Terminating a wanted pregnancy

Has anyone terminated a wanted a pregnancy? What were your reasons, if you don't mind sharing?

There is nothing more that I want than to be a mother. I feel like only then will I finally be "complete." However right now, s/o and I are not in a good place financially at all. We do use protection because of this, but of course it's not 100%.

I just feel kind of crazy for wanting a baby so badly, but also contemplating that I might have an abortion if I do end up pregnant anytime soon. S/o doesn't understand my feelings at all, and I can't really blame him. Who gazes wishfully down the baby aisle at Walmart, but would also be devastated if she ended up pregnant right now? This girl right here.

I can't lie. I would be in the same shoes as you. I would love another baby. I look at my children's baby pictures and I just want another. However, IF I were to get pregnant I would have no choice but to terminate. My health is not able to sustain another pregnancy and the three I have need me more. It would devistate me though. I think I would just fall apart.

at one point i flt the same way. I wanted it but knew the time wasnt right and told SO I'd probably abort luckily it didn't happen till we were ready

The thing is that there isnt a best time to have a baby if you guys wait for the best time to have a baby you may never have a baby at all. and if you do become more financially stable that stablity can be taken in a heart beat. when i got pregnant with my LO I was in a good place then I lost my job.

I personally have not, but I've known two people who have. Theirs were both medical reasons, though. One found out the fetus had some sort of medical condition (she's a friend of the family and not someone I'm close to, so I never asked for details) and the other found out she had breast cancer sometime at the beginning of her second trimester.

I want to be pregnant too, but we are in the middle of a lot of things right now, and would pretty much ruin any plans (physically building our own house) however i could never get an abortion. how come you would want an abortion? edit: nvm I didn't read it through all the way lol.

I felt a tremendous amount of pressure from my ex and his family. They all used the we won't love you anymore arguement. All of them said that I would be all by myself and they would have nothing to do with me blah blah blah. This went on all day everyday for a month and because I was so young, I did it. At the time, I wanted that baby more than anything else in the world. Now, I am ok with the fact that I did. I was only 16 at the time. I think that if they had maybe explained differently to me the reasons why having a baby that young was so bad I wouldn't have felt so guilty doing it at the time.

good lord, that's exactly how i feel! i always just thought i was an idiot. LOL

Quoting bb&b:" Has anyone terminated a wanted a pregnancy? What were your reasons, if you don't mind sharing? There ... [snip!] ... down the baby aisle at Walmart, but would also be devastated if she ended up pregnant right now? This girl right here. "

you sound exactly like me *le sigh*

I would love another pregnancy but I would without a doubt terminate. I cannot handle another child and I don't believe personally I could handle another pregnancy without complications. I would have deep regrets and my SO and I would probably split but I honestly believe another pregnancy and baby would be bad for me as much as I might want it. I would want it, I would grieve the loss but I think I would terminate for the good of myself and my family. Not 100% though, I might be swayed but it would take a LOT.

Well, I'm glad to know I'm not alone in feeling this way. I always thought it was weird to want a baby so bad, but to also not want to get pregnant right now. I wish we were in a better place right now because I am just aching to have my baby. It would kill me to abort, but then I think, would it be fair of me to have a baby we can't afford?

Quoting Coco&Mali:" you sound exactly like me *le sigh*"

You don't know how relieving it is to hear that. I am so used to s/o scoffing that "I don't make sense."

Quoting bb&b:" Well, I'm glad to know I'm not alone in feeling this way. I always thought it was weird to want a baby ... [snip!] ... aching to have my baby. It would kill me to abort, but then I think, would it be fair of me to have a baby we can't afford? "

I wish more people thought like this!!! About a year or so ago I got into it with a girl who was on just about every form of assistance and was TTC. My point was that she can't afford what she has, what business does she have TTC another. Her only soap box platform was "Just because I am poor means I shouldn't have children?" I argued that kids deserve to not have to worry about where their next meal was coming from or if they were going to have electricity. She said, all kids need is love. I argued that children also deserve special treats once in a while. How unfair is it that their classmates get to go on a field trip and have their $5 or whatever for the luch, but they can't becaue mommy and daddy don't have any extra money. Kids don't need the world handed to them on silver platters but they shouldn't go without everything.

Quoting bb&b:" You don't know how relieving it is to hear that. I am so used to s/o scoffing that "I don't make sense." "

DH is the same. He just doesn't understand what its like to be a woman

Quoting Not tellin:" I wish more people thought like this!!! About a year or so ago I got into it with a girl who was on ... [snip!] ... have any extra money. Kids don't need the world handed to them on silver platters but they shouldn't go without everything. "

I agree with you, completely. My mom raised me this way. She was so poor growing up that they didn't even have a bathroom until she was 12. They lived in a 1 room shack in the mountains of Kentucky. She married at 17 and basically vowed she would never raise her kids that way. So she waited until she was about 30 to have me, when she and my dad were financially stable, owned a house and had savings. She was able to give my sister and I what she and her siblings never had. I am so thankful. I had such a comfortable life growing up and they were able to pay for the majority of my college education. I know money =/= happy kids... but it really does make it a hell of a lot easier.