What did you do?

If you and your DH disagreed on whether to circ?
If this baby is a boy DH wants to have him be circ-ed and says since I don't have a penis I can't possibly understand why it's important to be done.
I think it's unnecessary and don't think we need to have to done at all.
DH gets really defensive about it for whatever reason so having a calm conversation is just about impossible.

my DS is circ'd.
we both agreed on it.
just a personal choice.

I think it's important for you guys to hear each other out. I don't think it's fair for one parent to make the decision (when they're both involved, I mean).

We both agreed to circ, however we DID research to make sure we understood risks and benefits. No regrets here.

I did not want it done but SO was dead set on it.
But my son is and I dont regret it at all.

Well, he IS the one with a penis. My DH said the same thing. It's a weird unnecessary flap and when you're at the gym or whatever, your penis is different than other guys.

Not to mention the maintenance to be done on the extra skin...

Why are you against it? The time it takes to do it? The aftercare?

BD's wanted LO's done. We got it done for a few personal reasons but I do regret it a little. I was pressured into it by everyone around. My parents wouldn't stop saying it, BD's said we should. BD wouldn't stop with it. I caved. I'm more upset with myself that I gave in without really trying.

I would personally do what DH wanted on that one because he knows how it would be. Just hope for a girl lol

We had our son circumcised. I couldn't stay in the same room as them. As soon as he started crying, i was outside the room bawling. When it was over, they had me come pick him back up and i gave him many kisses and was calm again. It was a horrible experience and if i have another boy again(not trying)... i'm still neutral, but i'm going to stand outside. He's now a healthy 2 3/4 year old and his wee wee looks normal  

I didn't want to at first because to me..my baby is born perfect but SO insisted. I'm giving in because id feel BAD if we had to do it later on..at like 5 for some reason. My moms friends kid had to at 6 and it was vety very traumatic

I wasn't sure what I wanted..but SO was very dead set on wanting DS to get it. He said pretty much that same thing..that I wouldn't be able to understand, and it was something that was important to HIM. He also said he wanted his son to look like him.

He felt very strongly towards getting it done, so I decided we would. I don't regret it at all. The procedure went perfectly, aftercare was extremely easy, and SO was very happy.

<blockquote><b>Quoting tinana +2:</b>" I think it's important for you guys to hear each other out. I don't think it's fair for one parent to make the decision (when they're both involved, I mean)."</blockquote>

I mean I want to respect his opinion and I do but it's hard to set it aside when he just ignores me when I try to express mine.

Quoting ♥rawr:" <blockquote><b>Quoting tinana +2:</b>" I think it's important for you guys to hear ... [snip!] ... I mean I want to respect his opinion and I do but it's hard to set it aside when he just ignores me when I try to express mine."

Explain that to him. Tell him that you understand what he's saying, but you want him to understand what you're saying as well.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sara Go:</b>" Well, he IS the one with a penis. My DH said the same thing. It's a weird unnecessary flap and when you're ... [snip!] ... to mention the maintenance to be done on the extra skin... Why are you against it? The time it takes to do it? The aftercare?"</blockquote>

I just feel the entire procedure is unneeded. And I don't think of it as "weird unnecessary flap". It was born on him and I don't think it needs to be removed just because some people do.

Quoting ♥rawr:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sara Go:</b>" Well, he IS the one with a penis. My DH said the ... [snip!] ... of it as "weird unnecessary flap". It was born on him and I don't think it needs to be removed just because some people do."

You certainly have a right to your opinion-- and so does your husband. The bad part, is that it could end up in a big argument if you guys can't come to an agreement.

Is there anyone in real life that you could talk to more about it? Your mom, his mom, etc... that might be able to help? Ultimately it's up to you guys, but you really need to come to an agreement.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Britney!:</b>" I wasn't sure what I wanted..but SO was very dead set on wanting DS to get it. He said pretty much that ... [snip!] ... decided we would. I don't regret it at all. The procedure went perfectly, aftercare was extremely easy, and SO was very happy."</blockquote>

I just dont know if I could just go along with it because DH want it done and then not regret it later. Idk maybe if we could actually have a conversation about it it would be different