am I broken? (orgasm question)

i feel like a freak of nature.

im 30 years old and never had an orgasm. i have tried everything. i have had experienced partners, ive tried doing it myself - nothing.

it feels good for a while, even gets to the point where it feels really good, then it just stops aburptly. i have no idea why! its like it all of a sudden isnt sensitive anymore and you might as well be playing with my arm instead of my clit.

whats wrong with me? anyone else like this? i'd give anything for an orgasm.

i have no desire for sex (probably because i get no physical pleasure from it - even though i love the connected feeling with my husband). i enjoy it when its happening, but its not something i crave. ive faked orgasms with previous boyfriends, but not with my husband. we both just accept that its not going to happen.

im embarassed to go to my young new doctor (my ancient one finally retired) and blurt out "ive never had an orgasm".

Sounds like you are trying too hard or concentrating too hard. I know if i am concentrating too hard it will take longer. Or maybe your mind in wandering and you dont realize it. Have you tried using vibrators? Try some sex toys.

the lack of libido and the fact youve never reached orgasm makes me thing you may have a medical issue
which isnt uncommon,just bring it up to the dr and they should be able to help you out

Quoting Jays*Mama:" Sounds like you are trying too hard or concentrating too hard. I know if i am concentrating too hard ... [snip!] ... will take longer. Or maybe your mind in wandering and you dont realize it. Have you tried using vibrators? Try some sex toys."

i dont think i overanalyze it to be honest. i barely think about it anymore but lately its been bothering me.

ive used dildos and vibrators but have the same reaction. it feels really good until it stops.

im so frustrated.

Quoting BG Secrets:" i dont think i overanalyze it to be honest. i barely think about it anymore but lately its been bothering ... [snip!] ... me. ive used dildos and vibrators but have the same reaction. it feels really good until it stops. im so frustrated."

A vibrator should definately help, but if thats not working then id say possibly medical issue also.

Sounds like something psychological going on. Try seeing a professional.

Quoting PeanutButter[WAL]:" the lack of libido and the fact youve never reached orgasm makes me thing you may have a medical issue which isnt uncommon,just bring it up to the dr and they should be able to help you out"

what kind of medical problem? like a hormone issue? i was on bc for 10 years (16-26). i started bc before i started messing around and having sex. once my husband and i were married i went off and hoped that it would miraculously fix itself but nope.

Quoting BG Secrets:" what kind of medical problem? like a hormone issue? i was on bc for 10 years (16-26). i started bc before ... [snip!] ... around and having sex. once my husband and i were married i went off and hoped that it would miraculously fix itself but nope."

it could be a hormone issue
http://www.centerforfemalesexuality.com/libido.htm

Quoting Devil's Advocate:" Sounds like something psychological going on. Try seeing a professional."

what kind of professional? im open to anything.

i have a clean past - good childhood, normal teenage years, no hard drugs or addictions. i dont think sex is dirty or disgusting.

i just dont get it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting BG Secrets:</b>" i dont think i overanalyze it to be honest. i barely think about it anymore but lately its been bothering ... [snip!] ... me. ive used dildos and vibrators but have the same reaction. it feels really good until it stops. im so frustrated."</blockquote>




Have you tried anal sex? Just curious if you have. I had a coworker who said his wife could only reach orgasm from anal. May be worth exploring? I would be pissed too! Are you on birth control or anti depressants? Any bad sexual experiences even ones you are suppressing? I also think to much direct pressure on the clit isn't always a good thing. Have you tried foreplay? Like without stimulation of your vagina? Like even reading good sex stories? I know you have tried a lOt just thinking outloud!   goodluck

this is also weird - until i started breastfeeding my oldest, i never had feeling in my nipples. boyfriends would play with them and i couldnt feel it. it has since changed, but havent been able to get much nipple play, as it results in me spraying milk, lol.

no anal. ive always had hemmeriods. they're not always bulging, but im afraid that will cause major problems. id like to give it a shot, but afraid of really hurting myself.

You need to relax and not think about it.. Have you tried different types of vibrators?

Try a sex therapist. They will probably check for hormonal imbalances.

Quoting hαmmers♣inc.:" You need to relax and not think about it.. Have you tried different types of vibrators?"

i didnt know there was different kinds. ive had ones with different speeds, and ive had a dildo (but inserting doesnt do it for me, its the vibration)

<blockquote><b>Quoting BG Secrets:</b>" this is also weird - until i started breastfeeding my oldest, i never had feeling in my nipples. boyfriends ... [snip!] ... always bulging, but im afraid that will cause major problems. id like to give it a shot, but afraid of really hurting myself."</blockquote>



I have some from childbirth and i still do it! Use a lot of lube. I even read from some people use hair conditioner and relax. Stimulate ur clit but not vigoursly while ur doing it and see what happens! Sex is meant to be fun not scary so try. If you concerned as your ob or medical doc if it's ok to try!