Does anyone else have this problem in their relationship?

Me and DH are on completely different levels with our lives. Im the SAHM with pretty much no life, and hes the productive one that works 6-2pm.
Im so lonely and cant wait to see him, he's so anxious to get home, drink a beer, look at porn, have some alone time. I get it. I dont care.


Its just that I get nothing but alone time so by the time 2:30 rolls around Im so stoked to see him.
He told me its not me or alone time, he loves spending time with the fam he just needs to have some time alone also.

We are moving in a couple weeks to a different state so our lives will finally be at the same pace. I will have my friends and family and people to interact with.
I look forward to this so much.

Does anyone else have this issue?

Yep - except my SO is the SAHP and I'm the working one. When I get home I need some time to relax and unwind. He needs some adult interaction.

I used to. I wasn't working and he was. I'd sit at home all day and try to occupy myself...But when he'd get home, I'd let him drink his beer, shower, and chill out...But....I was chilling out with him.

Well SO is a SAHD and it took him a while to get used to it.

Does your SO come home every single day and go right to the bedroom and want to be alone?

Yes, my SO is an only child. I stay at home with Alex and he works 6am sometimes until 7-8pm. Even on days when he is home early he is tired and wants to be alone and relax. I resent it of course because I am alone all day without any adult interaction. I am starting school soon though cuz my little one is too, and that should put us on the same page. When you are back around your family and have all that support, maybe work on you and what you want to do, that may make it better.

Dh and I have this issue and we are also movig back "home" in December. We came up with the agreement that one night a week was all his.He usually picks Fridays. He either goes out with friends, has people over or sits downstairs by himself and drinks a couple beers. His guy time starts when DD goes to bed. I just stay upstairs and watch a movie or something. Sometimes I will go out with the very few friends I have but usually we just both stay in and do our other thing.

I don't. So works a minimum of a 12 hour shifts, so I do EVERYTHING for the boys... It's my job. When he gets off work, he comes home, changes into shorts & proceeds to drink beer & play video games. I watch.

YES. DH leaves for work at 6:15am and doesn't get home until 4:30, at the earliest. I'm also a SAHM, so its' just me and Booga all day. He works every other Saturday from 6-5 too. I've become very lonely, and the only time I ever go anywhere is on the weekends. He has lots of friends and aqaintances (sp?) , and I don't because I stay at home all the time. I used to have friends when I was still in highschool, but DH thought they were whores and didn't want me to hang out with them anymore. I have 3 girls that I talk to every now and them, but that's because DH is friends with there husbands or boyfriends.

No. We don't have that issue at all. On the days that I am off and he works, once he gets home the three of us cook dinner together and sit down to eat together.

Although, I wouldn't allow myself not to have a life. There are groups to join, classes to take, etc. You are choosing not to have a life and be lonely.

SO and I don't live together but he works 12 hours and comes over right after, every single day and stays here for a 4-5 hours, then goes home to sleep and does it all over again. lol.

I'm sure one day he'll get sick of me and need his "alone time"  

Quoting Blythe.:" Well SO is a SAHD and it took him a while to get used to it. Does your SO come home every single day and go right to the bedroom and want to be alone?"

No not at all. Hes pretty much always hanging out with us. Or giving me a break witht he baby so I totally get how he needs alone time. It just sucks for me because im the opposite.

Quoting Donelle Gale:" No not at all. Hes pretty much always hanging out with us. Or giving me a break witht he baby so I totally get how he needs alone time. It just sucks for me because im the opposite."

everyone needs alone time!

There has to be something you can go do in your area with other people.

Same here! husband leaves for work at about six am, doesn't get off til three, so I stay at home during the day, but luckily I do work at night. Still working at 33 weeks and hope to work until baby is born. Don't really have gfs though so days seem very lonely and he wants to relax when he gets off. Can you guys tell me what all the abbreviations mean btw? I guess im dumb and don't know what SO, DH, LO, DD and all those mean. Can't figure out how to start a thread either!

My husband gets up at 4:45 for work and is home a little after 2. I am a SAHM, I spend my day alone with our 3 year old...cleaning, doing all of the household duties basically...which either is a long list or not, depending on how active I am or how much I did or didn't get done the day(s) before. Some days I am super lazy, while others I am so busy I can't believe it when I look at the clock and it's almost time for DH to be home.
MOST days when he comes home he is grumpy from working, which I understand since the environment he works in. BUT I get annoyed sometimes and I know I shouldn't, but I just can't seem to help it...it's almost as if it happens naturally  
He comes home, and our son is usually napping, he always gets out of work clothes into white tee and basketball type shorts. He usually then lays down in bed and watches his boring shows. He then usually falls asleep. And sometimes he wakes up when our son does, sometimes he doesn't. I see this as laziness because I guess, in my mind...I may not be going to a place of work, to work, but I am working from the time I wake up, until the time I go to bed...'technically' because I cook, I clean, I take care of someone, I do yard work, I pick up dog smurf in the backyard, I de-poop a cat litter box...I could go on and on with all of the things I do. I do not have any friends, really...so my daily conversations usually consist of hearing "Mom, mama, mommy" 1000 times a day, and talking with a 3 year old, lol. When my husband and I usually talk somehow our conversations 50/50 turn into an argument. I swear, I love him to death but sometimes I think my husband brings out the worst in me.  

My hubby is the same way but it works because we have similar personalities. We spend his days off together doing family fun stuff & we eat dinner together. I'm not the social type but I see friends every so often. It's good that you'll be closer to friends soon