Quoting S&T+1:" So sorry for your loss mama. If I was in that situation I wouldn't even know what to do. I'd probably ... [snip!] ... probably tell them that they're wrong and that I'm not getting the D&C. Even though that would probably be pretty stupid."
No, that wouldn't be stupid. The first step of grief is denial. A year ago today I found out that my 10 week fetus had passed away, and I refused to believe it. My OB wanted to schedule a D&C, but I said no. I kept thinking that maybe he was wrong.