custody question

My BD and I just recently broke up and I'm thinking about filing for child support just because he has bought her 1 thing since we found out about her ( she's 2 months old ). But he lives in Florida right now and I live in Texas. My question is with her being so young, what are the chances the judge allowing him to have visitation to take her all the way to Florida? He's in college and staying in a dorm.

His COLLEGE probably would not allow him to have her over night. That'd be a major safety issue.

Otherwise, I'm not sure, but good luck.

does he have a job? have you asked him for money? is he on the BC?

CS and visitation are separate, but he will likely be granted some form of visitation when you go to court.

her being two months i seriously doubt he'll get any kind of visitation unless you are willing to tak her down there. child support and visitation are two different things so he may still have to pay you and not get to see her unless hes got a good lawyer or moves out of the dorms and pushes for it.

Quoting Amberchik78:" does he have a job? have you asked him for money? is he on the BC? CS and visitation are separate, but he will likely be granted some form of visitation when you go to court."

No. Yes. & Yes.

Was the child conceived in your state or his? Usually that does matter.
I have a friend who has to send her child states away to her fathers state (child was conceived there).. for 3 months at a time. She's been doing this since the baby was 6 months old....

Quoting Paislee's mommy. ♥:" No. Yes. & Yes."

well, if he doesn't have a job then you can go for CS but it's not like he has any money to give you. they're not going to make his parents pay it, and student loans wont cover such a thing.

Quoting ma ♥:" Was the child conceived in your state or his? Usually that does matter. I have a friend who has to send ... [snip!] ... fathers state (child was conceived there).. for 3 months at a time. She's been doing this since the baby was 6 months old...."

my state.

Quoting Amberchik78:" well, if he doesn't have a job then you can go for CS but it's not like he has any money to give you. they're not going to make his parents pay it, and student loans wont cover such a thing."

If he had a job , he still wouldn't willingly give me money. Never has even when he had one.

There is NO way any judge in Texas is going to allow a 2 month old baby across state lines. A judge will allow him visitation but only while he is in Texas. Also, because he is in college and lives in a dorm if he has her living there for any period of time he could get kicked out because it's a health risk for the baby.

Quoting Paislee's mommy. ♥:" my state."

Well you never know... once you go to court, it's up to a judge. It's no longer up to you or the father.
Keep that in mind...

That is the biggest reason I never asked my sons father for any kind of support. I was not willing to give him any visitation/custody. I'd rather handle it all financially & know my child is safe 24/7... because even though child support & custody are two separate cases, they do somewhat go hand-in-hand..

Quoting ma ♥:" Well you never know... once you go to court, it's up to a judge. It's no longer up to you or the father. ... [snip!] ... is safe 24/7... because even though child support & custody are two separate cases, they do somewhat go hand-in-hand.."

I'm just worried that he'll run off with her while he has her one night and there be nothing I can do about it.

Quoting Sarah's Mommy:" There is NO way any judge in Texas is going to allow a 2 month old baby across state lines. A judge will ... [snip!] ... in a dorm if he has her living there for any period of time he could get kicked out because it's a health risk for the baby."

Thats what a lawyer told my friend. He also said that there was a law saying they couldn't take them overnight if you were never married until they are 3 but I can't find nothing on it.

Quoting Paislee's mommy. ♥:" I'm just worried that he'll run off with her while he has her one night and there be nothing I can do about it."

Well that could happen whether you go to court or not... but if you go to court, you'll have set times/days/weeks/months that you should have the child & set times that he should have the child. & If either of you don't follow it, there will be consequences.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Paislee's mommy. ♥:</b>" I'm just worried that he'll run off with her while he has her one night and there be nothing I can do about it."</blockquote>



There wouldnt be anything you could do. She is his child too.