re: If you were a young mom

Quoting Noneya Business:" I can't wait to go back to college. I'm taking classes 2 days a week on campus. But at the same time ... [snip!] ... get looked down on. Most people don't realize I have a big family that want me to make friends and love to spend time with LO."

I'm hoping to make friends in college, too. Even if I don't, things will get better when SO gets back from being deployed.

Quoting Nigel Thornberry:" If you had your baby when you were in high school or shortly after graduating how did you friends react? Are they still around now that your LO is here or did they disappear? "

I had my first daughter when I was 15, I was so young but my boyfriend - well now my husband was a year older than me. My mom was highly upset but she was there... she did everything to teach me that now it was all about me, my daughter and her father. I lost so many friends, and few remain true... but I had to make the best life for my daugther so i didnt really have any time for friends since my goal was to finish school as quickly as possible. I went to summer school, night school and everything to graduate a year early. Now I see who are true friends because I still talk to a few, but priorities change.

I lost all my friends way back in high school. As soon as I got pregnant, I had people that "pretended" to be my friend, just because they thought it was "cool and exciting", but it was a big lie. It's been since May of 11' that I graduated, and still have no friends. Don't get me wrong, I've tried rekindling friendships, and I would love too, but we're just to different now. I'm a SAHM. All of my former friends either went on to college, moved, or had kids of their own. I guess it would be easier to have friends if I actually got out and about, but I won't leave my son with anyone else, because the people I've tried to leave him with, don't watch him. So, I'm holding of things for myself, so that I can raise my son the way he needs to be raised. Like others have said though, priorities change when you have children.

I must be the lucky one because I still havr my two really good freinds. Even though they are 16, and 17 they absolutley adore my daughter. And love spending time with BOTH of us, even when we just sit at home.

The only friends I have is like 2 people but one of them is pregnant and the other already has a son.

I got pregnant with my son a few months out of high school, during my 2nd semester of college. My friends were wonderful. My son is almost 5 and they are all still around. They are wonderful, spoiling him rotten, picking him up from preschool and taking him on "dates", etc.
You obviously will have something new in your life that your friends can't relate to, which may temporarily change your relationship, but if shouldn't scare any friends away.
If it does, they weren't your friends to start with.

I got pregnant a couple days after my 18th birthday...I have all the same friends that I had then.... I surround myself with wonderful people who make my life better!

Quoting FaithLovesBaby:" Lol what friends? They're long gone."

This. LOL.

My friends have thankfully stuck around from when i was in high school. I don't see them all that much but they have been then when i needed them as i have been there for them. It helps three of them have kids of their own.

Haha. once you have a child everyone disappears.
I am 21 with a 4 year old and 3 month old & the only time "friends" showed up was when they were born.

Quoting Black Dynamite:" I'm not even a teen mom, I had my kids at age 21 and 24...and my friends became pretty non existent. "

  except i only have one, but still they all say how cute my child is and a few want to see him and hang out every once in a while. but i have 3 friends really and 2 of the 3 have kids around the same age as DS

I became pregnant at 17 although I had already dropped out, I still talked/ hung out with a few people from school. Once I got pregnant everyone disappeared...at that point I really only talked to the other teen moms I knew....there were a few who had babies way before me and a few who were pregnant with me, most of them I had never talked to before but once we all had something in common we started talking....Now that I am 21 and pregnant for the 3rd time and have met new people I have new friends who I never knew before...although your "friends" might leave you, your true friends will always be there for you and you will always meet new people.

my friends were still there and are around but i dnt really tlk to them becuase we dont have much in common . plus i droped out and went to online school to be a sahm . but oh well not my loss. i have my family <3

some of my old friend are still here tho, come visit play with my son  

They said they would be there for me, they lied, well most did any way. The only friends I have anymore are the ones who are in the same situation as me.
My life pretty much revovles around my pregnancy, my boyfriend and my fanily. Those are my only real friends.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nigel Thornberry:</b>" If you had your baby when you were in high school or shortly after graduating how did you friends react? Are they still around now that your LO is here or did they disappear? "</blockquote>

If your friends don't have baby's they won't be sticking around.. Sad but true