re: I had my first miscarriage yesterday

Quoting mommy_of_a_lil_bean:“ I also had my first miscarriage yesterday (still bleeding). I was 8 weeks and 5 days and due on Dec. ... [snip!] ... again. But I know at the same time I am going to be horrified the next time around, worrying that the same thing might happen.”

Your feelings are completely normal. I had my m/c when I was about 8 weeks, my due date was December 11th. When we told my mother in law she cried, and I felt horrible, like I had let my family down, although I know there is nothing I could have done to avoid it. Everyone kept telling me that I shouldn't tell anyone about the pregnancy until the 12th week, but I really apprecitated all the support my family gave me when the m/c happened. Next time I don't think I will tell people at work. I was out for a week and half because of the complications, and everyone thought I was on vacation  
Just know that everyone here did everything right. There is no way to stop a miscarriage, and most often than not m/c's happen due to an abnormality in the baby. God has a plan for everyone, and everything happens for a reason. I too am really nervous about next time, but that is to be expected. If you need to talk, we're all here for each other.

To all you new Angel Mommies, hang in there! I can honestly say with time you get better and the tears do dry up! I am 3months post m/c. We had been TTC for over a year so we were OVER THE MOON when we found out. We told our closest friends and family since they all knew about our struggle. And the day we went in for our 9wk u/s our whole world was ripped apart in a heartbeat. It took me at least a month to stop crying daily and another month to even consider wanting to try again. Now here I am starting cycle #3 and I am feeling more hopeful then before. Why? Because now I know I CAN GET PREGNANT! Before it was a guessing game. So, my best advice is to take all of this 1 day at a time, protect yourself from people's words as much as you can and cry when you need to cry! I wish my arms were big enough to wrap around all of you!!!!!

Quoting Mrs. Blount:“ To all you new Angel Mommies, hang in there! I can honestly say with time you get better and the tears ... [snip!] ... people's words as much as you can and cry when you need to cry! I wish my arms were big enough to wrap around all of you!!!!!”

Awwww...you are so sweet and give the best advice! Thank you.

Quoting mommy_of_a_lil_bean:“ I also had my first miscarriage yesterday (still bleeding). I was 8 weeks and 5 days and due on Dec. ... [snip!] ... again. But I know at the same time I am going to be horrified the next time around, worrying that the same thing might happen.”

I know how you feel. You're so excited to let the family know and to talk about it. Hang in there... let yourself grieve, scream, cry ect.  Talk to the people you love and get your support system down (that is what has really helped me).  I'm sorry you have to go through this but know that you are not alone. We all know the feelings you are having. ((hug)) 

Yes We have been TTC for almost a year with no luck. I thought I couldn't get pregnant at all. So when I got my bfp after a YEAR- of course I wanted to tell everyone!!! EVERYONE!!! But then I had a m/c and now I have to tell EVERYONE again, which hurts. But I am trying to look at it the same way. At least now I know I can actually get pregnant. Now I just have to take extra good care of my body so when God is ready for us to get pregnant again, my body will be more than ready to welcome our future child.

This site has helped me tremendously. Before, I would come and read the TTC forums without even posting, just to see what advice everyone gave for similar questions that I had in mind. And I would always see people posting when they got their BFP. Now I can say I know what that feels like. And I'm glad to have had the experience. Next time I just hope and pray that I will be able to share the experience of a full term pregnancy with you all.

Quoting mommy_of_a_lil_bean:“ Yes We have been TTC for almost a year with no luck. I thought I couldn't get pregnant at all. So when ... [snip!] ... experience. Next time I just hope and pray that I will be able to share the experience of a full term pregnancy with you all.”

AMEN! You echo my feelings and experiences perfectly!

Quoting mommy_of_a_lil_bean:“ Yes We have been TTC for almost a year with no luck. I thought I couldn't get pregnant at all. So when ... [snip!] ... experience. Next time I just hope and pray that I will be able to share the experience of a full term pregnancy with you all.”

good luck! I know you'll be able experience the joys (and not so joys) of full term pregnancy! My Hubby and I are waiting till Aug to TTC. I'll keep my fingers crossed for all of us. 

Thanks! Everyone on here is so sweet. Yall have really made dealing with everything so much easier than it would have been, had I not been a member of this site.

Quoting JoeyBelfast:“ I had my first Ob Gyn appointment yesterday and after a pap smear there was some bleeding. She asked ... [snip!] ... but I passed it all last night. To say that I am depressed is an understatement - I am sorry but that's all I have to say.”

I can say I understand and the only thing there is time. Everyone will say it happened for a reason but, it doesn't help i know.... Just stay busy and keep moving i've already broke down and it isn't good but, lets say i cry myself to sleep every night. If I was so stressed she would be here and born in August. Just stay busy but its always going to be there in your mind. Heavens angels and will see them again some day. take care...

I have a follow up appointment today at 1:30 with my OBGYN after a miscarriage on Monday. I'm still bleeding and not really in physical pain. Just crushed emotionally. I keep thinking about all the things I did and what could have caused this. I just hope when I go the the OB he can tell me the blood test results and maybe give me a reason as to why this happened so that next time I can do what I can to prevent this from happening again. I don't think I can take another miscarriage. I don't even know yet if I'll make it thru this one.