My mind is half made up

Well for those of you who dont know I had a miscarriage 2 weeks ago. I lost my son at 29 weeks and 5 days. Over the last 2 weeks I have went through so many emotions, sadness, anger, hopeless , i even thought of suicide a few times. But i have had the help and support of some AMAZING baby gaga members and a few close friends and everyday it hurts still but im slowly able to get back to my life. So heres what i need advice with.... the doctor told me I can start ttc again in 8 weeks. But my question is that too soon? not pysically but mentally? Is having another baby that soon kinda like replacing the one i lost? Am i not giving enough time to grieve my lost son? I just want some opinions... thanks

its whatever you feel like you can handle.it may help you to move on. i think it would be a good idea.

I agree with happily expecting... If you can handle it then by all means = )

Did the doctors tell you why you lost your son?

if you dont mind what happened

i don't know your situation at all, because i've never talked to you. But I'm sorry for your loss, do they know why you miscarried so late in your pregnancy? It sounds so traumatic, I cannot imagine the pain you've endured.
my question though is, your profile says single..? so if you are, why would you be ttc if you're not in a stable relationship? I'm just going off of what i saw in your info real quick..that's why i'm asking.

ok i just read another post of yours..you didn't miscarry, he was stillborn? I'm so sorry.

I am so sorry for your loss, I pray you will heal and have a healthy baby next pregnancy!!!

Quoting blue eyes420:“ Well for those of you who dont know I had a miscarriage 2 weeks ago. I lost my son at 29 weeks and 5 ... [snip!] ... kinda like replacing the one i lost? Am i not giving enough time to grieve my lost son? I just want some opinions... thanks”

had had twins at 21 weeks 4 days and we tttc very soon after, i think if you feel ready then go for it but if you dont just see what happends, im so sorry for your loss

The only answer the doctors were able to give me was "stress" . His heart stopped beating. There were no other signs of any trouble. Yes i am single, and i was expecting my son with my ex of 3 years, his current gf is due any day now. I have a stable life without a man in it. I know that i need my ex to make a child but not to raise one. His family and mine are also very supportive. Ive only had sex with him and i intend on keeping it that way. I have no desire to be in a realationship with him or another man. I just want to have a child, Because where i am in my life I honestly know that i am ready.

i'm so sorry for your loss, i can't imagine what going through something like that had to be like. But, as far as ttc again, you have to do what YOU feel is best. But, if you were asking how I would most likely handle the situation, I would probably wait longer than 2 months, just so I could grieve and heal emotionally. But that's how I handle traumatic pain and I wouldn't want to feel like I was "replacing" him, because his memory deserves more than that IMO.

sometimes a loss like that .. one can get over with easily and try again.. but I lost a son at 23wks.. and then had a son 3yrs later and went thro Ppd so FREAKING bad that i was on prozac and zoloft.. and sometimes miscarriages exp in late pregnancy like that can just be natures way of taking care of something that could of easily happen'd at birth/ after birth.. never know soemtimes what causes these horrible things to happen. I would personally suggest to hold off a little bit.. I know you have that strong maternal urge to try again.. that something must be wrong with you .. or you might of done something that caused it.. Usual emotions. BUT just remember you DID WHAT you could.. and it was in someone higher hands. Let yourself have time to feel the emotions that you need to feel. Id hate to see such a sweet woman have to be medicated like iwas because i didnt morn properly the Dr said.. youd think 3yrs was long enough but obviously mentally i wasnt ready even tho i felt fine and handled the pregnancy just Dandy. Sooo sorry for your loss, Its hard and its gonna be hard for a while but take your TIME and handle it as long as you need to handle it to make sure YOUR ok.

i am very sorry that happened. actually, even physically, i would say that's too soon. i had a late miscarriage about ten years ago, and they told me to wait at least a year. everyone else i've heard they told them at least 6 months. emotionally...everybody's different. i went a bit crazy for a little while, and i don't think i'll ever fully recover from it. it's the worst pain i've ever felt, and i hope that i never have to go through it again. as for the replacement thing...i just got over the extreme urge to procreate a couple of years ago. i went for a really long time where i wanted a baby so bad, it was all i could think about...but even if you do conceive, thinking that you're trying to replace the lost child, a new child could never replace the other one. you'll always think about that child and even hurt from it now and then, but the new child will not replace the lost child. if you feel like you'd be unable to cope with a new pregnancy at this stage, then don't try, not until you're ready, and you're the only one who can say whether or not you're ready. i am very sorry for what you're going through, and i wish you all the luck in the world with whatever you decide.

Quoting blue eyes420:“ Well for those of you who dont know I had a miscarriage 2 weeks ago. I lost my son at 29 weeks and 5 ... [snip!] ... kinda like replacing the one i lost? Am i not giving enough time to grieve my lost son? I just want some opinions... thanks”

When I lost mine at 25.5 weeks (he died 3 weeks later) I immediatly wanted to ttc..and we did. Iam fertile mertile and expected to get preg. right away. Was I emotionally ready? NO WAY! I was an emotional wreck! But no one could tell me anything. After a yr. still no BFP. Then another year. I culdn't understand why? After the 3rd year..it happened. I was in a much better place at that time and realized, it was just the right time to happen. I truly believe miracles come from up above and he hands them when he is ready and knows YOU are ready.

Quoting blue eyes420:“ The only answer the doctors were able to give me was "stress" . His heart stopped beating. There were ... [snip!] ... with him or another man. I just want to have a child, Because where i am in my life I honestly know that i am ready.”

Iam really sorry for your loss! But wanted to add, you really shouldn't make any big decisions when you are emotionally unstable. Give it some time. I believe everything happens for a reason.

thank you all very much.