My F***n Boyfriend (may be long)

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I would tell him that it is important to keep your friends, but this pregnancy will end with a baby. He won't be able to go out on the weekends when he has a baby to take care of, unless he plans on leaving you home with it. He needs to start to grow up now and find other ways to connect with his friends because he has a lot more responsibility now. Tell him going out will now be more of a "special" thing that doesn't happen as often as it used to. It's not fair for him to leave you home every weekend to party.

Oh man do i feel you dear!!! My husband is the most unsensitive guy who doesnt understand anything....he doesnt go out in drink cause hes on probation but he stays home and irritates the holly hell out of me....but he was teasing me and trying to take my cookie from me well he spilt milk all down my chest and i got upset and told him i was gonna smell like milk and now i was gonna have to go take another shower and all he did was laugh...i was crying my eyes out and he was so rude and was like WHY ARE YOU CRYING GROW UP....i wanted to take that glass shrek cup and throw it at his face....there guys they are soo different from women....it amazes me how they dont care like they should!!!

Quoting NicolaW ~ Mommy To Be!:“ Ok so this may be long I dunno.... Where do I start? I am extremely irritated right now with him. I ... [snip!] ... so who is paying for his drinks? God I feel like throwing this fucking laptop through the window! Does anyone feel this way?”

FELT.

My boyfriend didn't drink or wasn't the party type.. but he's the type that has like a billion friends and after a week of not talking to one they say things like AY YOU DONT LOVE ME! ..especially girls.. not that i'm jealous.. but.. for some reason its mainly girls.. so its like.. ..well why couldn't i go? oh right!! cuz i'm preggo!! i'll be a drag!!

hmm.. and what got me the most is that he WOULD ask me if it was okay.. I'd just mumble.. YEAH.. WHY NOT.. cuz he's always with me day and night and we did already start the old married couple type of fights..

They're not that brilliant and psychic. You gotta sit down with them and actually explain it to them.. the pregnancy, you feel like its not fair.. you're pregnant and he's not.. you're bored at home and you look out the window cuz you miss what you were able to do..

Then things changed.. he understood.. I mean I wouldn't stay with him if he wasn't the type to wanna understand me and not really care about me.. So every friday night.. (and he thought this on his own) we would go out and watch a movie during the day (cuz he knows i hate going at night and running into the entire high school students of miami) or he would take me out to restaurants, or take me out to see a couple friends and hang out at their place..

now its gotten to the point where I have to say.. "umm.. srsly, its okay.. i wanna stay home now.. i just get too tired and i just wanna rest" lol

Quoting Heather_G:“ I would tell him that it is important to keep your friends, but this pregnancy will end with a baby. ... [snip!] ... a "special" thing that doesn't happen as often as it used to. It's not fair for him to leave you home every weekend to party.”

I have told him some of that, but the first part of your response I havent said, I will be mentioning that to him. He tells me "Damn, I wish the shoes were switched! If I was the pregnant one here I'd want you to go out and have a good time, I wouldnt want you up my butt all the time!" And it's like what the hell do I say to that? I mean the man is 31 years old and I am 25! He is a pretty responsible man but he says thats the only way he can keep in touch with his friends because they dont do anything else but party on weekends, and I said to him well maybe you need to start finding friends who have babies! And it just gets into a heated discussion after that. So I just let him go because I dont feel like hearing his crap about "oh she keeps me in prison cuz she's preggo" bullshit.

Quoting Momma Woodruff:“ Oh man do i feel you dear!!! My husband is the most unsensitive guy who doesnt understand anything....he ... [snip!] ... and throw it at his face....there guys they are soo different from women....it amazes me how they dont care like they should!!!”

do something that annoys the hell out of him too... then when he starts yelling call him a baby..

Quoting Mavick:“ FELT. My boyfriend didn't drink or wasn't the party type.. but he's the type that has like a billion ... [snip!] ... point where I have to say.. "umm.. srsly, its okay.. i wanna stay home now.. i just get too tired and i just wanna rest" lol”

U live in Miami? Sweet, Im not too far from you lol! Anyway I have tried repeated amounts of times explaining the same thing to him but it doesnt register in his skull! He doesnt understand the concept of me sitting at home bored by myself he just tells me "oh if i was the preggo one" blah blah. And Im like "yea, if 'if' was a fifth we'd all be drunk!" men are such hard headed stubborn cunt rags.... AAAAHHHH!

My husband doesnt go out during my pregnancy. We talked about it and its his child to so our relationship should be with each other and the "boys" dont matter. If they want to hang out they either come here or I'm DD since hubby andI only like going together. If it will ruin a relationship with the "boys" to stay with the person carrying your shild then you dont have much of one anyways. You do hae a right to feel that way and to be upset. After pregnancy we get sitters almost every Sat night and go out as our "date night" basically which we are both happy with because we both like going out and partying with our friends.

Quoting NicolaW ~ Mommy To Be!:“ I have told him some of that, but the first part of your response I havent said, I will be mentioning ... [snip!] ... So I just let him go because I dont feel like hearing his crap about "oh she keeps me in prison cuz she's preggo" bullshit.”

I highly doubt if he was in your shoes he would want you to go out and leave him sit there. He just thinks he would feel that way!   Men are just dumb sometimes. He should look for friends that have kids because he is now a daddy. Maybe once you get closer to your due date he'll open his eyes a little more and realize his life is about to change. It took my SO a while before he started to realize things would never be the way they used to.

oh whoops I meant the other chick to quote... whoops pregnancy brain!  

Quoting Heather_G:“ I highly doubt if he was in your shoes he would want you to go out and leave him sit there. He just thinks ... [snip!] ... his life is about to change. It took my SO a while before he started to realize things would never be the way they used to.”

Yea I tell him that too ... "yea u say that now but once u have this life growing inside of u..." I soooo wish men could have babies out of their butt holes!  

Quoting Mavick:“ do something that annoys the hell out of him too... then when he starts yelling call him a baby..”

Haha thats what i do to my bf when he pisses me off to tears then tells me stop crying. Damn men!

Quoting NicolaW ~ Mommy To Be!:“ I have told him some of that, but the first part of your response I havent said, I will be mentioning ... [snip!] ... So I just let him go because I dont feel like hearing his crap about "oh she keeps me in prison cuz she's preggo" bullshit.”

You response. Plain and simple then go out and buy a simpathy belly and spend two weeks walking in my shoes. No matter how many times they say "if" they really cant say that because they dont have to do it. His kid to he can have the same life you do during pregnancy.

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ My husband doesnt go out during my pregnancy. We talked about it and its his child to so our relationship ... [snip!] ... go out as our "date night" basically which we are both happy with because we both like going out and partying with our friends.”

Well its only once a week thats why I dont understand why Im getting so upset. And I'm sure he'll be home by 10-ish tonight. Usually when he goes out on a saturday night he doesnt leave home till 11pm and gets home at 4am!

Quoting NicolaW ~ Mommy To Be!:“ Well its only once a week thats why I dont understand why Im getting so upset. And I'm sure he'll be ... [snip!] ... be home by 10-ish tonight. Usually when he goes out on a saturday night he doesnt leave home till 11pm and gets home at 4am!”

Because thats once a week more then you get. Thats why you are upset and its understandable. IMO, if they get away with that during pregnancy then whats to keep them from expecting you to stay home with the baby all the time once its born?