kicking& punching.

not to sure how to go about this. my husband has a neice that is 4years old. but she isnt a normal 4yr old. she dont listen doesnt get displant(sp). or anything she basically runs the house. ok we was over there tonight letting my 17month old son see his grandparents. no problem. well the little girl kicked me. i said okay that wasnt nice lets not do it again. and i started playing with my son and she just halls off and punch me in my stomach. (now her grandpa was sitting right there and all he said was "hername" dont hit her she is pregnant && she kept doing it. than she stopped and we walked around the house. her gpa was up on the roof (bc the man that is coming out to fix it was out to talk) and she starts punching and kicking me again. now ive asked her to stop and she starts to do the same thing to my son. so i went into the house and told my husband, all he did was tell her to come in the house and his mom said she couldnt come back out. now, to me that isnt good enough bc thats not making her learn that what she did was wrong. so i said something to my husband on the way home that it bothered me that she is doing this. (note she did it to me when i was pregnant with my first one as well) my husband said just ingore it and she would stop. HELLO im pregnant with your son. and her doing this could hurt him.. but seems to you it dont matter...ANYWAYS how do i go about it with out being a bitch and saying my son isnt allowed over there?

Personally, I'd probably just tell her that hitting and kicking you isn't nice and you don't like it. Ask her to stop. If she doesn't, let her know that you and your LO won't be able to come visit her if she can't be nice. And if she continues, then don't go over there.

Also, redirection. When my son hits, I tell him that that's not nice and we don't like it and we like giving/getting hugs instead. Then I'll give him a huge hug and find something fun to do.

Quoting Rain (aka Mama):" Personally, I'd probably just tell her that hitting and kicking you isn't nice and you don't like it. ... [snip!] ... nice and we don't like it and we like giving/getting hugs instead. Then I'll give him a huge hug and find something fun to do."

we do that, we tell her it isnt nice to punch and hit and that stuff. and she gets spanked but laughs about it and says hahah you didnt hurt me. i mean she is out of control she is 4 and weighs 91lbs and you cant do nothing with her. and we cant do nothing like spank her or anything bc her gparents dont so whats the point,.

You have a seriously rough situation!! You may have to come across as a bitch. People don't like to hear that their children are misbehaving and would rather blame the messenger then the child. You MUST protect your LO and unborn baby!! When I was pregnant with my second, my nephew (also 4 at the time) was acting up and I picked him up, he kicked me in the stomach and I walked in and dropped him on his parent's bed and said, "You don't do that!" He of course ran to his mother crying, my SIL made him apologize and then sat there while he kicked and hit her because he was embarrassed/mad. He has never touched me again though.