Doyou think this would be wierd?

Ok me and my boyfriend/childrens father have been mainly on but sometimes off for 4 years. Well last April, we broke up and he was dating some chick. It was only for a couple of months because me and him got back together. Well this girl has a daughter the same age as my daughter and when my boyfriend and her were dating, her daughter got extremely attached to him. I guess she barely ever sees her dad and has no male figures in her life or something.

My question is : Would it be wierd if I let her daughter come over to visit with my boyfriend sometime?

I also want to add, this girl is still obsessed with my boyfriend. She kind of stalks him. So I wouldnt want to give her the wrong idea about letting him see her daughter.

It's a nice geture, but if the chick still has feelings, keep away!

Quoting It's Melanie, Bia:“ Ok me and my boyfriend/childrens father have been mainly on but sometimes off for 4 years. Well last ... [snip!] ... with my boyfriend. She kind of stalks him. So I wouldnt want to give her the wrong idea about letting him see her daughter.”

I wouldnt. Only because of the fact that the girl is still really obsessed with him. That shit is drama in the making.

Yeah thats what I was thinking too. LOL thanks.

Quoting It's Melanie, Bia:“ Ok me and my boyfriend/childrens father have been mainly on but sometimes off for 4 years. Well last ... [snip!] ... with my boyfriend. She kind of stalks him. So I wouldnt want to give her the wrong idea about letting him see her daughter.”

it would be weird feeling im sure.. but if she wants to visit and your comfortable with that it'd be sweet.. just watch her mom

Quoting Jessica [Slvrmoon]:“ It's a nice geture, but if the chick still has feelings, keep away!”

EXACTLY. its awesome that you're comfortable enough to do that...but if shes still obsessing, I would let that simmer down. It's not his child, and the mother should be resposible for providing her daughter with POSITIVE male role models, not just letting her get attached to any guy that comes along.

Quoting It's Melanie, Bia:“ Ok me and my boyfriend/childrens father have been mainly on but sometimes off for 4 years. Well last ... [snip!] ... with my boyfriend. She kind of stalks him. So I wouldnt want to give her the wrong idea about letting him see her daughter.”

That's really thoughtful of you, but it's not your boyfriend's responsibility. I wouldn't allow it unless he's really attatched to the daughter too. No need to make stalkers any creepier.

Yeah, see, I'm trying to be mature about the situation but I dont want no crazy stalker lady around my house, peeping in my windows and what not. LOL

I wouldn't mind the kid, but the Mom would have to STAY AWAY! lol.

See, this is exactly what I was thining. I just didnt want to make myself out to sound like a bitch. Because he's the one that asked if she could visit here, only if I allowed it. I just wasnt sure.

how old is the little one? this should be a decision based on what's best for the child.. not what's best for the adults...
with that said... my fiance's ex has a son that's 9. He was in the boys life for 6 years and was a father to him that whole time..We're going to let him come stay with us for a few weeks this summer. I say if the child is old enough to remember the person and ask for the person, then you shouldn't take that person away from the child..
If you can get her kid without her, then things should be fine.

Quoting It's Melanie, Bia:“ Yeah, see, I'm trying to be mature about the situation but I dont want no crazy stalker lady around my house, peeping in my windows and what not. LOL”

so can she drop off her daughter for like an hour?

The little girl is 2.5. Shes actually 3 months younger than our daughter. I mean, she calls him by his name and I guess she asks for him (from what stalker says) but idk if thats true. I mean he was only in her life 2 or 3 months.

I dont mind if she comes over and they visit. I just dont want her mother to get the wrong idea. I dont want her to start thinking like "yeah, he wants to see my daughter so that means we'll get back together soon" or something of that nature.

Quoting It's Melanie, Bia:“ The little girl is 2.5. Shes actually 3 months younger than our daughter. I mean, she calls him by his ... [snip!] ... start thinking like "yeah, he wants to see my daughter so that means we'll get back together soon" or something of that nature.”

maybe she is just saing that to make your b/f feel guilty. I had a friend who wanted her ex back SO bad and he didnt want to be with her. So she started saying the kids were crying for him and missing him, when really...I dont even think they noticed he was gone 

Quoting It's Melanie, Bia:“ The little girl is 2.5. Shes actually 3 months younger than our daughter. I mean, she calls him by his ... [snip!] ... start thinking like "yeah, he wants to see my daughter so that means we'll get back together soon" or something of that nature.”

so the 3 adults should sit down before hand