re: why mine?

I got that feeling reading the way you urge her to terminate the pregnancy as well. Regardless. This is one of the hardest decisions any mother will face. Abortions are haunting and painful, but leave the rest of your life open to the future. Adoption is hard emotionally, but you get to hand pick the family your child goes to and because (here in Canada at least) there is no such thing as a closed adoption anymore, you will get to see that child grow up and have a relationship with them. The children I know that are raised by adoptive parents are all well adjusted individuals who understand why their birth parents made the choice they did (especially in the case of teen pregnancy). One of these children is 16 now and spends two weeks in the summer with his birth mom, as well as several weekends throughout the year. They have a great relationship. Keeping the child is no easier an option. It's financially and emotionally difficult and until you adjust to your new responsibilities it will be hard on the entire family unit. But, you will adjust, eventually. All three are good choices in their own rights. One thing I know is that only you can make the choice (and I'm pretty sure at least one of these options is heavy on your mind--most likely the choice you'll make even after days of deliberation) and that things have a funny way of working out exactly how they're supposed to. Xxoo

I didn't feel that way really. But you gave me an idea maybe therapy can help with this new responsibility. It just seems impossible to adjust to as I'm barely managing with the kids I have. Monetarily I'm ok with financing the abortion really.... I guess I have to go through a few bad moments in order to be ok again. I guess I can accept that...

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Do you think that I do not know? Mmmm.... I guess you know what I have been through. I have placed a kid for adoption AND gone through an abortion. I am not swaying her one way or the other.

Quoting teenmomof3tobe:" I didn't feel that way really. But you gave me an idea maybe therapy can help with this new responsibility. ... [snip!] ... the abortion really.... I guess I have to go through a few bad moments in order to be ok again. I guess I can accept that..."

Again whatever you decide everything will be ok in the long run. Yes therapy can be a GREAT thing. Do what you want to do.

well I guess this is it I'm getting an abortion made the appointment and all. I'm ready to get back on track I think. Thanks guys for all your helpful replies

tried going I don't like this clinic maybe the other one's better

also I think I'm mcing I've never spotted this much in either pregnancy maybe I won't have to who knows I guess...

Best of luck. This too shall pass <3

<blockquote><b>Quoting teenmomof3tobe:</b>" also I think I'm mcing I've never spotted this much in either pregnancy maybe I won't have to who knows I guess..."</blockquote>




is there any way that you can go to the er? and that is good that you found an abortion clinic that you like. :-)

well I decided not to wait for the other clinic and just went ahead with it a surgical at the orignial place I didn't really like yesterday. So it's over. Which I feel like a failure. Physically I'm ok mentally just feel the same anger I've had efore when I was still pregnant. I wish I'd have kept him. And I even had a dream yesterday of the baby. I can't believe I actually went through with it. I don't really feel any better than him. I'll forever think of if I had decided to keep him. I should have cared about him as much as my sons that are older.

Quoting teenmomof3tobe:" well I decided not to wait for the other clinic and just went ahead with it a surgical at the orignial ... [snip!] ... than him. I'll forever think of if I had decided to keep him. I should have cared about him as much as my sons that are older."

Im sorry honey. I hope things get better. Like Kelly said, therapy can do you wonders. <3

Quoting teenmomof3tobe:" well I decided not to wait for the other clinic and just went ahead with it a surgical at the orignial ... [snip!] ... than him. I'll forever think of if I had decided to keep him. I should have cared about him as much as my sons that are older."

We make choices in our lives for a reason. Whatever choice worked best for you, you did the right thing.

yea I know it was for the best I just wish he'd have made it different then I'd not have had to make that choice. But what's done is done. I want to make the best of my future that's mainly my focus.