My husband and I are doing IVF in a few months and we have been talking about using a sperm donor. The main reason being my husband has schizophrenia and so do his brothers. We were thinking we don't want to possibly pass on the gene and have our child have issues when they are older.
Well my husband wants us to not use a donor that looks like him. Is it silly that I want to? He was teased all through school for having red hair as was I but I still want our child to look as much like us as possible. Also with me having red/auburn hair there is still a chance genetically they will get red hair.
What would you do in this situation? Would you use a donor that looks as much like him as possible or go the complete opposite?