re: My F***n Boyfriend (may be long)

Thanks ladies for listening to me rant and for the helpful advice. I am going to look at different themes for bedding!

Quoting NicolaW ~ Mommy To Be!:“ Ok so I just got off the phone with his mom. And I had this thread open the whole time basically telling ... [snip!] ... to him. I feel much better now, she doesnt put up with his shit! lol... also he texted me back saying "please dont be mean"”

Thats great she is gonna try and help. Now maybe he will get the eye opener he needs.

Quoting xloxbrittanyxolx:“ lol maybe i need to move down south then. Im all the way up here in maine  ”

Dang, I'm stuck out in Alaska so it aint mcuh better  I wanna go back home.

Quoting NicolaW ~ Mommy To Be!:“ Thanks ladies for listening to me rant and for the helpful advice. I am going to look at different themes for bedding!”

I picked camo and yes we were having a girl not a boy lol. But if I have a boy this time he gets to use it to.

I didn't read through all the post but just wondering, if its such a big deal for him to go out, why don't you go with him?? I know you can't drink but you could still have fun right? You aren't that far along in your pregnancy where it is difficult to do things.

just curious

Quoting NicolaW ~ Mommy To Be!:“ Ok so this may be long I dunno.... Where do I start? I am extremely irritated right now with him. I ... [snip!] ... so who is paying for his drinks? God I feel like throwing this fucking laptop through the window! Does anyone feel this way?”

ooooh baby girl. just because ur pregnant doesn't mean u can't go out and have a good time. i go out all the time. and u of all ppl aren't showing too much. girl please. go with him.no sense in u being mad at him u chose to stay home!!! my baby daddy goes out every weekend too. i don't get mad at him i just ask him to be safe. he's going to virginia beach next week with his motor club. theres gonna be hoochies all around i'm i worried. yes does he know that no. i don't want him to go but whatcan i do. i tell him to have fun and be safe. its the nature of the beast. no sense in u getting mad at that man for being a man!!!

Do you have gf's that you can go hang out with on the weekends? That don't party that is....?

Guys are such douchebags. My baby's daddy (not really boyfriend anymore... our relationship has been complicated throughout my whole pregnancy thanks to him but we haven't officially broken up... yet) smokes marijuana basically all day, every day. He lost his job a couple of months ago during a time where we weren't talking because he just got lazy and didn't show up for two days. He's just fucked me over so many times during this pregnancy, I really do hate him now. His friends have seen him more than I have in the last nine months. He's 20.He doesn't have a job. He's living at his parents' house. Whenever he wants to smoke, he calls his grandparents & asks them for "gas money". He ends up putting $10 in his gas tank & uses the other $10 to buy weed.

I'm not even letting him in the room when I deliver this baby. I don't even think I'm going to call him until baby Caleb is out.

Quoting NicolaW ~ Mommy To Be!:“ Ok so this may be long I dunno.... Where do I start? I am extremely irritated right now with him. I ... [snip!] ... so who is paying for his drinks? God I feel like throwing this fucking laptop through the window! Does anyone feel this way?”

i feel the same way you do except that my boyfriend doesnt drink or go out, but its his parents that are the problem,and god it drives me crazy when he leaves to go over there since they dont invite me because he just told his parents that i am pregnant and he is a momas boy and he doesnt want her to feel uncomfortable...i mean god just hide ur freaking kid....guys are like that because they are not the ones that have to be pregnant so they dont understand at the moment, you know what they say a woman becomes a mom when she is pregnant and a man becomes a father when he sees his child,dont worry everithing will be ok just have faith in god,these are the times when you gotta grab ahold of him the most!

I do. I'm sure you'll be fine. I feel it because all of my friends have found other stuff to do then hang out with a pregnant girl.

I totally get what you are saying. I used to party a lot too and none of my close friends have kids or are preggo so its hard to find someone to relate to. My husband also went through that stage, going out weekdays for things like happy hour. His excuse was that I could come too if I wanted to but seriously how would i look 7mnths preggo at the bar!! I let him do his thing for a while, remember guys mature slower than women! So after one night he came home tipsy telling me about how his night went I got pissed and told him I didn't want to hear it! I completely trust him but it still bothers me that he goes out so much with out me. I told him it hurt my feelings that he was out at bars with his buddies while I was stuck at home. The next day I got a call while at work from him saying he was really sorry and that he felt soo bad. Turns out his mommy told him to settle down and stop going out so much that he is a husband and soon to be a father and he had to get with the program! He said some times it takes some one else to open your eyes! I was kinda mad but he hasn't gone out by him self ever since!!! So it was a good thing. Maybe your bf needs a reality check from some one he respects. He really needs to wake up, he is 31! he cant use the excuse of loosing touch with his buddies, if those friends don't want to find other ways of hanging out and keeping in touch with him then they aren't real friends!

I know how you feel, except it's not my boyfriend that pisses me off it's his friend. He's trying to get my partner to go out every weekend and play golf, get drunk and just hang out. And all his friend does is talk about why my man hasn't gone out clubbing with him lately. My partner's promised not to drink until I can because he knows it's kinda our way of being sociable. I guess I got lucky in that department  .

But none of my friends are pregnant, heck, most of them haven't even had sex yet. So it's kind of annoying when they tell me how fat they're getting or how they're eating so much food or how they have a bad headache. All I feel like yelling is "I'm effing pregnant! Stop complaining, at least yours goes away within a few days!"

But anyway, more on topic...Either your boyfriend will wake up and realise what a responsibility a baby is, or he's not worth it. His friends should realise that he's expecting a baby not just you, and that means that his relationship with you is more important than the one with his friends. Good luck with everything!

i skimmed through everything here, and i'm gonna put my two cents in. speaking as a single mom-to-be... honestly... if i could have a man to sleep with 5 days out of the week, that would be incredibly awesome. so perhaps i'm not on the same level, but think of it this way: at least you have your man's unwaivering support, you know he loves you and the baby, and you don't doubt his commitment to you or the child once the baby is born.

while it is understanding that you want him there, he is going to want some sort of escape from the reality of being a dad while he can still have it--before the baby gets here.

i know what you're going through, because i am with my family 24/7 now and i get all butthurt if my mom or my sis don't want to hang out with me when im not at work. i think the clinginess is part of pregnancy. but... you know... let him have his piece of privacy now so he doesn't feel like he has to get it once the baby is here.

the rent part is something that needs to stop NOW though. if he can't go out on his own dime AND be able to support himself, then he shouldnt go out.

;) please ladies don't yell at me... im incredibly envious of all of you who have the privledge of doing this with a partner.

I would be more concerned about the heavy drinking and spending. Priorities need straightning out. Drinking and drugs are a big fat whore. One that never gives back and just takes takes takes. At 31 he should be past the frat brothershite. Drinking is a stupid hobby for a lot of people.Also, how is he getting home? Does he get a cab? Spending yet even more money.... Ya'll could find something to do together that doesn't involve substance abuse....

Tell him that once the baby pops out your dumping it with him every weekend and flying toBrazil with some hot oily bohunks   every weekend to party. Then he will know how you feel.... I know that sounds harsh but that is essentially what he is doing now.... Oh, right that would make you a rotten mother right?  Even if you were with the baby all week and he took the w/e so you could have fun you would be a bad mother, right? Double standards suck! Hang in there and tell him to grow up.

Quoting Vamul1:“ I would be more concerned about the heavy drinking and spending. Priorities need straightning out. Drinking ... [snip!] ... the w/e so you could have fun you would be a bad mother, right? Double standards suck! Hang in there and tell him to grow up.”

I really dont see drinking one night a week as "substance abuse" esspecially when he is usually home around 10 and I dont remember reading anything about him doing drugs. Spending money he doesnt have?! Yeah, thats a major concern but if friends invite you out and say they will pay I dont see a big deal. My friends have done that for me a time or two as I have done for them. He should see how she feels and see its not "fair" for her to stay home because this is his pregnancy to but telling him youre going out with another guy every weekend is just plain wrong and a sure relationship stopper. There is no doubt they love each other and should come to a agreement that they are equal 24/7.