I feel like a piece of smurf person

Last night I went over my friend's house, to stay the night after I went to their concert. They're in a band. Three of them live together, one two of them are a couple. The last I've been friends with for years and years.

And I am madly in love with him. ANd have been for years. I feel so bad because I have this boyfriend. and I really like my boyfriend. But this guy who is my friend is utterly perfect for me. But he will never like me.

Anyways last night I crashed in his bed and spooned him in my sleep all night. While I had dreams of him, that we were dating, and that we were kissing and what not.

I feel like I cheated. I feel so scummy. I'm a piece of smurf.

I've been in this kind of spot before. Why dont you think he'll ever like you romantically? If you dont have very strong feelings for your current boyfriend, you're just leading him on in the long run. :/

I'm sorry mama. I had a platonic friend like that when I was younger. He couldn't ever see us as mre than friends. We looked and acted like we were dating when we were together cause we were so good together. But after I got with so and got preg it got weird between us. But we used to cuddle sleep in the se bed and everything. But nothing more. His mom even asked him if the baby was his when he first told her I was preg haha! Even though we had never had sex but idk if she thought there even might be more between us then we led on? Idk. Don't feel bad. But you should probably talk to your current bf about it. Otherwise it's just gonna make you feel bad forever.

To me that is something I wouldn't do because its cheating to me. Also if you're not all in your relationship u shouldn't be in it

I feel nervous to talk to new BF about it. And I don't think my platonic friend is ready for me. The step=daddy role. Even though he's fabulous with children. Like his niece. He's so wonderful in every way.

IMO that was cheating. You need to sit down and think about what you really want in life. You cant be with one man but want another your whole relationship.

Quoting Liam's Mama:" IMO that was cheating. You need to sit down and think about what you really want in life. You cant be with one man but want another your whole relationship."

God I feel so bad now. I just, I want to know if there's even a chance.

Quoting Charlie's Lovely Mommy:" God I feel so bad now. I just, I want to know if there's even a chance."

personally, I would rather be with the person I loved rather than settle. he deserves to find someone that's really in it for him too, yknow? You cant help the way you feel and maybe he isnt ready to be a step daddy, but there's nothing wrong with letting him at least warm up to the idea. All I know is that ive been in relationships where I was still in love with someone else and after a few months of being happy with one guy, id remember how much i loved the first guy and it just went down hill from there.
just really think about what you want in life. you'e only got one, so you need to make the most of it. does the man you're in love with know that you feel so strongly towards him?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Charlie's Lovely Mommy:</b>" God I feel so bad now. I just, I want to know if there's even a chance."</blockquote>



You'll never know if you don't try!

Quoting shes.so.vain:" personally, I would rather be with the person I loved rather than settle. he deserves to find someone ... [snip!] ... only got one, so you need to make the most of it. does the man you're in love with know that you feel so strongly towards him?"

Yes, and he doesn't feel the same way exactly. He just..he said "You never know what will happen" He told me he's thought about it before, and that he thinks I'm a beautiful person. He thinks highly of me, but he's not ready for a relationship. He said he doesn't want to get my hopes up but that anything is possible. I don't want to lose current boyfriend because there's something special between us though.

Quoting Charlie's Lovely Mommy:" Last night I went over my friend's house, to stay the night after I went to their concert. They're in ... [snip!] ... that we were dating, and that we were kissing and what not. I feel like I cheated. I feel so scummy. I'm a piece of smurf."

I'll say this... my SO and I were bed buddies for awhile. Then we stopped, and became really good friends. I was utterly in freaking love with him for YEARS. Then one day I was all "I can't do this, I love you, it's all or nothing!"

In 2 weeks it will be 5 years we have been together. 8 years on and off. Though lately he's been an ass :p (He really needs to get his smurf together). But hey.... things can happen and YOU guys can happen!!!! I NEVER thought we would be together, he was all "We are just friends!" and then finally he realized he loved me too after I consoled him when a smurf broke his heart and he said he could tell it ripped me apart to do so, but was doing it because I was doing what was best for him  

I wish he still had that love for me though.... god he's been so mean lately! Oh... and I did cheat on an ex with him. I don't regret WHO I cheated on my ex with, but I do regret hurting him.

Quoting FroggysMommy:" I'll say this... my SO and I were bed buddies for awhile. Then we stopped, and became really good friends. ... [snip!] ... mean lately! Oh... and I did cheat on an ex with him. I don't regret WHO I cheated on my ex with, but I do regret hurting him."

That seriously gives me so much hope. I just hope someday he can feel the way that I feel about him.

Quoting Charlie's Lovely Mommy:" Yes, and he doesn't feel the same way exactly. He just..he said "You never know what will happen" He ... [snip!] ... up but that anything is possible. I don't want to lose current boyfriend because there's something special between us though."

I guess all you can do is really think it over about who you want to be with. Because even though there may be something special between you and your current boyfriend, theres a reason why you still feel so strongly for your friend. I wouldnt lose hope.