So if you had to get your child Circ'd for a medical reason later on in life, would you feel like you have failed as a parent trying to the right thing?


I feel like I have failed as a mom because I couldnt keep him intact. I feel as I let him down. Yes it is medically needed that he gets circ'd. I know I have failed in a lot of other parts of his life as well, and I cant change.

No I wouldn't but I already had a nb circ'ed.

Um, no. If you ignored his medical problem, that's a fail. Smurf happens, girl.

No, because I made the best decision I could based on the information given. You had no way of knowing that your son would fall in the small percentage of children that need to be circed.

My SO had his done when he was 9. He remembers it.. Poor guy lol

What? Why would you feel like that? You shouldn't feel that say at all sweetie. That's like saying you felt bad for getting your kids tonsels out for medical reasons. If there's a med reason there is. You have to do what's best for yor child and their health. Sorry you feel that way  

I would not feel that way. You cannot do tons of surgeries on your kid in hopes of having nothing go wrong later. Would you remove his appendix so you avoid a problem with it later in life?

I would feel the same way, even though I know there's nothing I(or you) could have done. Try not to feel bad, mama. You did the right thing by not ignoring his medical condition.

.Its not your fault nor have you failed as a mom. Both my boys were circumsized

I said no, because I know in my heart that you SHOULDN'T feel like that.

But I truthfully think I would kind of feel the same if that happened with my son. I'm sorry, that really sucks!

Quoting Yurvon [♥]:" So if you had to get your child Circ'd for a medical reason later on in life, would you feel like you ... [snip!] ... is medically needed that he gets circ'd. I know I have failed in a lot of other parts of his life as well, and I cant change. "

well, i personally don't have a problem with circumcision, so maybe my opinion is kind of invalid, but....

if i was more in favor of keeping my child "intact", as you say, i think i would still not feel like a failure. if the reason was medical, then what more could i have done? if he had to have it snipped because of something i did to cause the medical issue, yes, i might feel like a failure and a bad mom. so... idk. am i making sense? i don't need to know the details of all of it, but... does this apply?

so, to summarize. no, i wouldn't feel bad UNLESS the medical issue he had was something that i CAUSED (whether by accident or intentionally).....

My oldest son was 3 1/2 when he had to have it done due to medical problems.
I felt like I should have done it when he was born.
My youngest got circ' when he was born so I'm thankful for the experience my oldest showed me.
But no hun don't feel like you failed as a mother.

That is like saying I fail as a parent if my child was diabetic or had cancer. It couldn't be helped. Sometimes smurffy things happen.

I say no for my head but would probably feel it in my heart if I were in the same position. In the end, we all make what we feel are the best choices for our kids and life sometimes takes us another way. It's how we deal with those curveballs that defines us.