Am i Over-reacting?...

Hello ill be 20 tomorrow but anyways me and my boyfriend have been together or 4 years and our son is almost 2 months in a phew days... Anyways iam at his house all the time taking care of our son while hes at his welding school from 7-12 and then he comes home and from 1230 till 2:30 he goes to the GYM to workout.. itsvery important to him i suppose... and the from 3-8 hes at Work. when he comes home he spends about 2 hours with me and our son and then goes to bed. I told him i feel like im the only one taking care of our son because i feel alone. I feel his spare time that he spends going to the gym he should be spending it with Us. but its his free time other than that hes at school and working to get a better career for Our child. Am i wrong by being upset that it feels like his time for us is put last? i know he has school and work i cant change that but the gym part what do you all think? Am i over-reacting... Hes a great father but it just doesnt seem like teamwork..

I wish my husband could even Coe home. With that being said, two hours really isn't ll that bad. Some people get zero time in ith loved ones. I do think you need free time too though!

Lol @ "in a phew days"

I felt like that too when SO went to the gym after work. He worked 7am till 5pm and then was at the gym for an hour or so and wouldn't get home till around 8. We would eat and then go to bed. But I didn't say anything. Now I WISH he would go to the gym after work. He stopped after I had LO....Let's just say he's gained a few pounds lol. So I think if he want's to work out he should be able to work out.

Maybe he could get some equipment to have at home?

he probably doesn't see it the same way you do.
i feel the same way like im the only one taking care of DS, while SO gets to relax and do whatever he wants.
but he see's it differently, to him i get to stay home all day and do whatever i want while he works and provides for our family. so his spare time he does whatever he wants.

Lol sorry about the spelling, My spelling has been off lately.

Quoting Javi's Mami*[Bazinga!]:" I felt like that too when SO went to the gym after work. He worked 7am till 5pm and then was at the gym ... [snip!] ... lol. So I think if he want's to work out he should be able to work out. Maybe he could get some equipment to have at home?"

I would definitely rather my SO gain a few pounds in exchange for more time together with our family.


I don't think your overreacting. Maybe you could compromise. A little less gym time. But of you try and take that away from him completely its could make him resent you or feel like you could be controlling him. I think it would be very fair to try and make a compromise though.

Quoting Javi's Mami*[Bazinga!]:" I felt like that too when SO went to the gym after work. He worked 7am till 5pm and then was at the gym ... [snip!] ... lol. So I think if he want's to work out he should be able to work out. Maybe he could get some equipment to have at home?"

my SO gave up working out too, once i got pregnant and we moved. he's getting a bit pudgy now :p i make fun of him and tell him i think he was the one who got pregnant.

Quoting -Dankka!:" he probably doesn't see it the same way you do. i feel the same way like im the only one taking care ... [snip!] ... home all day and do whatever i want while he works and provides for our family. so his spare time he does whatever he wants. "

Yes! why cant they see what we go through. Being a mom is a big job! and its not even like we can just get up and have a shower or leave out the door anymore. Typical men and i try to tell him to put himself in my shoes for a day but i really don't think he can.

Quoting Janelle&Baby Cohen:" Yes! why cant they see what we go through. Being a mom is a big job! and its not even like we can just ... [snip!] ... out the door anymore. Typical men and i try to tell him to put himself in my shoes for a day but i really don't think he can."

no not really, SO thinks i relax and sleep all day.
its not like i spend all day taking care of baby and trying to keep a clean house!

I think you should see if he could cut back on his time at the gym. To some people having that work out is important so I wouldn't cut it completely, but a little bit more time at home isn't going to hurt him. He may not realize it but he's missing out on a lot. My SO was working all the time and going to school and he didn't realize how much he was really missing with LO til he had to quit his job.