re: My F***n Boyfriend (may be long)

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ I really dont see drinking one night a week as "substance abuse" esspecially when he is usually home ... [snip!] ... a sure relationship stopper. There is no doubt they love each other and should come to a agreement that they are equal 24/7.”

Lol yes thank you. That's why I didn't reply to that. His Mommy yelled at him for me btw lol. So we'll see where that gets us. 20 more weeks to go!

Quoting NicolaW ~ Mommy To Be!:“ Lol yes thank you. That's why I didn't reply to that. His Mommy yelled at him for me btw lol. So we'll see where that gets us. 20 more weeks to go!”

Nice!!! lol bet he loved hearing it from Mommy   Hopefully he will understand a little more now.

Quoting NicolaW ~ Mommy To Be!:“ Lol yes thank you. That's why I didn't reply to that. His Mommy yelled at him for me btw lol. So we'll see where that gets us. 20 more weeks to go!”

Who knows though...that could backfire really bad. He might get angry that you're going behind his back and kinda ganging up on him with his mother and start going out more.

But good luck!

Um, alcohol is a drug Cowgirl... make no mistake there.

In my humble opinion, he could just as easily go out and not drink and socialize with his friends, or stay home and invite some of the friends over for a game of twister,or move the furniture and dance and have a few cocktails at home. Our friends like to come over and play Wii. I wonder if thoseclub friends would even show...

I do recall reading that most of his friend base were females and that it's every weekend and he was short on the rent. Sorry, I would feel just as excluded and probably envious too and a little angry if the spending was out of line. Especially when so many things will be needed for the nursery.

She still looks fabulous and baby bumps are all the rage ..... I mean why do you have to be locked away at home... It's Ft. Lauderdale. There is a shitload of stuff to do around here that doesnt involve the club scene or even spending a lot of money.There are museum and festivals and Imax. Plenty of parks too and don't forget walks on the beach.

If sheused to work out a lotused too and still lookas good as her pic showing,go out with him. It's not like you let yourself goand should be embarrassed . Your Pregnant! If your friends have anything to say at all to your face, or more likely behind your back, they are shallow, self-absorbed FT. Lauderdale a-holes. I know the type. I have lived here all my life.Wannabe Noveau riche ,pretentious, racked up credit card , fendi bag sporting, cell phone addicted douche balls. No substance or depth of character...

Quoting Vamul1:“ Um, alcohol is a drug Cowgirl... make no mistake there. In my humble opinion, he could just as easily ... [snip!] ... racked up credit card , fendi bag sporting, cell phone addicted douche balls. No substance or depth of character... ”

Lol I did NOT say anywhere in my post that most of his friends are female. He barely has female friends. The female friends that he does have are his boys girlfriends. And it's not like he's out drinking every night. And it's not EVERY weekend he's short on rent. I was having a bad day that day and felt like venting, My bf (BD) does not go out every weekend, and he made rent, like he does every month. It was just at that particular moment he was short $50, and he didn't buy anything when he went out that night, his friends offered to pay his way. I'm the one who chooses not to go out with them (when I am more than welcome to every time) because I just get depressed watching everyone else drink when I can't. I even said in a few of my posts on this thread "it's not like he goes every weekend, and I don't even know why I'm acting like this." I was just being a brat basically. I do think he is entitled to go out with this friends. And we would invite his or my friends over for that matter... but our place is too small, and we would all be cramped in here like a can of vienna sausages. We are looking for a new place before baby gets here. Anyway, the point of the story is... my man is NOT a drug addict. And I think you took it a little out of proportion. Thanks for your concern though.

I guess it's all in the way you read something..... You first post seemed so severe. You sounded so angry and upset. I glad you figured out. I don't know where I read the thing about his friends being girls. It must have been another persons post. You should go out and have some fun. You both will be home more when baby is born for sure and if he goes out afte it's going to be even harder....take advantage now. Do something nice together and have fun!

Was wondering something.... Did your doctor tell you after the genetic testing that you had a 1-200 chance or before? I was told before that I had a 1-40 chance. Then I went on this website and found that it was 1-105. It eased my mind a bit. I am over 35 so... I looked up your age and it says 1-1000. I hope that helps...http://www.nichd.nih.gov/publications/pubs/downsyndrome.cfm%5C just scroll down to the middle of the page and you will see the age chart.

Quoting Vamul1:“ I guess it's all in the way you read something..... You first post seemed so severe. You sounded so angry ... [snip!] ... that it was 1-105. It eased my mind a bit. I am over 35 so... I looked up your age and it says 1-800. I hope that helps...”

Yea I was just being really hormonal and emotional at the moment. But I got over it lol.. as far as the testing went, my blood work came back with a 1/200 chance with increased my risk (from what my doc told me it's supposed to be at 1/1000 for my age), so that's a pretty high increase so that's why it threw red flags. If they did your blood work and it came back 1/40 then chances are your own personal risk is that number 1/40. Which is still only a 2.5% chance, which still means you have a 97.5% chance that your baby wont have downs. The stuff that you look up on the internet is usually just giving you a group average number and not your personal number. Did you go in for a level 2 ultrasound yet? They can give you more answers through that.

I go next Thursday for the 2nd lvl. I didn't have the first set of tests done, so she was just giving me the average for my age which was incorrect according to that site and another one I looked at as well. It is more like 1/105. So the odds are even better. I was sorta too late for the first set of tests because I didn't know I was pregnant until 12wks (lost weight, no morning sickness, menstral cycle every month)but I didnt want them anyway after I did my own research. All I would do is worry even more.

I know on the U/S yesterday that all the measurements looked good and the doc wanted the 2nd level done as a matter of protocol.Usually the measurement at the base of the neck is off with downs babies, but everything was normal.I think they want to rule out spina bifida et al defects..... I know everything will be ok for both of us for sure!!! Don't worry!