Are you lonely or happier as a single mom? Whats your story?

Do you get lonely? do you plan to stay single after a bad split or do you still want to be with someone in the future? why didnt your relationship work? and HOW many kids do you have?

Hell yes I get lonely. But I have so many friends that the absence of an SO doesn't really bother me anymore. I have been single for going on 3 years now and I think it's the best decision I have ever made. It has allowed me to concentrate on ME and be somewhat selfish with my wants and needs. But yes, I do want to get married someday but it will take an extremely type of man because right now... it's gunna take a miracle to get me to change my ways.

My relationship didn't work because he cheated and ultimately fell in love with someone else.

Lol lets just say I am married, love my husband and some days I wish I were a single mom. I do not know what it wrong with me...I think I have anger issues or something but seriously I am a happy great mother all day long and then when my husband gets home from work I become bitchy and just different. From the time my son was just 3 weeks old until almost 2 years old, my husband was away. I missed him terribly, I was living as a single mother, basically, and I missed him terribly but I realize now when I look back that I did a damn good job all on my own too and if I had to do it again, I'd be just fine. When he was gone, I was able to do what I wanted with the money...how I wanted....so if I wanted to splurge and buy myself and our son clothes, I could. He's REALLY strict anymore about saving money and being smart financially(which I totally respect) but it was nice to have some fun too.

I am happy as a single mom. I mean, I sometimes get lonely at night---but, im at peace with myself now that I am alone. I was in an abusive relationship and if I end up finding the love of my life in the future then I definitely plan on getting married and having more children.

But for now, im happy where im at and not looking for anything more.

well my daughters father was very abusive and just a bad dude. when I finally left him for good I felt alone, but ultimately I was so much more happy. I just spent a lot of time with my friends and my mom to make sure I wouldn't go back just because I was lonely. that was only at first when I was adjusting to it.
after a while I was totally fine on my own. Didn't plan on being with anyone I was single for a year and a bit and then my current SO came along.
I turned him down like 10 times because I wasn't interested in a relationship LOL
poor guy kept trying though and I'm glad. we're happily in love, he's taken on the role of daddy to my daughter and we're expecting a new one any day.
you never really know what's going to happen. I'd never stay in an unhappy situation ever again just to have someone to be with.

I love being a single mother.

Quoting Jaidens Mommy  :" I love being a single mother."

love to hear this

lately ive been getting lonely, but that because all my friends are getting engaged and married all of a damn sudden.

I've been single for 3 months now and this is the happiest I've ever been...I get sad thinking about how sad he is b/c he isn't taking it well but ultimately I have to do what's best for me

sometimes yes but for me being by myself is less stress

Quoting кinga:" I am happy as a single mom. I mean, I sometimes get lonely at night---but, im at peace with myself now ... [snip!] ... plan on getting married and having more children. But for now, im happy where im at and not looking for anything more."

Well, I'm actually right there with you. Except, I think I want more kids, then being in labor flashes through my mind.....hmmm, maybe I'll adopt next time around.

Quoting That Single Mom:" Well, I'm actually right there with you. Except, I think I want more kids, then being in labor flashes through my mind.....hmmm, maybe I'll adopt next time around."

Yea, I plan on adopting in a few years.

Also want to add, I know without a doubt, that being a single mother is best for yourself and child rather than being in an abusive relationship, at least for me. If you're smart, you'll survive -- and you can make whatever life you want for your child. Any life you envision without someone stupid to hold you back. The freedom there, is liberating.

At first I find myself lonely but as days goes by I realize that its ok. I am free now, no more fears. With too much love of my kids I find life so easy now. Though as a single mom is a tough job should be 24/7 online but at the end its rewarding.

Quoting кinga:" Yea, I plan on adopting in a few years."

me too. that has always been a dream of mine.