Baby Fever, TTC again

I had my follow up appoinment yesterday, and of course because life is the biggest bitch in the world there just had to be a woman there that was twelve weeks, what I would be had I not lost the baby, and of course she was over the moon. You would think that just once life wouldn't slap you in the face but of course she's an opportunistic smurf and did, quite hard by the way. Of course I was happy for the woman but still, it sucked.

So now the reason for my post. I talked to my midwife and told her that we still wanted children and she said that they recommend waiting three months, but because some woman are so sad they get pregnant before then and she wouldn't begrudge me that. She does want to do a pre-conception apopintment to run tests to find out what happened. For anyone that had this kind of appointment or had tests run after their second miscarraige, what tests did they run? What did they look for?

Also, how long after your miscarraige did you decide to try for another? How long did it take you to actually conceive another? Did that one stick?

Really I just want to know how long it's going to take before I stop crying? Before I stop thinking about what I'm missing out on? About all the plans that I made? When will I be able to wake up in the morning and stop hating myself for thinking everything was perfectly fine when clearly my poor helpless baby was not okay? I know that everything happens for a reason and there was nothing that I could have done to stop it but I can't help thinking about how long I was holding onto a baby that had passed away. Did my baby's heart stop beating when I looked at myself in the mirror on Wednesday and thought I'm so excited? Did it happen when I looked at myself and thought bring on the belly? Or when I was at work and held one of the babies and thought I'm going to have one of these?

Thanks so much ladies.

I apologize this is a post and run but I have to get ready for work, and of course I work at a daycare, in the toddler room, that's attached to the infant room so I have the pleasure of listening to babies cry, all day, and remember just what I'm missing. My day is going to be just PEACHY!

i lost my bub on the 11th of january this year at 20 weeks, and i had a period on the 14th of feb we started trying straight away and i got pregnent  im now 28weeks. i felt that my body would not fall pregnany again if it wasnt ready. good luck with it 

Quoting terri alder:" i lost my bub on the 11th of january this year at 20 weeks, and i had a period on the 14th of feb we ... [snip!] ... and i got pregnent  im now 28weeks. i felt that my body would not fall pregnany again if it wasnt ready. good luck with it "

Thanks. And congratulations.

Be had 6 losses from 4 to 23 weeks.

He testing will be bloodworm to check hormone levels, thyroid, metabolic issues and thrombofilia (blood clotting issues). My first work up was 7-8 vials and peeing in a cup.

As for when it stops hurting. When you stop thinking of what you SHOULD have...

I'll let you know. My first loss was Sept 10, 2007. My most recent was just February 29. I can tell you exact dates and specific details of every one.

Naming my babies helped me.

We have Cameron, Gabriel, A (living), Caleb, Dylan, Deagan (born preemie at 23 weeks and lived 1 hour), and our most recent whom we havent named because hubby was deployed for it all and I didn't want to upset him more than needed while he was gone---he just got home.

Naming them has helped. They have an identity. I couldn't give them life, but I can at least give them that.

Quoting P Pickle Pants:" Be had 6 losses from 4 to 23 weeks. He testing will be bloodworm to check hormone levels, thyroid, ... [snip!] ... just got home. Naming them has helped. They have an identity. I couldn't give them life, but I can at least give them that."

I guess that makes sense not htinking about what I should have. We did name him. I have no idea if it was a boy but we named him Malachi. It means "My Angel" I thought it was perfect.

I'm sorry for your losses.

Freaking auto correct... The testing will just be bloodwork... Not bloodworm...ugh!

Hope you find peace. But don't be surprised if there is no answer. Not even the specialists can find any reason at all for mine. I've done months of testing and there is nothing unusual in any of it

I had 3 miscarriages within 15 months. I got pregnant 6 months after the 1st miscarriage, and then 6 months after the 2nd miscarriage. It's been 6 months since the 3rd miscarriage, and we're not TTC yet. I don't feel as though I'm ready. I just had the RPL (recurrent pregnancy loss) testing done last week. I don't have my results back yet. My OB wouldn't run any testing until after my 3rd miscarriage, which I think is ridiculous. I think it's great that your midwife is starting to look for answers now, instead of making you suffer through another miscarriage. I wish you the best.

Quoting P Pickle Pants:" Freaking auto correct... The testing will just be bloodwork... Not bloodworm...ugh! Hope you find peace. ... [snip!] ... even the specialists can find any reason at all for mine. I've done months of testing and there is nothing unusual in any of it"

My Aunt has APS (Antiphospholipid Syndrome) so I'm wondering if that's it. We really just want to know if there is a reason and how to fix it for next time. If there isn't one we'll just have to have faith.

Quoting Squeaky McGee:" I had 3 miscarriages within 15 months. I got pregnant 6 months after the 1st miscarriage, and then 6 ... [snip!] ... midwife is starting to look for answers now, instead of making you suffer through another miscarriage. I wish you the best."

Thank you. You too.

I just went through my second miscarriage this year. I got pregnant 3 months after my first miscarriage. My doctor said it was safe to try after 2 months (of course none of our family members agreed with that, think we should have waited at least a year). My doctor did chromosome testing and tested me for a blood clotting disorder. It is a very heartbreaking thing to go through. I can relate to you about having to be around babies all of the time. I am a social worker at Children Services, it has been tough working there since my loss. Wish you the best of luck!

Quoting Apekyle:" I just went through my second miscarriage this year. I got pregnant 3 months after my first miscarriage. ... [snip!] ... the time. I am a social worker at Children Services, it has been tough working there since my loss. Wish you the best of luck!"

Thank you and congratulations.