re: Difference between a mother's love and fathers love

I have no doubt in my mind that my sons father loves him just as much as I do.


Our son was born with cancer, we thought we were going to lose him. We went through the most horrible time ever in his first two years. Im sure we would have loved him just as much if we didnt go through this...but this experience made us face something no parent should ever have to face.

In my case I think DH and I love our daughter the same. We would both do anything for her. However, I think DH and DD have a stronger bond then I do with DD.

Quoting lifeslovely:" do you think a father loves his kids as much as a mother loves his kids? in my opinion I believe a ... [snip!] ... kids and would die for them. Dads love their kids as much but on a different level. im just curious to what people think..."

Does this mean a mother who adopts her child or who uses a gestational carrier won't love her child as much as if she carried herself?

Lots of factors come into play, and I believe a mothers love is totally different from a fathers, but I think in general women form deeper bonds with children they care for.

a stronger bond does not mean less love...I think fathers are completely capable of loving their children just as much as mothers

I believe a father's love can be just as strong as a mother's. Some may be on different levels, but it can still be there. DH loves our kids just as much as I do and most definitely shows it!

My husband loves our son just as much as i do, i can see it in eyes when he is playing with him. I think maybe the bond between a mom and child is stronger just because she carried the child throughout pregnancy, and shes the one breastfeeding and bonding more usually. I know my husband would put my son before me any day if he needed to. Our love is the same for our son.

Quoting October Rust:" I believe a father's love can be just as strong as a mother's. Some may be on different levels, but it can still be there. DH loves our kids just as much as I do and most definitely shows it!"

Llama!  

Quoting Bethy-llamas:" Llama!   "

Took me awhile, but I found me a llama!  

Quoting October Rust:" Took me awhile, but I found me a llama!  "

Emo llama.  

Quoting Bethy-llamas:" Emo llama.  "

Lol it's supposed to be a goth llama  

Quoting October Rust:" Lol it's supposed to be a goth llama  "

Makes sense. For it to be emo it would have to be frowning, but have shaggy hair and pink and purple skulls on it somewhere.

I love my kids more than anybody in this world. It's unconditional, unbreakable love.

Doesn't matter if it's a mother or a father. It's depends on the person.

DS's egg donor gave him up and never looked back unless she wanted to show off pictures of him. There are plenty of moms that do the same thing, but we don't hear about that as much as we do with deadbeat dads.

Personally,

I have a stronger bond with my daughter. It goes all the way back to when I first found out I was pregnant. I put my foot down to raise her on my OWN if I had to do it. My pregnancy was so hard. I was depressed a lot because my relationship with my boyfriend was rocky and I just felt so lost. But, everytime I felt my daughter kick was just a reminder that I was not alone! I knew I was going to be extremely close with my daughter and indeed I am. My boyfriend loves her unconditionally. He's an awesome father!

I must say that he's not as close to her as I am. When I first had my daughter he was gone all day, literally. He had work 8-5 then school 6-10. It was extremely hard but he was never really able to grow a strong bond. She loves her daddy! She definetely knows who he is and gets excited to see him but she always reaches for mommy. When she is sick or just wants to be held she always comes to me. I can tell it upsets my boyfriend at times and you know, of course his feelings are hurt but I can't help that.

I always knew I was going to be stuck like glue to my daughter from the moment I found out I was pregnant. My boyfriend even told me himself that it's obvious that I have a greater bond with our daughter. But, that does not mean he loves her any less just because he's not as close to her as I am. It's just different in some cases.

Sexist? I don't think so. It depends on each situation. Both parents can have a equal bond, one may be stronger than the other or what not.