Quoting Mrs.Dani:" Not sure if I should post this in here... But I feel kind of bad for L(peace sign)J... I don't want to ... [snip!] ... out last night, and maybe just over-reacted. I always liked the advice she had given me. Kinda sad to see Herr gone now."
I have nothing against her and feel bad too that she took things so personal. But she did say some pretty mean things about people in the thread. It's up to her whether she's big enough to apologize for that if she even wants to come back to the group. I always feel sorry for people who see the negative things around them instead of the positive. She was obviously interpreting her post not being answered as a sign that people were purposely ignoring her or not wanting to help her instead of considering that maybe the post was over-seen, or no one knew the answer, or no one had time to give the answer. And she obviously didn't think of the times that people have taken the time to answer her question and given her support. The sad thing is that she will probably feel the same way in whichever group she goes to because the problem is her attitude and not the people around her.
I heard a story once many years ago and it is so true.
An old man was sitting on a bridge leading into a town. A young man came along and asked him what the town was like. Were the people friendly or mean. He asked the young man what the people were like from the town he just came from. The young man said they were so friendly and so much fun. He loved being with them and was going to miss them now that he was moving on. The old man told him he would find the people in this town to be the same.
Awhile later another young man came and asked the old man the same question. When asked how the people were in the town he just came from, he answered, "they were horrible! They were stingy and mean and never helped anyone!" The old man said he would find the people in this town to be the same.
Long story short, no matter where you go in life, if you have the attitude that you are unloved and people like others better than you and that they pick on you, you will experience this over and over and over again. No matter where you go.
If you have the attitude that you have what to offer others and that others like you and support you, you will find that over and over again. No matter where you go.
I really hope she will eventually see that and be able to change her attitude.