re: 16. with 1 child. pregnant with 2nd. advice?

Quoting ♀NoBoysAllowed:" My advice would be to abort and get a BMW. I'd abort 10 pregnancies, if I could get a free BMW. Shoot."

HEY!! ASSBUTT!
lmfao at your afi

Quoting Brianna G :" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jonathan's Mommy+))):</b>" yes this one was planned for. the ... [snip!] ... my family is going crazy! I think instead of you getting a BMW for your birthday, you need some damn birth control. Seriously."

Same here! im 20 and my family was mad! Half my family hasnt talked to me since they all found out.

Get on BIRTH CONTROL!

LOL I didn't read past the not getting a BMW line. Hilarious.

Don't let all these females put you down.
Yeah, its not smart your pregnant again. But smurf happeneds.
I'd rather go through the same thing again than go abort.
Let people talk smurf, do what you have to do to support your family.
Some of you females are saying pregnant teens can't do nothing without mooching off parents. No. We gotta job/Can get a job. we can afford our own smurf. It's different when the parents WANT to help. They dont have to do smurf.
Such as myself, i dont need my parents help. Besides living under their roof.
My point is, do what you gotta do mama.
Let everyone on here talk smurf, thats all their good for.

okay ... yes i had a baby at 16 but no chance.in hell i would PLAN my second one at 16! like are you kidding me... yea im 21 going on to mu third and final baby but get thisi graduated high school, college and im married . All i havr to say is what were you thinking ... I no.at that age one is hard enough, two isnt any easier when your tryig to go.to school to finish high school at 17.... im just saying i went through college with two and that was hard.

Quoting Shorty ♔:" Don't let all these females put you down. Yeah, its not smart your pregnant again. But smurf happeneds. ... [snip!] ... living under their roof. My point is, do what you gotta do mama. Let everyone on here talk smurf, thats all their good for. "

You can give your teen mom's unite speech all you want. The point is she has PLANNED her 2ND child at 16, not her first and it wasn't an accident. So the whole "smurf happens" attitude doesn't work with this one.

Quoting MommyofSpartan's:" You can give your teen mom's unite speech all you want. The point is she has PLANNED her 2ND child at ... [snip!] ... her 2ND child at 16, not her first and it wasn't an accident. So the whole "smurf happens" attitude doesn't work with this one."

lol! I thought about responding to that one, but said, 'oh well...'
I can't bieleve this thread is still going now, it's so old.
But once again, you're right, haha. Now I have to say something about it lol.

What you said, plus if you still need someone to support a roof over your head, you really don't need to be having more children, exspecially planned!

Quoting Preggly Mama:" lol! I thought about responding to that one, but said, 'oh well...' I can't bieleve this thread ... [snip!] ... you still need someone to support a roof over your head, you really don't need to be having more children, exspecially planned!"

That's for damn sure! Accident's happening are one thing, then I can understand needing support but if your planning and still need help...now that's just stupidity and selfish.

Quoting MommyofSpartan's:" That's for damn sure! Accident's happening are one thing, then I can understand needing support but if your planning and still need help...now that's just stupidity and selfish. "

My thoughts exactly.
I was still living with my MIL once I accidently got pregnant this time, but I was on BC. But now we're on our own and paying all the bills. It's pretty hard now, but I know it's going to get harder once the baby's here. It easy as pie whenever you live with your parents though. You can always skip rent if you need to and not worry about the lights being turned off.

I'm nervous about this baby especially since he has a slight heart issue but I'm lucky to have DH in the military so our health insurance is good. We also get money for a place to live. I know if he wasn't in we would have to many hurdles....especially since I stopped working at 6 months pregnant. Raising kis is never easy and the economy is even harder. There are still times in which we struggle but we manage to make ends meet without relying on others.....these "kids" are in to much of a rush to grow up and have babies. They need to enjoy being a teen and finish school, expand their education or start working on a decent career first.

O.o ... ooooooo.
Well. good luck OP. im here if you need to talk.

Quoting MommyofSpartan's:" I'm nervous about this baby especially since he has a slight heart issue but I'm lucky to have DH in ... [snip!] ... babies. They need to enjoy being a teen and finish school, expand their education or start working on a decent career first."

Ikr... It's hard being an adult. Hell I got talked to like I was still a teenager from BD today. I broke down because of all the stress and worries and he was telling me it was part of being an adult. You know, the typical "Well you said you're grown, and now you're seeing what being grown is all about and nobody likes being grown unless you have a very good high paying job."
We live from pay check to pay check on BD's part time, minimum wage job, barely making ends meet, but we do it. We borrow a few dollars here and there from MIL because he gets paid BI-weekly, but we always pay it back.(She doesn't hand out money.) I'm trying to figure out how much we need of this and that before the money runs out. You know? working with finaces and all. Pretty tough to get used to. He's currently looking for another part time job as well, but he has felonies that hold him back. He wanted to be a marine, but they wouldn't let him in because of that, or any other branch. We also get state help, like EBT and medicaid. Without that, we wouldn't be able to afford toilet paper, soap, laundry money, you know? Essentials.
So it just really chaps my ass whenever kids want to grow up and keep having children for the hell of it and doesn't even know what real life is really like yet.

Quoting Preggly Mama:" Ikr... It's hard being an adult. Hell I got talked to like I was still a teenager from BD today. ... [snip!] ... kids want to grow up and keep having children for the hell of it and doesn't even know what real life is really like yet."

Well you sound like your pretty tough to me, and you know what it takes. I wish you and your little family the nest of luck, and remember it's okay to take a step back and breathe.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Shorty ♔:</b>" Don't let all these females put you down. Yeah, its not smart your pregnant again. But smurf happeneds. ... [snip!] ... living under their roof. My point is, do what you gotta do mama. Let everyone on here talk smurf, thats all their good for. "</blockquote>




GTFO if you aren't going to read the OP.

She planned to have a baby even though she doesn't have her own place to live and has a dead beat bd that SHE supports.

Yeah she is definitely winning.

And yes you still need your parents support because you LIVE at their house. Don't act all high and mighty unless you pay your own way with your OWN home.