has anyone been married when they had their termination. How

I'm 28 and 7 weeks pregnant. When I first found out I kind was positive I thought it was a good start. As my dh and I have been together 4 years 2 of those married. I have a demanding career as he does. He on the other hand felt we could give our future kids better if we waited eventually I have come to terms that it is best we wait. As we're pretty young now. I still have things I should do before having a child. So I've decided to have a medical abortion tomorrow and am ok with it but this has created stress and a lot of undesireable feelings between us I haven't argued this much ever with him. I was wondering afterwards how bad was it for others personally and relationshipwise???

So he's not okay with an abortion?

Abortion at 28 weeks are you even allowed?

Quoting MommieOfFive:" Abortion at 28 weeks are you even allowed?"

She's 7 weeks. She's 28 years old.

Quoting MommieOfFive:" Abortion at 28 weeks are you even allowed?"

i think she means she's 28 years old, and 7 weeks pregnant.

Quoting MommieOfFive:" Abortion at 28 weeks are you even allowed?"

She's 28 years old. 7 weeks pregnant.

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommieOfFive:</b>" Abortion at 28 weeks are you even allowed?"</blockquote>




She's 28 years old and 7 weeks along.

Quoting Squid Kid:" So he's not okay with an abortion?"

  Is he not on board with the abortion or were YOU the one who reluctantly agreed to an abortion?

If both of you aren't on the same page for the abortion it can cause a lot of tension between you two. Maybe you could look into counseling for the two of you to move past this together.

As long as he knows what you are doing, and you both are okay with it then the relationship should be okay. I think communication is key in situations such as these, especially when you are worried about the relationship afterwards. Good luck.

Oh I must of read it wrong sorry! Well in that case I had an abortion with my first pregnancy with my SO and he was very upset and hated me for a long time but once I got pregnant with our daughter he stopped being so cruel. It did put a lot of strain on our relationship and we ended up breaking up for a while.

Quoting RayneNAutumn's Mama:"   Is he not on board with the abortion or were YOU the one who reluctantly agreed to an abortion?"

 

<blockquote><b>Quoting 28andmarried:</b>" I'm 28 and 7 weeks pregnant. When I first found out I kind was positive I thought it was a good start. ... [snip!] ... haven't argued this much ever with him. I was wondering afterwards how bad was it for others personally and relationshipwise???"</blockquote>

It doesn't sound like you really want to go through with the abortion. Does he know this? I imagine that the arguing and tension stems from the fact that you are doing something that you don't really want to do ( I'm assuming this is the case based on how you worded the OP.) If you haven't already, take time to talk it out, and make sure he knows how you feel. You may still decde to move forward with the procedure, but at least you'd REALLY be on the same page about it. From the way you worded this, I get the feeling that you don't want to terminate the pregnancy, but I could be wrong/ misinterpreting.

If your husband doesn't agree with you having an abortion it can cause resentment and problems within your relationship. I would sit down and talk with him about it again, just to be 100% sure in your decision.

<blockquote><b>Quoting #3 is on the way!:</b>" If your husband doesn't agree with you having an abortion it can cause resentment and problems within ... [snip!] ... problems within your relationship. I would sit down and talk with him about it again, just to be 100% sure in your decision."</blockquote>


I read it differently. Sounds to me like he thinks they should wait to have kids, and terminate the current pregnancy.