It doesn't ruin your life, it just changes it.

Hello all! I'm Shan. I'm 19 and about 7 and 1/2 weeks pregnant with my first child. I came to this site looking for advice and support. I have many supportive people in my life including my mother and friends, but the thought of bringing a child into the world is still new and somewhat frightening to me. Please don't assume that means that I don't want this baby. I do. With all my heart. You see, the only real opposition to my pregnancy comes from the father. He actually begged me for weeks to terminate the pregnancy because he "wasn't ready to give up his life for the biggest mistake he's ever made". I'm hoping to hear some encouraging words from anyone who has been though something similar or just wishes to offer a little comfort. it would really mean alot to me. Thanks so much!

Congratulations on your pregnancy. If the father of your baby is going to be immature about it, then he has the right to be. You can be a fantastic mother without him. On the other hand, maybe he'll come around, see his child, and change his mind.

Either way, good luck!

I have not been in this situation but I would say that if you want to keep the baby, that is very good.  It was frightening to me too.  I was absolutely terrified but now that he's here, I couldn't imagine my life with out him.  It gets better and even though the father doesn't want to be in the baby's life, he might change his mind.  My husband (at least to me) acted kind of like he didn't really care either way if we had a baby, until my 14 week u/s when we found out it was a boy.  That changed everything.

Congrats on your pregnancy. Some dads go crazy at the thought that they have to actually grow up and be responsible. I have a few friends who have gone through what you are currently going through. Some of the men changed their minds as soon as they saw their little one. And well sadly some of them didn't. But my friends are excellent mothers who are doing a great job raising their children without the fathers.

Um, hes an ass. You are probably way better off without him. Then again, maybe he will come around. My nephews dad took 2 years to come around. Of course you are scared.Every pregnant woman has the right to be scared shitless.Its hard but it is definitely worth it.

Quoting shan2428:“ Hello all! I'm Shan. I'm 19 and about 7 and 1/2 weeks pregnant with my first child. I came to this site ... [snip!] ... has been though something similar or just wishes to offer a little comfort. it would really mean alot to me. Thanks so much!”

Having a baby is such a blessing. If you want the baby keep him/her. Dont do something that you dont want to do and do it for someone else cause it will be the biggest regret you will ever have. It is frightening at first but then it turns to excitement and every positive thing you can think of. If the father doesnt want to be a part of your or the babys life it is his loss. Sorry to say that but it is true. Of course your life will change and it will change for the better and the best. You will feel love like you've never felt before. Stay strong sweetie

congrats. My best friends babys daddy was the same. Its made her pregnancy HARD. That guy should just piss off! I dislike men like that.

Congratulations! First off, let me start by saying I am 27 and married and have a 11 week old baby. I too had a good support system, this was my second pregnancy (our fisrst ended in miscarriage) and I was terrified several times throughout the pregnancy. My husband would never admit it but he was as well. Your baby's father may think right now this is "the biggest mistake of his life" but it's not. Not being around for his child wil be. Hopefully he will change his mind as the pregnancy progresses. My husband had a hard time accepting what was really going on until he actually felt the baby kick. (he was super excited to be a dad, don't get me wrong, but he just didn't think it was "real")
Men are just wired different. I believe that the moment a woman finds out she's pregnant she becomes a mom but for the guys, it's usually not until the baby is here. Good luck and don't worry. With a supportive family and us bg mommas you'll be just fine.

welcome to BG! i wish you all the best with your pregnancy and baby when he or she comes. you are bringing life to the world, and it is a love that only a mother can understand. congratulations and best wishes!

The day after we found out we were prego the first time, my boyfriend called me AT WORK and whispered..."you know there's a pill to take care of that baby..." I will never forget it...but he came around...supported me...and we are still together and our second is on the way...

He felt the same way...that having a child will change your life for the worse...but he found out it just gets better having someone in your life who is an actual part of you...he just fell in love with his son.

We're here for you...do what you know you have to do...and know you lean on us if you need to.

I just wanted to thanks everyone who has replied to my post. It means alot to me to have this kind of support. Keep 'em coming though, i'm gonna need all the help i can get...

Quoting shan2428:“ Hello all! I'm Shan. I'm 19 and about 7 and 1/2 weeks pregnant with my first child. I came to this site ... [snip!] ... has been though something similar or just wishes to offer a little comfort. it would really mean alot to me. Thanks so much!”

Congrats on your pregnancy =D
And i'm glad to hear you didn't listen to the father of your baby and get an abortion. A baby is not a mistake, he should of worded that in such a different way.