i want to say i love you but im terrified

i have been dating a new guy for sometime now, after breaking up with my ex (my daughters dad) we were together 7 years, he cheated on me twice and left me alone for a whole year in a state where i had nobody but him( he had his family, i moved their to be with him) anyways we broke up he went to jail for domestic violence (long story) and now i am with this new guy and he is everything i ever dreamed of in a man, polite, kind incredibly smart ( is studying to be a computer engineer....we both go to college .he helps me study math since he likes math and supports me in everything i do. he is always planning things for us (my daughter and i) to do on the weekends. we just go back from the zoo. the other day the words I LOVE YOU almost Slipped out of my mouth but i am just so scared of him changing and hurting me like my last love did. today the urge to tell him i loved him kept lingering around every time he hugged me and kissed me. i don't know what to do i want to say it but i am so scared....i am afraid that once i say it he will back off and begin to be a douche idk  

WE TOOK THIS ONE TODAY
HIKING LAST WEEKEND

every time i am with him i feel amazing and soo happy

try not to compare this relationship to the last one. it will only complicate things. he seems like an awesome guy with a good head on his shoulders and you guys look genuinely happy together. trust him. trust you. if you love him, tell him. he obviously loves you  

Quoting lindsayraye:" try not to compare this relationship to the last one. it will only complicate things. he seems like an ... [snip!] ... and you guys look genuinely happy together. trust him. trust you. if you love him, tell him. he obviously loves you  "

 

Aww!

Quoting lindsayraye:" try not to compare this relationship to the last one. it will only complicate things. he seems like an ... [snip!] ... and you guys look genuinely happy together. trust him. trust you. if you love him, tell him. he obviously loves you  "

thank you so much  
he is incredibly amazing and so supportive i feel bad for him because when he told me i was to scared to say it back

f it pops out, then it's meant to be. i said it to my bf about a week into dating because i felt it. i told him i didn't care if he said it back, didn't really want/expect him to anyway, and it didn't matter because it was what i felt and it still is. good luck to you and him!

Quoting MommaNoodle:" f it pops out, then it's meant to be. i said it to my bf about a week into dating because i felt it. ... [snip!] ... really want/expect him to anyway, and it didn't matter because it was what i felt and it still is. good luck to you and him!"

thanks ^_^ yea i was a little embarrassed when i said it lol

I had a very bad long relationship with my x... If I learned anything from my own situation is that new relationships deserve a clean slate. I gave that to my now husband and couldn't be happier. It was hard, but the way I looked at it was like, never letting my x make another impact on my life. I didn't let anything from him linger, no negative energy, etc... don't let your x still have any bit of control over you, or ruin any future enjoyment life has to offer! Give your guy your trust unless he himself does something to impair that. He deserves it.

Quoting xJazx:" I had a very bad long relationship with my x... If I learned anything from my own situation is that new ... [snip!] ... future enjoyment life has to offer! Give your guy your trust unless he himself does something to impair that. He deserves it."

awww thank you so much you are sooo right

i totally know what u mean. when i 1st got with my husband i was always comparing him to my violent ex and it just complicated things bc he was nothing like that a -hole. start fresh, ur new guy seems like a keeper. and if he does turn his back on u he didnt deserve u guys in the 1st place. rather it be now and not further down the road when u and ur daughter will be even more attached.