Relationship suffering Post-Partum.

Before I got pregnant with Kylie, Josh and I had a wonderful relationship. Other than the occasional spats, everything was great. Even during my pregnancy, when I was a hormonal monster, we still managed to have a good relationship, which I still can't believe, because I was mega-bitch during my pregnancy. Hahaha.

But, ever since Kylie was born, it just seems like we have hit a downward spiral. We've had more arguments, we snap at each other a lot more, and we are just miserable. It came to a head tonight. Kylie was very fussy, and I was on the couch with her in the living room, and Josh finally snaps at me, "Let me take her". So I tell him no, because he's snappy and stressed, and I don't feel like giving him the baby when he's like that. Well, I laid her on the couch for a second so I could get her another bottle, and the next thing I know, Josh and I are having a screaming match. He's calling me a bitch, psycho, etc. I tell him that if he would just leave me alone and let me take care of the baby, I can get her back to sleep. (Nevermind the fact that the whole reason she is awake, is one of his douchebag friends called the house at 11pm, and the phone woke her up).

Well, I finally lose it and I snap at him and tell him to leave, that I don't feel like putting up with his bullshit, and he takes the laundry that I had just folded, and threw it at me. That is the first time in the three and a half years that we've been together that he has ever done something like that, so I was completely floored. Now, he's got a big attitude, and everything I say, he snaps at me, or just throws his hands up and gets all pissy with me, and I'm in tears because I don't know what's happening to us.

Someone just please tell me that these thingshappen when a new baby comes, and that it will eventually go away. Please  

Shayne and I have been on the rocks since Sydnee has been here too,But I hear from a lot of people it will get better...Soooo hopefully!

Quoting Sarah {Kylie's Mommy}:“ Before I got pregnant with Kylie, Josh and I had a wonderful relationship. Other than the occasional ... [snip!] ... Someone just please tell me that these thingshappen when a new baby comes, and that it will eventually go away. Please  ”

Honey times are insane after a baby comes...tell him how you feel and hopefully it will get ebtter.....me and the DH had to go to counseling and now we are doing really well

I think it's really common. Carlos and I have had more problems than ever before since Olyvia arrived. A lot of my former due date buddies have said the same. Baby equals lots of stress for everyone. The adjustment takes a toll on everything!! I'm sure it will get better!!

Just like the other ladies have said, it happens. My hubby and I fought really bad at first. I had hormone surges like it was nobody's buisness. He finally understood that there were harsh changes I was going thru and to let most stuff go.

Is there a way you know how to reach him so he understands you? I am not opposed to counseling but I think the first step is attempting to communicate with each other. Let him know you are an emotional basket case and need a little help from him.


Good luck sweetie.

Thank you ladies so much for reassuring me. Maybe tomorrow, I can get my mom to watch Kylie and we can go out to eat and go bowling or something, and we can talk and try to work things out.

Quoting Sarah {Kylie's Mommy}:“ Thank you ladies so much for reassuring me. Maybe tomorrow, I can get my mom to watch Kylie and we can go out to eat and go bowling or something, and we can talk and try to work things out.”

best thing you can do...go out on a date and reconnect

After I had my second, my fiance and I went downhill... I snapped because he wanted to take the girls to see his parents without me so I could rest. I wanted out of the house too. He said he was giving me a break. I was not with it that day at all.... I pretty much fried my fingers on the skillet, forgetting that I had turned it on then dipped my fingers in the oil and then rubbing it on the hot pan. He was trying to help, but what I wanted was a break from the kids, not from him. His parents ended up watching the girls for a few hours, and we went out together. Going out just the two of you, will help alot!!