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Nah girl, that is all kinds of messed up. I couldn't be with a controlling smurf like that

It's borderline abuse

Sorry sweetie   idk why he'd be mad that you were getting ideas for a nice night with him   maybe he's under a lot I stress? And with the nosiness, usually people who have a guilty conscious about what they did or do are the ones to be extra sensitive about what you're doing.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Justine's Mama:</b>" So last night, I gave my SO a massage, took a bath with him & gave him a really good sexy time. He ... [snip!] ... trying to pass hours away. Yeah super pointless post I know I just feel like smurf today & wish I had a job so bad  "</blockquote>


Well I don't know what to say but why is he so insecure what is he upto we are 2 days away in our due dates so what does he think you are doing with a baby bump like that I would check into his activites

Honestly, I would not put up with that smurf. DH has major trust issues from his last relationship, and it got to the point where he was up my ass about everything I did and everyone I talked to. Finally I snapped and told him he needed to stop treating me like I'm that dumb bitch and going to cheat on you with anybody with a dick because I'M NOT HER. You've got to make it clear that that smurf ain't gonna fly, because he'll just treat you how you allow him to treat you.

Yeah it is really annoying, its getting on my nerves. And then it just put me in a bad sad mood today. Every time I fall asleep he goes through my phone reads every conversation and everything. I tell him to stop that I am just talking with friends he doesn't need to know everything I say. I think it is insecurity's because he is a cheater. He dirty dogged his ex of 4 years bad and I think because he knows what he is capable of doing he worry's about it being done to him.

Quoting Justine's Mama:" Yeah it is really annoying, its getting on my nerves. And then it just put me in a bad sad mood today. ... [snip!] ... dogged his ex of 4 years bad and I think because he knows what he is capable of doing he worry's about it being done to him."

Or he is cheating and has a majorly guilty concious.

Really, don't be blind. I wouldn't tolerate anyone going throughm y phone to read every single message.

He was in a relationship for 4 years before me and he cheated on her all the time like it was nothing to him. And now with me he has matured after being single for 2 years so he says and is trying to be faithful and stuff. But I believe he worry's that it will be done to him. I have made it clear that I do not cheat, I never have cheated on anybody it is just not me. And yet he treats me like I am a cheater or he has something to worry about. Obviously he does not trust me for some reason which is stupid. Because I caught him trying to cheat on me in his Gmail account because it automatically was logged into his instead of mine and I saw things so I read it. Yet I still don't go looking through his phone or his FB nothing. He gives me reasons to be like that, I give him no reason to be like that towards me I don't get it. I have told him a few times before that its ridiculous but it still doesn't stop. I was asleep on the couch and he is sitting there right in front of me going through my phone & the computer history like really if I woke up saw him doing that I would be like wtf are you doing are you serious.

Quoting Justine's Mama:" He was in a relationship for 4 years before me and he cheated on her all the time like it was nothing ... [snip!] ... & the computer history like really if I woke up saw him doing that I would be like wtf are you doing are you serious. "

You're pretty blind there girl.

He has a history of being a cheater, never felt guilty about it, says what you wanna hear, tried to cheat on you in the past (probably did cheat), and now tries to control everything you do....

How many more red flags do you need?

Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" Or he is cheating and has a majorly guilty concious. Really, don't be blind. I wouldn't tolerate anyone going throughm y phone to read every single message. "

I know it makes me wonder if maybe he did cheat on me that time I saw things and he is insecure now. He did tell me he thinks that because I saw him trying to smurf other girls that I was going to go smurf someone else to get back at him. But really were in our 20's that's kid smurf. That is not something I would do. I simply told him that was his only chance to smurf up and one more thing I am out of the picture. But It just makes no sense why he acts like that. I know he can't really cheat on me now though we live together, and he doesn't drive. I drop him at work and pick him up he works with all guys and basically there is no way for it to happen. Before he was living at his brothers and I was 2 hours north so that's why he attempted to try. Because I would never known.

Quoting Justine's Mama:" I know it makes me wonder if maybe he did cheat on me that time I saw things and he is insecure now. ... [snip!] ... Before he was living at his brothers and I was 2 hours north so that's why he attempted to try. Because I would never known."

That's pretty scary. he was going to chet on you becasue he COULD. He has no respect for you

He'd probably cheat on you again if he thought he wouldn't get caught.

Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" You're pretty blind there girl. He has a history of being a cheater, never felt guilty about it, ... [snip!] ... on you in the past (probably did cheat), and now tries to control everything you do.... How many more red flags do you need?"

I know I sometimes wonder. When I met him he got drunk and told me how he cheated on her all those times. I was going to end our relationship right there because I though jeez why would I be any different. He moved 2 hours south for work and was posting on craigslist trying to smurf girls in the area, craigslist was sending confirmation posts to his Email that's how I found out. He swears he didn't cheat but admits that he did post that. He says he wouldn't have done anything anyways I believe he would if the girls would have went and picked him up. I believe girls were to scared to actually meet a guy of craigslist and pick him up. But I don't know, maybe a girl did go pick him up and he did cheat. After a week I decided to just give him a chance and that if anything happen again I would leave. But all this snooping and everything has me thinking.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly&Coralie:</b>" You're pretty blind there girl. He has a history of being a cheater, never felt guilty about it, ... [snip!] ... on you in the past (probably did cheat), and now tries to control everything you do.... How many more red flags do you need?"</blockquote>




I agree with Kelly and coralline I just didn't want to come right out and say what she did but you need to check your man

Quoting Justine's Mama:" I know I sometimes wonder. When I met him he got drunk and told me how he cheated on her all those times. ... [snip!] ... just give him a chance and that if anything happen again I would leave. But all this snooping and everything has me thinking."

I hope you get it all figured out.

Quoting Mrs cree:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly&Coralie:</b>" You're pretty blind there girl. He ... [snip!] ... I agree with Kelly and coralline I just didn't want to come right out and say what she did but you need to check your man"

No its okay to give your opinion I actually appreciate it. I just feel lost on what to do. He knows I will pack my smurf and leave if he ever admitted to cheating on me. and he will be screwed if I leave him because the apt is in my name and he wouldn't have a place to live or a way to work. So he would never admit to cheating on me. He also knows that yes I know he attempted to cheat but he knows there is no way for me to know if he actually did cheat on me or not. I just know that he tried to but honestly I still take it as he is wrong and has cheated he tried I don't care if he didn't cheat or he did. To me he still did me wrong.