re: My F***n Boyfriend (may be long)

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ You response. Plain and simple then go out and buy a simpathy belly and spend two weeks walking in my ... [snip!] ... "if" they really cant say that because they dont have to do it. His kid to he can have the same life you do during pregnancy.”

He tells me that once the baby gets here that he's going to encourage me to go out on weekends with my girlfriends since it will be such a long time since I have done so! And I'm like why, so you can claim what a bad mommy I am? I'm prob not even gonna wanna go out for a long time after baby gets here!

Quoting NicolaW ~ Mommy To Be!:“ I have told him some of that, but the first part of your response I havent said, I will be mentioning ... [snip!] ... So I just let him go because I dont feel like hearing his crap about "oh she keeps me in prison cuz she's preggo" bullshit.”

I think personaly u give him tooooo much credit lol. If he's 31 to me he's not that young, he needs to realize he has responsiblities now, and needs to sacrafice things too, not just you! Not to mention at that age he should start to visit the partying scene a little less. its not like ur telling him he can never go out with them nemore, or go out for drinks, but he doesnt need to go get wasted with his boys every weekend, it should be a every now n then thing, and even then he doesnt need to get trashed. I mean when the baby is here, he should at least be coherent (Sp?) enough when he goes out n drinks so that if lord something ever did happen, hopefuly nothing ever does, but if it did he can respond to the situation. idk. maybe i over think things lol

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ Because thats once a week more then you get. Thats why you are upset and its understandable. IMO, if ... [snip!] ... with that during pregnancy then whats to keep them from expecting you to stay home with the baby all the time once its born?”

That's when I asked him the other day, "are u doing this now to get all the partying out before the baby gets here?" And he's just like "No Nicola, I go out once a week if that to see my friends, what is the big problem? I already know I'm never going to be going out on weekends because ur the one that's gonna be going out all the time while I sit at home and watch the baby!"

Well your boyfriend will have to grow up soon and realize he wont be able to just leave and go party whenever he wants to. And if is short on rent he shouldn't go out. He shouldn't spend money he doesn't have. I think he should respect your wishes and stay home with you. it just isn't fair to you. He could at least take you somewhere, like out to eat or to a movie since there isnt much you can do at this stage.

Quoting xloxbrittanyxolx:“ I think personaly u give him tooooo much credit lol. If he's 31 to me he's not that young, he needs ... [snip!] ... ever did happen, hopefuly nothing ever does, but if it did he can respond to the situation. idk. maybe i over think things lol”

Thats all of his friends too! His friends are all in their early 30's, very few in their late 20's. But they go out and party every weekend! He doesnt feel like he's being irresponsible. I dont know how I can instill in his brain that I feel like I'm being left out (which I do), I wish I can still go out and party my ass off! He just thinks I'm being a crazy hormonal preggo lady!

Quoting NicolaW ~ Mommy To Be!:“ He tells me that once the baby gets here that he's going to encourage me to go out on weekends with ... [snip!] ... like why, so you can claim what a bad mommy I am? I'm prob not even gonna wanna go out for a long time after baby gets here!”

Well the baby basically IS there he just cant see it lol. Its not fair to expect the mom to do all the work even in pregnancy. I know some of you are probably thinking "what the hell is she talkin about" lol but he should be taking care of you and doing things for you 24/7 which in turn helps the baby. Not 24/6 but 24/7. You are carrying it all the time and cant put it down so he can take care of you all the time without breaks to. You will more then likely still want those night it will just be hard to let someone else care for the baby for a while.I'm not saying he is a bad guy or anything but thats just how I feel about the matter.

Quoting kelleycometrue:“ Well your boyfriend will have to grow up soon and realize he wont be able to just leave and go party ... [snip!] ... to you. He could at least take you somewhere, like out to eat or to a movie since there isnt much you can do at this stage.”

Oh we do go out to eat on weekends and movies too (the nights he doesnt go out). I mean some weekends he doesnt go out at all (like last weekend, wow that was a shocker!) But it just irritates me the days he does go out even if it's minimal, it just makes me feel left out, and I dont like feeling that way.

Quoting Mavick:“ do something that annoys the hell out of him too... then when he starts yelling call him a baby..”

I should...too bad he annoys the hell out of me like 23 1/2 hours out the day lol...he woke up the other morning with a scratch on his nose i told him it was pay back lol

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ Well the baby basically IS there he just cant see it lol. Its not fair to expect the mom to do all the ... [snip!] ... else care for the baby for a while.I'm not saying he is a bad guy or anything but thats just how I feel about the matter.”

Well if you can tell me a way to instill in this man's brain that he is pregnant too then please tell me cuz right now he doesnt get it!!

I actually used to feel the same way. I would fight with him all night if he came home with beer on his breath. He drinks with his uncle and his uncle loves me so I know that he would never let David cheat on me it just sort of bothered me that he could do all of this stuff and I couldn't even though the baby was half his doing. I chilled out and I let him do what he wants pretty much because I'll just make him get up in the middle of the night with the baby when he's got a hangover. It's going to stop pretty quickly I think....

Quoting NicolaW ~ Mommy To Be!:“ That's when I asked him the other day, "are u doing this now to get all the partying out before the ... [snip!] ... to be going out on weekends because ur the one that's gonna be going out all the time while I sit at home and watch the baby!"”

He is saying that to make you feel bad so he doesnt have to give up "his" nights out or "his" buddies.He wont stay home when the baby is born and let you go out. He might do it once or twice but that wont lastlong at all.Tell him to get over it. You both made it and you will both handle the pregnancy 24/7 no excuses.

Quoting Rebecca 31 days!:“ I actually used to feel the same way. I would fight with him all night if he came home with beer on his ... [snip!] ... him get up in the middle of the night with the baby when he's got a hangover. It's going to stop pretty quickly I think....”

Oh I'm 100% not worried about him cheating on me. His friends girlfriends call and tell me everything about what goes on. So I have eyes when I'm not there LOL. But the fact is ... that I too would love to go out and down a few club soda & grey gooses, followed by some lemon drops!

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ He is saying that to make you feel bad so he doesnt have to give up "his" nights out or "his" buddies.He ... [snip!] ... but that wont lastlong at all.Tell him to get over it. You both made it and you will both handle the pregnancy 24/7 no excuses.”

Nah, I dont think when baby gets here he's just gonna leave me and the baby on weekends for his boys. Because he will be getting left really fast and I will take the baby and we will be going to court. And I already made him aware of this, and he wants to avoid that at all costs. We both come from broken homes growing up and we dont want our baby going through that too.

Quoting NicolaW ~ Mommy To Be!:“ Well if you can tell me a way to instill in this man's brain that he is pregnant too then please tell me cuz right now he doesnt get it!!”

I dont know because he sounds hard headed. It will probably take someone outside of the relationship to get through to him. Thats usually what happens is the two in the relationship together dont listen to each other because they feel as though they both know everything at hand and the other is wrong so they cant be corrected. Have a friend of his or family member talk to him and get him to see both sides.

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ I dont know because he sounds hard headed. It will probably take someone outside of the relationship ... [snip!] ... the other is wrong so they cant be corrected. Have a friend of his or family member talk to him and get him to see both sides.”

OMG I never thought of that! I'm calling his MOM!!!!