re: Terminating a wanted pregnancy

Quoting Coco&Mali:" DH is the same. He just doesn't understand what its like to be a woman"

Ha, I tell him that! "You don't get it, every woman dreams about her babies." He just rolls his eyes.

Thanks everyone. You made me feel better.  

Quoting bb&b:" Has anyone terminated a wanted a pregnancy? What were your reasons, if you don't mind sharing? There ... [snip!] ... down the baby aisle at Walmart, but would also be devastated if she ended up pregnant right now? This girl right here. "

I don't think I would ever terminate, but I want a baby so badly. I know that's what I want. I'm only 18, but I feel like a baby would complete my life. If I were in a situation where I could afford a baby, I would definitely talk to SO about TTC. It's going to be YEARS before we're able to have a baby, but I can't help but want one. If I were to get pregnant right now I know for a fact that I would possibly choose adoption. Because at this point, we can't. No matter how much I wanna be a mom.

Quoting Not tellin:" I wish more people thought like this!!! About a year or so ago I got into it with a girl who was on ... [snip!] ... have any extra money. Kids don't need the world handed to them on silver platters but they shouldn't go without everything. "

This is wrong, Untill recently i was on a lot of help from the government.. having a baby did put us in a hard spot.. but we got our asses in gear and we are making our way out of it.. things arnt where they need to be but they are getting better and better. I agree to some extent of what you are saying, but my daughter was the bestthing in my life. .my child has NEVER missed a meal nor will she ever becasue i have done my damnest even being in the "poor" working class people.. that my child doesnt go with out...She always has diapers, food, wipes and everyweek i made away for her to have something new from the store..So my child even if we struggle.. WILL NEVER KNOW.. becasue im just modivated to do so.

Quoting bb&b:" Has anyone terminated a wanted a pregnancy? What were your reasons, if you don't mind sharing? There ... [snip!] ... down the baby aisle at Walmart, but would also be devastated if she ended up pregnant right now? This girl right here. "

Op to answer your question, I personaly have not. .but i know of some friends who have due to medical reasons.

Quoting JazziRay Carrier:" This is wrong, Untill recently i was on a lot of help from the government.. having a baby did put ... [snip!] ... to have something new from the store..So my child even if we struggle.. WILL NEVER KNOW.. becasue im just modivated to do so."

There is nothing wrong with what I said. If you are already on assistance and can't afford to feed yourself, you have no business TTC. That was the point I made.

I have personally never had an abortion and honestly dont think I could ever go through with one. With my first I was only 17 and a junior in high school. My parents obviously didnt want me to have a baby because they felt I would never be able to finish school. They even offered to adopt my son and raise him as my brother, which I was totally against. it was hard, not gonna lie, but I did the best I could and worked 2 jobs while finishing school and going on to college. My second wasn't planned either and I struggled with accepting the pregnancy. After the birth of baby #2 I was encouraged to tie my tubes due to medical complications, but I was not able to stay awake to consent to the surgery b4 my emergency c-section. When we found out about baby #3 the doctor suggested I terminate due to medical issues and she felt I would not survive another pregnancy. My boyfriend told me I was very selfish to not terminate because I was not thinking about the children we already have and if anything were to happen I would be leaving him alone to raise all these kids without me. I stuck to my decision to keep this baby because I strongly feel that God has a plan for me and I was meant to carry this child. I'm not gonna lie I've been miserable and had issue after issue with this pregnancy and was on best rest for 16 weeks. Things are better for the meantime and I'm now 29 weeks. But I think that every woman has to make the decision that she can live with and that's what I did. The thought of my boys growing up without knowing me terrifies me to death, but I honestly thought God would not forgive me for choosing my own life over the baby.