of the fact he is supposed to be here by now.

Only time will help...

I know and I'll proabably be the same way..it doesnt help that my bf doesnt seem to understand what I am going through. I mean some things he says just hurts ..I know he's trying to help but it's just making it harder to grieve , or deal with the way I feel. I mean how does me to expect to feel around his sister or even be around her right now? I am not mad at her, but its like a constant reminder   I am so sorry for your lost, and yes time .Thank u for supporting

Quoting LatinaMamma3:" I know and I'll proabably be the same way..it doesnt help that my bf doesnt seem to understand what I ... [snip!] ... now? I am not mad at her, but its like a constant reminder   I am so sorry for your lost, and yes time .Thank u for supporting"

No problem hun. When I lost my son, it was a veryu very hard time and I sure know I needed people to talk to and people to support me. If you ever want to vent, you can always pm me. I know that talking about it helped me heal tremendously.

Thank u a lot, and that's what I need to vent and just have a good cry. I am glad I can have people to help me through this

Quoting LatinaMamma3:" Thank u a lot, and that's what I need to vent and just have a good cry. I am glad I can have people to help me through this"

Anytime.

You have to take it one day at a time. I was 22 weeks and 2 day when i had my son. He didnt make it. There are days when im.doing good and feel okay and my boyfriends down and out, then days when hes good and i feel like im loosing it. This saturday will be 4 months since my son was born, and passed sometimes it feels like it was jus the other day, then again it feels like it was a long time ago. take it day by day.

I am gonna do that , I think we r already having those days. I just dont know how to be there for him and he doesnt know what to say to me, n i dont either. I dont think there's any right words to say   We plan on trying again, n when it does happen I know she/he will be a major blessing. I am so sorry for your lost , that must of been so hard. Well I am here for ya, if u ever have one of those days