Abortion - WWYD?

So I'm on day 3 of my placebo in my birth control and still no period. So I voiced my slight concern to DH. I take my birth control every day at the same time so if I got pregnant it would be a 100% accident.

He said he thinks I should get an abortion because we can't handle another child. Emotionally or financially. I used to think I'd agree with him but the more I think about it, the more I think I just couldn't go through with it.
I'm pro-choice, but I don't think I could make that choice.

I know we couldn't handle another kid, but I just don't know if I could live with the guilt of doing something like that.
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Personally, I would get an abortion.
You have to do what's best for you.

I couldn't do it. I'm pro-choice but I know it's not something I'll ever do or even consider for myself. I'd find a way to make it work. But that's just me talking, ultimately it's your choice. Not your husband's, not mine, not anyone's but yours. You have to decide what you can live with.

Personally, I'm pro life. This is a question that could get a lot of panties in a knot lol

In this situation you have to do what's best for you and your family.

I personally would have an abortion if there were no way for me to keep the child. Adoption isn't something I'd be able to go through with.

I still stand by what I said in your previous thread. Don't stress yourself sick over something you may not need to stress over.

But if it does turn out that you are pregnant, do what you feel is the best decision for yourself and your family.

You have to do what's best in the situation... if you emotionally could not handle it, however, I personally in MY situation wouldn't. ONLY because the emotional guilt that can potentially come with it can bring a person to their knees... The guilt of losing a child in general is just... it's mindblowing. From someone who knows how that feels... you need to be able to handle knowing exactly what you're doing, if that makes sense. BUT If doing this is what is best, and you can handle it, then I think you should. But only if YOU agree with what your husband is saying.

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do what is best for you. personally i could not bring another child into this world knowing that i could not fully provide for it with out struggling.

i would test, sometimes with pills i get no period on my placebos, or it comes right when i need to start a new pack. i still start the new pack tho. you have to remember pills can throw your hormones out of whack so it could just be as simple as that.

I agree with you... I'm pro-choice, but for me, I don't think I could ever go through with an abortion. Although I guess you never really know until you're in that situation. That's a tough one. Good luck with whatever you decide!

Quoting Super Kame Vegeta:" So I'm on day 3 of my placebo in my birth control and still no period. So I voiced my slight concern ... [snip!] ... know we couldn't handle another kid, but I just don't know if I could live with the guilt of doing something like that. quote"

I wouldn't be able too either. My hubby and I actually wanted another baby but when I got pregnant we were no way financially stable but no way could I do something like that. Well we stuck it through, I have an amazing son and hubby has 2 jobs. He said he would get 5 jobs if he had too, he's just happy to have healthy and happy kids. Do what you feel is right, if you don't want to get an abortion then don't. I don't know your working situation but maybe 1 or both of you could get a job (or 2nd one) to try and help? I have been trying to sell unwanted things on Copious.com and there is ThredUp where you send your unwanted childrens clothes and they sell them for you and you make a profit off what they sell. There are ways to make a lil extra cash, it's not out of the question.

I'd do what I thought was best for my family

Quoting Super Kame Vegeta:" So I'm on day 3 of my placebo in my birth control and still no period. So I voiced my slight concern ... [snip!] ... know we couldn't handle another kid, but I just don't know if I could live with the guilt of doing something like that. quote"

Honestly, if I were in those shoes, I would have to choose abortion. Not that it is an easy decision to make at all but explain to your child why you are growing a baby in your tummy and it will never come home. That would be my worry.

My son was a "surprise". We were in now way ready for him. I had twin girls that I was trying to raise pretty much alone. His job was not what it had been in the past and I was not able to work. We made it work though. My son is now 2 and we are just fine. You always find a way to adjust if you choose that path.

That said, the thought of abortion did cross our minds. We discussed it in great length. It was just something that we weren't able to do. We struggled with infertility for YEARS before we were suprised and blessed with the twins. We always said we would take as many as god would give us. Well, we should have chose our words a little more carefully. lol Hubby wanted a boy and we did want a big family so we adjusted. All is fine now.

Moral of the story, do what suits your situation best. What you and your husband come up with together is what you should do. Don't discount his thoughts as you wouldn't want him to discount yours.

Good Luck!!!

Do what is best for you and your family.

If you physically don't think you could handle an abortion ((it takes some serious strength IMO)) then don't do it. After watching "I'm having their baby" I think that would be even harder to live with then an abortion.

It also depends whether you can REALLY deal with adding another family member or not.

Anyhow, save the worrying for after the test or you will just stress your period into stopping further. GL!

Quoting NevviesMom:" Personally, I'm pro life. This is a question that could get a lot of panties in a knot lol"

Well, you are in AS so........

Quoting NevviesMom:" Personally, I'm pro life. This is a question that could get a lot of panties in a knot lol"

  Oh grow up. It only gets panties in a knot if you act like an idiot. If abortion is what's right for her family, then that's what she should do. It's all about what's right for her family.