re: Male Factor Infertility Support Group

Quoting Mrs.O♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Her mama his wife:</b>" Awwww yay. i hope that goes well for ... [snip!] ... the money for his surgery that I haven't really worried about finding sperm... And now it's setting in and I'm getting nervous"

60% is excellent odds!

Not to be a downer... but have you guys discussed what you want to do if they're unable to find any sperm?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dicey Wifey:</b>" Thanks! I hope it's soon for everyone. DH is kinda being a turd about it... he's saying that I'm pushing ... [snip!] ... his head out of his ass... I think he's feeling scared/nervous and also probably upset that this won't be his biological child."</blockquote>



I hope he comes around!!! And I hope you get that job! Guys are so weird with their emotions. I asked DH if he was okay with doing the surgery in November (his birthday is in November) and he's like yeah I don't care. I said no I want to know how you feel and he's like "I don't know". Awesome nice conversation. Lol.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dicey Wifey:</b>" 60% is excellent odds! Not to be a downer... but have you guys discussed what you want to do if they're unable to find any sperm?"</blockquote>




Honesty, I don't know. I'm really hoping for a good outcome. We are still torn on using a donor because of our different views. I guess we don't want to go that route yet until we absolutely know we have to.

Quoting Mrs.O♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dicey Wifey:</b>" Thanks! I hope it's soon for everyone. DH ... [snip!] ... like yeah I don't care. I said no I want to know how you feel and he's like "I don't know". Awesome nice conversation. Lol."

LOL buttholes! For real... I love vague answers and one word answers.
He's acting all concerned about money, which he shouldn't be... I don't want to brag but we're financially secure. He keeps on asking for a boat or a new car. I want to smack him sometimes.
Thanks about the job! I'm mostly excited because it's a set schedule with every other weekend off (I've been working every weekend... well just about) and with PTO.... AND I'll be qualified for FMLA leave (which DH said I could take).

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dicey Wifey:</b>" LOL buttholes! For real... I love vague answers and one word answers. He's acting all concerned about ... [snip!] ... working every weekend... well just about) and with PTO.... AND I'll be qualified for FMLA leave (which DH said I could take)."</blockquote>




Hahaha seriously, sometimes I feel like I would have a better conversation with the wall than him lol.

Fingers crossed for this job- it sounds awesome!!!

Quoting Mrs.O♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dicey Wifey:</b>" LOL buttholes! For real... I love vague answers ... [snip!] ... I feel like I would have a better conversation with the wall than him lol. Fingers crossed for this job- it sounds awesome!!!"

Thanks!

I started af yesterday as expected. 26 day cycle with my ovulation on day 13. I'm happy I was able to know when to expect it since I tracked my o this time. I'm suppose to populate while on vacation so I'm happy and hopeful.

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Quoting Her mama his wife:" I started af yesterday as expected. 26 day cycle with my ovulation on day 13. I'm happy I was able to ... [snip!] ... to know when to expect it since I tracked my o this time. I'm suppose to populate while on vacation so I'm happy and hopeful."

Very hopeful for you guys!!! *baby dust!!*

Quoting MommyCaroline:" Afternoon ladies!!! I have a question, and I think this would be the best place to ask... DH and I ... [snip!] ... there something we can do to fix it?? Please don't quote, I will delete this soon, because it's quite embarrassing...  "

Don't be embarrased! I would suggest your SO make an appointment with a urologist. They can be able to help him, and see whats wrong. I'm sorry I'm not much help but I know urologist can defintely help.

Quoting Mrs.O♥:" Don't be embarrased! I would suggest your SO make an appointment with a urologist. They can be able ... [snip!] ... They can be able to help him, and see whats wrong. I'm sorry I'm not much help but I know urologist can defintely help."

I will mention that to him... I'm pretty sure I know what the problem is though... I have cervical erosion, and for the last 4 years, we haven't been able to have sex as much as we did before all this came about, because I was bleeding a lot (we've been together for 11 years). Now that I am not bleeding or spotting too much, AND we're TTC, he has difficulty keeping it up, because he's not used to keeping it up. When I was having issues, we would try to have sex as often as we could, but he would get grossed out by the blood, and have to stop.... eventually I stopped giving it up because I felt so gross, and I felt like I turned him off! He didn't mean to make me feel that way, though!! So I guess now he has to train himself to stay up.  

Hey all. I've been so busy working. This is my first day off in like 9 days. I'm exhausted.

I'm so blah today. I feel so emotional, and inadequate, and just sad. I have no idea what started it. A little background about me... I had an eating disorder for many years (most of my teenage years). I still have tendencies and struggle from time to time with it but I've gotten over it for the most part. Today I just feel really down and that I need to stop eating. Please don't judge me. I stopped to really think about why I feel this way and if anything has really been on my mind the last few days and I realized that yes something has. It's really been bothering me that DH isn't all on board with IUI. He says he is but he keeps coming up with reasons and excuses and tells me not to push him every time I bring it up (which in his defense is about 4 times a week or so). So I asked him to answer me totally honestly what his reservations are. His response... Nerves, money, and the fact that I don't have a permanent status job. The job part is in the bag in a few weeks.... and as for money I think he's being absolutely ridiculous. We enough money in savings to pay all of our bills for 3 months. And he refused to talk about the "nerves" part of it. I pushed him a little but he didn't have anything to say. We already parent my son (not his biologically and which we only have 4 days a week).
I really wanted to do IUI this next cycle (I would O at the end of the month) but it's looking like it might wait... I was just added to my work schedule the day that I would likely get a positive test so it may not work out this month anyway. I'm just so beyond frustrated I'm starting to feel helpless. I want a baby so badly and I don't think he understands this. I've been wanting another baby since my son was a baby (about 13 months) and now he's almost 5. I've waited so long! I'm getting older, too... time is becoming a factor. I'll be 28 in January. So much for me having a lot of kids like I have always wanted and what we had discussed much earlier in our relationship.

ETA: I think DH has a little bit of OCD when it comes to money. There's never enough (even when there is). We've talked before and he admits to it too but I don't think he sees the forest through the trees here.

Quoting Dicey Wifey:" Hey all. I've been so busy working. This is my first day off in like 9 days. I'm exhausted. I'm so ... [snip!] ... (even when there is). We've talked before and he admits to it too but I don't think he sees the forest through the trees here."

I'm sorry Linds, *Hugs* I can relate to the depressed feeling. My DH isn't really open about our struggle, or what we are going through and I honestly think that's just who he is, he doesn't like to communicate his feelings.

Does your DH have nerves related to using a donor? Or is just nerves about finanical issues?

Quoting Mrs.O♥:" I'm sorry Linds, *Hugs* I can relate to the depressed feeling. My DH isn't really open about our struggle, ... [snip!] ... like to communicate his feelings. Does your DH have nerves related to using a donor? Or is just nerves about finanical issues?"

Thanks Ashleigh. The depressed feelings suck. I battled that for years. I don't want to go back. It is really hard when you can't really talk to the one you're supposed to share these feelings with!

I think it's a little of both. We talked EXTENSIVELY about the fact that we would be having another child that is not biologically his. He said that genes don't define fatherhood. He got me tearing up over this....

I think his nerves come from the fact that we're going to go from having 1 child 4 days a week to one 24/7 in addition to Jace. I know that I worry about having enough time and energy for both (especially Jace). I don't want to make Jace feel any less loved. Especially since he doesn't get a whole lot of love and attention at his father's house. I think DH is feeling the same way but he won't come out and say it.

And I'm sure some of his nerves are due to money... it's expensive to buy all the baby gear and then also having to pay for child care (because I would have to go back to work -- I'm the primary bread winner -- in about 4-5 months).

Quoting Dicey Wifey:" Thanks Ashleigh. The depressed feelings suck. I battled that for years. I don't want to go back. It ... [snip!] ... having to pay for child care (because I would have to go back to work -- I'm the primary bread winner -- in about 4-5 months)."

I feel like when guys get nervous about what is to come in the future, they don't come out and say it like we do... They don't want people to know they are scared, they are suppose to be "manly" ya know?

it's defintely a big change, and I hope he comes around and lets his feelings out to you. I had to really push DH into opening up, and I know how he's scared of the doctors possibly not finding sperm. It takes a lot for a guy to admit that.