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Quoting Proud mom & USMC wife:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I♥MyTots:</b>" My heart aches for you.  "</blockquote> "/ that makes me sad"

why does that make you sad?

Quoting Proud mom & USMC wife:" If u worked it out how did u do that?? How long did it take u to be OK again?? I'm just not coping with ... [snip!] ... right now but I did just Ind out today. Or those who left did u have kids an were u married and why didn't u try n wok it out?"

Still in process. It still sucks.

My husband cheated on me three weeks ago I found out when my nurse called to tell me I had two stds. I was devastated. We are still together and working on stuff. Since it was only one time I decided to stay. I told him if it ever happens again I will leave. I love him to much to leave after just one mistake. I've made those mistakes before in previous relationships. It will take time and hard work but I'm sure we can get through this. Everyone is different though and situations are different. I'm not sure if he cheated on u more than once or if it was just a one time thing. I would say go with what you truly believe will make you happy if you think you will never be able to forgive him and get past it I would say just leave. I know that I can get past a one time thing and won't continually punish him for it. He is doing all the punishing himself.

Quoting Proud mom & USMC wife:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Addi's Momma:</b>" My ex cheated on me pretty much the entire ... [snip!] ... and didn't deny not pulling out and passed me an std and I'm pregnant and got really sick from the meds I had to take today"

Then your answer is simple you don't need him. He shows no regard in possibly getting her pregnant, and getting an std.

I really don't understand women whos husband cheats multiple times, gives you and std and you actually stay with him. Why i don't believe once a cheater always a cheater, in those cases the person will pretty much always cheat again, as they have shown to think little of you, and have no regard for you or your health.

i was with my ex for 7 years and he is the father of my daughter but he cheated on me when she turned two with two different girls, it killed me. i forgave him and got back but then i found out he was sneaking out to the strip clubs behind my back when he told me he was only going out to play pool with his friends. plus he was flirting a lot with one of the strippers which i met at a friends house and he didint tell me she was a stripper who he would go off at nights to go stare at naked and smu*f. and other things i found out..not sexual contact but he was going back to his old ways so i decided to break it off for good. im in college about to be in nursing program and have met a wonderful loving and caring very intelligent handsome man who treats me like i never thought id ever be treated...im happier than i ever was

Quoting MysticWitchKat:" I really don't understand women whos husband cheats multiple times, gives you and std and you actually ... [snip!] ... will pretty much always cheat again, as they have shown to think little of you, and have no regard for you or your health."

OP's husband only cheated on her once.

My ex and I were together for 6 years. The first time I found out that he cheated was when I was 3 months pregnant with our first child (about a year into our relationship and it was with one of my co workers). I slowly found out the truth about everyone he had cheated with but didn't find out the whole truth until a year after we had split up. I stayed because of our kids and I loved him so much and wanted to do anything in my power to make things work. I wanted my family. But I slowly started to hate him so much and i resented him. I wouldn't look at him or sit by him on the couch. I REFUSED to have sex with him because he disgusted me. He was also emotionally, mentally, and physically abusive though. My final straw was when he tried having sex with my friend in our home right in front of me. Like they were trying to get me to leave or go take a nap so that they could be alone.

In my opinion, it takes a lot to be able to forgive someone for cheating but (in my case) I could never forget it. It's such a huge break of trust. It'll be in the back of your mind and it's hard to live like that. Always wondering " I wonder if he is really where he says he is" kinda thing. I wish you all the best though. Maybe counseling or sitting down and really having a heart to heart with your husband is a good idea.

<blockquote><b>Quoting I♥MyTots:</b>" OP's husband only cheated on her once."</blockquote>

Yeah it was only one time. That I know of anyway. To me the std isn't he make it or break it. He cheated on me that's what hurts me. Yes I'm pissed I got it of course but people end marriages so fast now days. I believe in trying to wok it out if u can. Got me flowers and said a real apology the other day. We are just going to really need to WOR it through. I hope I can. I just can't stop thinking about it right now. I'm scared hell do it again but if he does we are done. I'm just going To take it one day at a time for now and see what happens

Quoting Proud mom & USMC wife:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I♥MyTots:</b>" OP's husband only cheated on her once."</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... scared hell do it again but if he does we are done. I'm just going To take it one day at a time for now and see what happens"

You're right, now a days, people dont take marriages seriously and they end it like it's just a relationship. My husband and I have been fighting to keep this marriage going for 3 years. There are days where i'm just like I don't even want to try and make it work and then there are days where i'm like I couldn't imagine being without him. I guess that's just apart of a marriage. I'm not sure what i'd do if my husband cheated on me, although, I know what i'd say i'd do, i'd say i'd leave him but is that really what i'd do? I'm not sure. I mean i'd probably leave him and go stay at my moms but would I be done with him for good? Idk. Just take it one day a time girl. If you really think he's willing to change and he truly means that he's sorry then give it a shot. If he starts acting like he just doesn't care that he cheated on you, kick him to the curb. Good luck.

<blockquote><b>Quoting I♥MyTots:</b>" You're right, now a days, people dont take marriages seriously and they end it like it's just a relationship. ... [snip!] ... then give it a shot. If he starts acting like he just doesn't care that he cheated on you, kick him to the curb. Good luck."</blockquote>


I use to say that is leave him until it happened. Its very hard. I hope he really wants to try and I understands how hard its going to be for me. I just couldn't leave with know g I didn't try. I don't want to not take my marriage seriously. And I hate how girls especially you g marine girls no offense to anyone don't respect marriages. Just because we are you g doesn't mean he's not really married. I can't stand it. And thanks!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Proud mom & USMC wife:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting I♥MyTots:</b>" OP's husband only cheated on her once."</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... scared hell do it again but if he does we are done. I'm just going To take it one day at a time for now and see what happens"</blockquote>




Yeah it was the only time that he cheated on you that "you know if"...HE obviously didn't take your marriage seriously. I would've thrown those flowers as far as possible, told him to shove his apology up his ass, as far as possible because he's not sorry after what you first said. For me Leaving is what shows respect for yourself and your marriage. I'm worth more than a stupid apology and a bundle of flowers if you ask me. But then thats me. Good luck with him!