Quoting EmmaGrace:" Have you tried contacting La Leche in your area? They offer free breastfeeding advice and support."
Yes! Also, don't give up on yourself - MANY mothers that I know had a lot of difficulty (moth physically and emotionally) with BFing for the first 2-3 weeks and wound up having complete success in the long run. I myself got a blister on one nipple in the first couple of days from a bad latch, and even when I corrected it it hurt for a a few weeks until it healed. Use lanolin regularly and try to get very relaxed before BFing (dim lights, calm music, deep breathing, maybe some lavender oil on your temples). Good luck hun!
Also, if the latch just doesn't work for you guys, but pumping does work, feel blessed that you at least have the supply to (as you said) provide your LO with healthy mama's milk in a bottle! In some ways, you would be better off than I was - my DD would NOT take a bottle at all. We tried about 8 different kinds with my milk at different temperatures, fed by different people, and after about 4 months old she just completely refused. I'm sure if I had had to work full time she would have eventually caved, but since I am an SAHM, I just complied with her cries and never left her for longer than 5 hours until she weaned at 15 months!