I'm at my wits' end.

I met a guy off POF and he seemed like a great guy. He treated me very well and we started dating but after about a month and a half he ended up breaking up with me because he couldn't handle his trust issues. Hours after the breakup he came back asking me to take him back and that he would never do it again so I took him back. Everything was good and back to normal until about a week ago when he broke up with me AGAIN because of his trust issues. This time it got a little ugly because he kept texting me talking smurf and then he would change his mind and apologize and ask me to take him back but I just kept ignoring his texts and he would then get mad and talk more smurf. It even got to the point that he was reluctant to give me my clothes back and was threatening to beat up my friend if he ever saw him. The next day he was texting me asking if he could bring me my stuff back so I told him to meet at my friends' and we would do it there. He wanted to talk more and leave and tried to kiss me but I wouldn't do it. After that he kept texting me telling me that he loved me and that he made a mistake, that he couldn't live without me, thinking about me being with another guy was killing him, blah blah blah. Today I told him that he could come over to my house if he wanted to talk told him that I was tired of this and that I didn't want to get back with him and he didn't take it well but still won't leave me alone. I unhid my profile on POF and after he saw he flipped out and ended up calling me and I laid it all out on the table and said that I had fallen out of love with him, that he was being obsessive, that it wasn't healthy to be this crazy about me after 2 or 3 months of dating, but that I did still care about him, I just don't think I want to be back together right now and he STILL won't lay off. I told him we could continue talking and maybe work back up to where we were before but anything that I tell him that doesn't involve getting back together he gets so upset saying that everyone in his life just smurfs on him and all of this smurf. I'm SO smurfing tired of it. I don't want him to hate me for not wanting to get back together but I wish that he couldn't understand that he needs to leave me be and let me figure smurf out myself. He won't take no for an answer and is saying that he's just going to fight for me. I don't want to be with him anymore and he's acting crazy. While we were dating I wasn't even very happy because the sex wasn't satisfying and I was tired of walking on eggshells to keep him happy. Other than that he treated me like a princess and I wish that I did still feel the way that I used to but I don't anymore and it makes me nervous what he'll do if I tell him that I'm done. I don't want to be a bitch to him because I do still care about him and I don't want us to end on bad terms but this is just getting to be too much. I told him that I needed some space to think and that I would hide my profile on POF again until I figured out what I wanted but I don't think that will get him to calm down.

Um I would block him from everything possible.

I would just tell him to move on and find someone else. That's too much smurf to put up with.

I wouldn't even hesitate to talk to him anymore. I would be D.O.N.E.

I'm glad I'm not just being a heartless bitch. He's been making me feel like smurf all week. Is there a way to block profiles on POF? Block numbers on Virgin Mobile?

Quoting LoBrew:" I'm glad I'm not just being a heartless bitch. He's been making me feel like smurf all week. Is there a way to block profiles on POF? Block numbers on Virgin Mobile?"

I think you can block people on POF but I don't remember how. I'm not sure about the cell.

He just sent me this message on POF:

If you love me, just push me away Lauren, so I don't hurt like this anymore.. It's the only way to force me to move on.. You will find someone that will make you happy, you are a great person, I just wish that person was me. I am sorry for everything I did wrong, I will live with this regret, and sadness for a while knowing I couldn't keep that beautiful smile on your face.. I love you more than you know

Block him from everything. Change your phone number, your email, delete your pof account and make a new one. Threaten to go to the cops if he doesn't leave you alone.

Quoting LoBrew:" He just sent me this message on POF: If you love me, just push me away Lauren, so I don't hurt like ... [snip!] ... this regret, and sadness for a while knowing I couldn't keep that beautiful smile on your face.. I love you more than you know"

DO NOT REPLY. Leave it at that.

Quoting GrumpsMama.:" DO NOT REPLY. Leave it at that."

I blocked him on there after I read it.

I feel horrible because I loved him but this is just so much.  
Hopefully he doesn't try to contact me again so I don't have to change my number. He changes his mind about this so much I don't know what he's going to do.

Quoting LoBrew:" I blocked him on there after I read it. I feel horrible because I loved him but this is just so much. ... [snip!] ... me again so I don't have to change my number. He changes his mind about this so much I don't know what he's going to do. "

Think of how he is now. and times it by a year.
It would be way worse, and honestly he sounds a little crazy.

Quoting GrumpsMama.:" Think of how he is now. and times it by a year. It would be way worse, and honestly he sounds a little crazy."

That's exactly how I feel about this. I tried telling him that there's a reason for people breaking up 2 times and that obviously it isn't meant to work out and that it's unhealthy to feel this way after only 2 or 3 months. :/

I just wish this didn't have to happen, he treated me like a princess, I guess all the good guys are crazy.

I had a dude like that. Took six straight months of ignoring for him to fully disappear.  

Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" I had a dude like that. Took six straight months of ignoring for him to fully disappear.  "

Ughh it makes me feel so guilty.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting LoBrew:</b>" Ughh it makes me feel so guilty.  "</blockquote>




You get over it, and so do they  

You have to stay strong. I ignored him through all the suicide threats, insults, and crying voicemails. Haven't heard from him in a LONG time.