re: Considering an abortion and I need advice.

Quoting Mandy Schlatterer:" "

Again, read the rules. This is not allowed in this forum.

Quoting Mandy Schlatterer:"

You can not post pro life stuff in this thread. This is Abortion Survivors not Free For All.

I say you have to do what is best for you and your family. However, just remember as a mom we always find a way to make things work in any situation.
I am currently pregnant and got pregnant while my husband and I were separated and I considered abortion at first because I didn't know if my husband and I would get back together and if we did what kind of burden would this be. However, like your situation we were friends and I went and talked to him about it and we are working on things and are trying to cope with having another baby.
He encouraged me not to have an abortion because he knows how much I love children and believes that i would have blamed myself and go into a very depressed state.
I hope this helps you.

Maybe go on the abortion suport group here and read some of their stories. I've read a few and the way that they describe it and the way they feel after may help you in your decisions. Please remember it is a support group, so chose your words carefully.

Quoting Jaielyn Belong:" Maybe go on the abortion suport group here and read some of their stories. I've read a few and the way ... [snip!] ... the way they feel after may help you in your decisions. Please remember it is a support group, so chose your words carefully."

She did post in AS. So her words are protected.

If I were in that position I think I would get an abortion. It's hard enough to care for one child alone on an extremely fixed income of less than 1,000. I would rather have one child I can provide for than two I can't. Having an abortion doesn't mean you'll never have another baby, you can just have one at a better time in your life. Good luck and I hope you are able to choose what is best for you and your son.

I wish you the best. It's definitely not an easy way out.
I say make a pro and con list if you are unsure, so it's out on paper for you.
Good luck, I hope you can find peace in whichever decision you must make.

I copied the rules... you can be pro-life but both sides must respect the other's opinion and not argue about it.

first and foremost: this is a support forum not a political debate forum-- if you want to debate or rant for or against abortion-- please do so either in our debate & discuss forums or in the stickies provided in the pro-life thread or the pro-choice thread. (there will be text links to the stickys and d&d forum to send those people on their merry way)

the stories and feelings shared here are part of the life-altering struggle that many women encounter when faced w/ their inborn capacity to make life despite never having intended to do so.


We kindly ask that you adhere to the following rules:

1) Do not get personal. Please do not resort to name calling. We are here to share our stories and give support as we see fit. This is not a place to attack abortion survivors b/c you're angry at them. Take it to D & D, write a rant in kicking & screaming, yell at your computer, but please, respect the fact that this is a place for women to give support to those who've had to deal first-hand w/ abortion for whatever reason.

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Ultimately, you have to think realistically about you and your son's life and what it would mean if you had another child to care for and support on your own. I don't think there is anything wrong with abortion. I think it is often the best solution to the problem of an unwanted pregnancy and it can prevent families and individuals from falling into serious financial hardships. Good luck with your decision, I hope that things get better for you soon.

Quoting Jenna 2012:" I copied the rules... you can be pro-life but both sides must respect the other's opinion and not argue ... [snip!] ... to them in the forum and instead simply contact a Supermoderator or let us know about it in the moderator's discussion thread."

Yeah, what she told her was not supportive. It was guilt tripping her.

Quoting Jenna 2012:" I copied the rules... you can be pro-life but both sides must respect the other's opinion and not argue ... [snip!] ... to them in the forum and instead simply contact a Supermoderator or let us know about it in the moderator's discussion thread."

Don't start a rule debate in someone personal support thread, come on, have some tact.

Quoting Mrs. Yuma ❤:" So I have up until this point been against abortion to some extent but recently I have been thinking ... [snip!] ... and only make $600. Pluss the $200 in child support and I am worried about if I am going to be able to care for this baby."

make sure to research all your options so u dont feel cornered into terminating. Having 2 children means u will qualify for more child support and government resources. Foodstamps, wic , childcare vouchers, work placement programs, counseling, insurance , ect.....
get as much info as u can to make the most informed decision for your family. i have seen too many girls rush into terminating & then later regret it and say,''if only i had known there was help......i wouldve kept my baby"

Guys, remember what forum you're posting in. AS is protected so please keep things positive. She's looking for support.