overly emotional and scared ...

So last night Ryan was complaining about he can never seem to make any headway with saving money, and he mentioned joining the Navy, which means he's gone for 4 years, and I started crying and got really upset because I suddenly had this fear that he would leave me. I just know that a big part of him wants to do normal 20-year old stuff and that he's going to miss out on a lot, and I hope he doesn't resent me later in life for missing out on that stuff. I know he loves me to death and wants to marry me, and that he loves Natalie too, but I just got this feeling ... I don't know. Then even after I'd been crying for a while and he'd been comforting me, it just wouldn't go away. I'm 7 months pregnant so this is probably normal hormonal stuff, but does anyone else feel in a way like they're trapping their bf? I know it takes 2 to make a baby, and I'm so glad that he is so supportive and excited, but it undoubtedly is going to make his life a lot harder than it needed to be. To top it off I love him so much- more than I did when I first got pregnant,I feel like we've grown so much closer in these past months- and now that I want a future with him, I'm scared something will happen and ruin it. It was much easier to just assume we wouldn't be together and I'd have to face challenges alone, but now that I've grown used to loving him and having him support me when I need him, I realize how much it would hurt if he wasn't there anymore  

Not to mention now that I'm heavily pregnant and obviously not skinny and always looking good, I see all these gorgeous girls and I think he MUST wish he was with someone who looked like that, rather than fatty-mc-preggo-pants here. Ugh.

I guess this is kind of just a rant, but maybe someone else has felt the same way ... ?

I totally understand where you are coming from. I worry about that all the time with my BF. I'm 3 years older than him, I got the chance to party, screw up my life, do whatever the hell i wanted. He got pregnant at 21 and I fell like i screwed up his life.
So don't worry your not alone on this one

Quoting Forever [Blessed*] 27wks:“ So last night Ryan was complaining about he can never seem to make any headway with saving money, and ... [snip!] ... fatty-mc-preggo-pants here. Ugh. I guess this is kind of just a rant, but maybe someone else has felt the same way ... ?”

....Wow, I've been feeling this exact way a lot recently. It got to the point where I was crying myself to sleep all last month. I have no advice since I'm struggling with this myself, but I just wanted to let you know you're not alone. :/

Before we got together my boyfriend washitchhiking/biking all across the country w/his guitar. I totally feel like I trapped him,and someday he's just going to start walking again. He's given me no reason to think this, I just do. And I feel like I'm no longer attractive to him since I had his baby. Porn is more appealing, I guess. Even though he's always looked at porn and I was never bothered by it before.

Ugh, that was my self-conscious rant for the day.

I've been feeling the same way lately- about Jake leaving me or something ruining us   its a sad thought...
I love Jake more now than I did when I was first prego too.
It must be relatively normal.

Life will be different for sure, for both of you! But I don't look at it as missing out. He's just going to have a different life than most 20 year olds! Don't worry, everything will be fine. I'm sure its just hormones.

my husband has been in the navy for 5 years and has never left for four....they may leave for 6 month deployments but they dont leave unless they are stationed somewhere and u can move with him......i luv him being in the navy..u get used to it.....our benefits are great and he makes good money...im able to be a stay st home mom as long as i want

I think just about every single pregnant girl/woman goes through those feelings, even in this book I read about dads to be it tells the father that it's normal for a woman to feel like that but to comfort her and just deal with her being afraid. You're normal for feeling scared! Just let him comfort you and try your hardest to trust him. Hormones will and can get the best of you  

Thanks everyone   It's good to know I'm not the only one feeling likea crazy, clingy wreck. Alysa, I sent you a PM ...

I'm so exhausted today from crying last night... I cried for like 2 hours ... I guess the upside is we had really good make-up sex lol maybe that's TMI! But anyways I look and feel a mess today.

You're not alone oin this. My husband's in the army and he's only 21. He just turned 21 too and he ca'nt go out because every time he does I get these terrable nightmares that he got in a car crash and I call him crying.

I feel like t times I should let him go and just take care of Dakota my self so he can do all the things guys his age want to but I ca'nt do it I love him too much. Is that selfish of me?

my boyfriends 24.
sometimes i feel like ive messed up his life somehow to
he should be out having fun with his friends still.. but yet he is with me working his ass off to support me and the baby and then he comes home and he sleeps and hes tired .. dont get me wrong hes soooooo excited maybe mre then me! but sometimes i feel the same way i feel like hes going to abondon me one day becuase of this..

 

Quoting alex[♥]:“ my boyfriends 24. sometimes i feel like ive messed up his life somehow to he should be out having ... [snip!] ... maybe mre then me! but sometimes i feel the same way i feel like hes going to abondon me one day becuase of this..  ”

I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way sometimes ... lately we've been pretty good, we're talking about getting married .. it helps me to remember that he CHOSE to be with me and to support me, he chooses to come home to me every night, and he loves me with all his heart (and only me) and wants to be with me forever. You can't force someone to feel that way.

Quoting Natalie Jean's Mommy[2Be]:“ I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way sometimes ... lately we've been pretty good, we're ... [snip!] ... he loves me with all his heart (and only me) and wants to be with me forever. You can't force someone to feel that way. ”

Yah I guess you're right. I mean...we were married before we got pregnant so I guess it was hois choice to be with me and love me.

My fiance is leaving for the army on the eighth but will only be gone for six months because he chose to do reserve. We were getting tight on money but he doesnt want me working so maybe your bf could check into that.. while he's gone for six months ill get two grand a month. but when he gets back he'll then just go two days a month and then two weeks for six years but we'll only get like five hundred a month..