re: I HATE my MIL club/thread!

wow, that was long. Sorry  

I thought I was building some sort of mutual respect with my MIL. Wrong. Found out she was talking smurf about me and how I am a stay at home parent. Smurfing rage. I really dislike that woman. I've tried to get along with her but I've been married to my husband for 4 years and she's still a disrespectful little smurf towards me for no reason.

Another family member, whom she is very close with, is also a stay at home parents yet she feels to disrespect ME? What a smurfing hypocrite.

Quoting Epic Big Head:" wow, that was long. Sorry  "

HAHAHHA drive by sperm. I hate when that happens!!  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Epic Big Head:</b>" Ohhhh I love this so much. I hate all of my inlaws. All of them. Things my MIL has done: 1. called ... [snip!] ... years old, does it matter?. No, it was an drive by sperming. That smurfer came out of nowhere. Ahhhh thank you for this  "</blockquote>




Wow. Your mil sounds just like mine.

Quoting Jas ♥:" I thought I was building some sort of mutual respect with my MIL. Wrong. Found out she was talking smurf ... [snip!] ... member, whom she is very close with, is also a stay at home parents yet she feels to disrespect ME? What a smurfing hypocrite. "

what the smurf, dude. i'm calling jealousy on this one.

Quoting Cecilia&Charleigh:" HAHAHHA drive by sperm. I hate when that happens!!  "

it's so unpredictable really  

Quoting *Stix*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Epic Big Head:</b>" Ohhhh I love this so much. I hate all of ... [snip!] ... That smurfer came out of nowhere. Ahhhh thank you for this  "</blockquote> Wow. Your mil sounds just like mine."

i feel like not being the bigger person this time and just not being available when she wants to see my kids now. she ignored them for a long time. now that my husband and i are probably getting divorced, she wants to be involved. um, no,

My MIL has been going around telling everyone that my pregnancies were both accidents because I "never wanted kids". Yes, it's true I didn't want kids 13 years ago when I first started dating her son and we were 15 and 17  

I got pregnant with DD right after my 29th birthday and I'll be 31 when this one is born. I didn't want to wait any longer because early menopause runs in my family.

We planned both of our kids but thanks for making us look irresponsible to the entire family. Yes, we don't make a lot of money but who is completely financially stable? All of our bills are paid every month and if we hadn't been effed around by the moving company and had to pay with our credit card we wouldn't be in any debt right now.

Quoting Epic Big Head:" what the smurf, dude. i'm calling jealousy on this one."

I really need to sit down and have a conversation with her but if she takes crap the wrong way, it will put my husband in a bad position. I just don't know what to do about this lady. Her being a jackass towards me is NOT going to make me divorce my husband.

She's in her early 40's, she's not kicking the bucket any time soon.  

Quoting Jas ♥:" I really need to sit down and have a conversation with her but if she takes crap the wrong way, it will ... [snip!] ... me is NOT going to make me divorce my husband. She's in her early 40's, she's not kicking the bucket any time soon.  "

that's a really tricky thing to have to do. if she's the type to be spiteful, she could go to your husband and say that you were mean to her and gain his sympathy. but if you don't do anything, it's going to get worse. i wish i had good advice  

I hope when my kid gets married, I'm not a dick to his wife. Unless she deserves it and all  

Quoting Epic Big Head:" that's a really tricky thing to have to do. if she's the type to be spiteful, she could go to your husband ... [snip!] ... i wish i had good advice   I hope when my kid gets married, I'm not a dick to his wife. Unless she deserves it and all  "

If I ever did want to talk to her, it would be in front of him. For sure.

I will never be that way towards the person my kids have chosen to marry unless they deserved it. So I agree with you. I definitely don't deserve her smurf, I'm a good wife to her son.

Quoting Jas ♥:" If I ever did want to talk to her, it would be in front of him. For sure. I will never be that way ... [snip!] ... chosen to marry unless they deserved it. So I agree with you. I definitely don't deserve her smurf, I'm a good wife to her son."

she is probably having a hard time letting go of her kid, which is a problem that is entirely her - not you at all. it might also have to do with the fact that having a child who is married and having grandchildren makes you think about your own mortality and it probably scares her how fast the years go by and how she's getting older now.

doesn't excuse her smurffy behavior though. that's all on her.

Quoting Epic Big Head:" she is probably having a hard time letting go of her kid, which is a problem that is entirely her - ... [snip!] ... her how fast the years go by and how she's getting older now. doesn't excuse her smurffy behavior though. that's all on her."

I agree. She doesn't treat M's bm that way but then again, his bm is not married to him. She is....very attached to my husband. I know that's her only son but Jesus Lord, cut the cord already.

One time, we argued about her not getting into our family business. She kept going on and on about how M was her son and when I cut her off and said M was MY husband, she looked dumbfounded.

Quoting Jas ♥:" I agree. She doesn't treat M's bm that way but then again, his bm is not married to him. She is....very ... [snip!] ... She kept going on and on about how M was her son and when I cut her off and said M was MY husband, she looked dumbfounded. "

woah. she has boundary issues.

Geeze. Some of these make my MIL seem...nice. ugh.

The worst thing for me was a few years ago. I was living with DH and her, plus BIL, SIL my daughter, and two nephews.

I was 18, still in HS, working, taking care of my child, cleaning the entire house, plus, BIL would just leave the house, and not take his kids. So I'd be stuck with them.

Well one day, DH was supposed to be off work, but got called in. That meant I had to watch the boys. I just broke down. I was at my breaking point. Later that day, MIL forced me to sit down. I told her I wasn't ready to talk, and i got called a selfish bitch. Selfish because I'm not ready to talk, especially to you? Fine. Whatever.I went outpatient, got the help I needed

Fast forward a few months. I'm newly pregnant, and watching TV with DH in the living room. My nephew comes in and says "I don't like this movie" I told him he can go to his room and watch TV then. That apparently upset the kid, and when BIL got home from work,(1 am) he wanted to talk. I was trying to sleep, and said we could talk in the morning.

That wasn't good enough. So he threatened to hurt my children. I called the cops. Before I could tell them anything, he broke down the door, jumped on top of me, and wrestled me for my phone. DH grabbed him off, and I called the cops again, this time, for assault.

So the police were taking my statement, and MIL smurfing interrupted me and said "you shouldn't believe anything she says. She's smurfing crazy and on meds." Excuse me bitch? Your son threatened my children, and assaukted me, but I'm the crazy one because I have depression?

I can't smurfing stand the trick. So glad we moved to a different state. I don't have to deal with her
Well when the police were taking statements, MIL interrupted me in the middle and said