BD told me to get an abortion

No but if he is stressing you that bad stop talking to him. It doesn't sound like be is contributing anything helpful right now

Quoting Haleigh Marie:" So my ex and I were completely fine when there was just the thought of me being pregnant. Then he told ... [snip!] ... be with me. I do have the support of his family and mine, I just wish he was here by my side. Has anyone been in my situation? "

been there bought the t-shirt...nothing has changed and DD is 1 now and i got a BFP yesterday but that seems to just have been a chemical pregnancy

No, but that sounds extremely unstable and unhealthy, relationship wise. I would not be friends with benefits with him. He needs to grow up. He can't have his cake and eat it to all while trying to control you and be hot and cold. Take care of yourself and that baby.

You shouldn't let yourself be in that situation. Dont let him use you for a piece of ass and then decide if he wants you in the end

Quoting Haleigh Marie:" As of right now we don't have any drama and we haven't argued. But he doesn't go to any appts or ultrasounds. ... [snip!] ... and I texted him to let him know that I was going to the hospital and he didn't even respond. Its like he doesn't care. ): "

talking from someone that is going through it right now let him go Before baby gets here becuase its going to be 10x harder after baby gets here

Quoting Nevaeh's mommy  :" talking from someone that is going through it right now let him go Before baby gets here becuase its going to be 10x harder after baby gets here"

I'm slowly getting over the whole 'family' thing with him and realizing that we will never be a stable couple but its hard.

Quoting Haleigh Marie:" I'm slowly getting over the whole 'family' thing with him and realizing that we will never be a stable couple but its hard. "

i know the feeling the heart wants what it wants but sometimes thats just not good enough i wouldnt wish what im going through on anyone

Me either. This sucks. I know I have support but I wish I had it from him too. People that I don't know or haven't talked to since I graduated high school (2yrs ago) ask more about the baby than him. He said that when he was growing up, he wanted to be the best dad he could be because his dad wasn't there for him or his mom but he isn't doing anything different.

Quoting Haleigh Marie:" Me either. This sucks. I know I have support but I wish I had it from him too. People that I don't know ... [snip!] ... he wanted to be the best dad he could be because his dad wasn't there for him or his mom but he isn't doing anything different."

yeah i have heard that to actions speak louder than words i dont want to hear you say it i want to see you do it

honestly i would give him an ultimatum. he either wanted to be with me now through my pregnancy and everything else or leave and never ever be with me again. It sounds like he cares about you but hes not ready to step up and take responsibility for his actions. in other words he wants you to do all the hard work and then when its done he'll see if he wants to be apart of it. he still sounds very immature and until he gets it together i would kick him to the curb. Good luck.

Quoting Haleigh Marie:" So my ex and I were completely fine when there was just the thought of me being pregnant. Then he told ... [snip!] ... be with me. I do have the support of his family and mine, I just wish he was here by my side. Has anyone been in my situation? "

Friends with benefits? Tell him to smurf off.

i did. we had a reallllllllyyy long conversation earlier today. we are going to be civil for our son but other than that im moving on. i told him how i feel but i realized that i dont need someone like him as a bf or a hubby. we are on good terms as of right now. (:

Quoting Haleigh Marie:" i did. we had a reallllllllyyy long conversation earlier today. we are going to be civil for our son ... [snip!] ... him how i feel but i realized that i dont need someone like him as a bf or a hubby. we are on good terms as of right now. (:"

good glad to hear that