So judge if ya want idgaf lol I have always wanted a daughter.. two boys later I still have this feeling of our family not complete because I don't have my little girl. DH wants another kid (not this second our youngest is 7 months) and the only reservation I have is I had horrible gender disappointment last time I don't want to go through that again.
Our insurance covers $35,000 for fertility procedures and $15,000 for medications. There is an IVF clinic in Seattle that does PGD ( preimplantation genetic diagosis) with an almost 100% accuracy rate. It would cost us only $3-4000 for that part insurance is unclear if it would be covered.
I know its a long shot but has anyone gone this route?
I had a SIL during my first marriage do it but we are no longer in contact so I can't ask her about it.
I honestly don't think it'll hurt..I mean, the worst that could happen is you guys get another boy and I'm sure you'd love him either way...
I get what you're saying though..I keep telling myself that if this baby is a boy I will have no problem with that but I know if it does happen to be a boy I'll still have gender disappointment...its getting even harder to accept that either way I'll be happy when I have even my ob telling me that since I'm having sooo many different symptoms from when I was pregnant with Zeke that it might be my girl I've wanted so badly..
<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs.O!:</b>" I honestly don't think it'll hurt..I mean, the worst that could happen is you guys get another boy and ... [snip!] ... I'm having sooo many different symptoms from when I was pregnant with Zeke that it might be my girl I've wanted so badly.."</blockquote>
We thought Asher was a girl not one symptom was the same as T's pregnancy I was devastated he wasn't a girl. The place has a low fail rate like nearly 1%. It would be in a few years and 3-4000 will be easy to save up when I go back to work.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Brink:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs.O!:</b>" I honestly don't think it'll hurt..I mean, the ... [snip!] ... nearly 1%. It would be in a few years and 3-4000 will be easy to save up when I go back to work. I hope you get your girl!!"</blockquote>
If you feel its right for your family thenI say do it!
I'm not gonna hold my breath butI hope I get my girl too!
This is obviously a very late reply since i can see you posted this back in August.
I'm pregnant with my 2nd boy as well and just like you I was devasted to find out it was another boy.
I love my son with all my hear and when this one arrives I will love him as well, but just like you I feel like my family and me myself as a mother won't be complete until I have a girl.
My husband & I are going to do IVF+CGH which is ultimately the same as PGD but a little more advanced so I've been told by the doctor at the clinic we've chosen.
I'm due in July with baby boy #2.
We will be looking into this procedure and planing to do implantation sometime in Jan/Feb next year (2014) so that baby will be born sometime between Oct/Nov.
I certainly wish that our health coverage or benefits covered the procedure but I highly doubt they'd cover anything since I've already conceived 2 naturally.
The procedure is 99.99% chance that you are getting exactly the gender that you want and as far as I've researched if you are considering doing CGH or PGD those are the stats. They test the embryos before implantation and know exactly what they're implanting. There are other forms of doing gender selection that would give you less % chance of giving you what you want but you'd definitely get a girl with either PGD or CGH.
I've chosen a clinic in California and will be going to them as their success rates are of the highest in the USA and the fact that I have communicated back and forth with one of the doctors at the clinic via email so far and have gotten very specific answers to my questions and also very upfront about the total cost of the procedure and all tests that need to be preformed prior to implantation and during pregnancy. The only thing he didn't quote a price on was the cost of the medication which will vary depending on where you purchase it from.
I'm not sure when you're planning to do this but I'd like to keep in contact if possible.
It's nice to know I'm not alone feeling the way that I was feeling and someone else is looking into doing the same procedure my husband and I are going to do.
I hope your littlest man is doing well and of course the rest of your family as well.
Take care and sorry for making this so lengthy> I just got excited seeing someone in the same boat as me.