Is It Me? So Upset

Ok so hubby and I had a wonderful day at the mall and on the way to the car we see this guy putting his daughter, who look around six or seven years old on the back of his motorcycle. He puts his helmet on her and speed away through the parking lot, down the street, and towards the freeway. Yes, the freeway. So as we get in to the car I say that it so irresponsible to have his little girl on the bike and then to have her on the back and not in the front with him at least so he can hold on to her. Well he has been wanting to get a motorcycle and I just think he should right now. I mean our baby will be here in three months and if something bad were to happen, I would not know what to do emotionally. So I told him if I ever saw him put our daughter on the back of a motorcycle I would kill him. She could fall off and seriously hurt herself. He thought there was not a problem with it and we got into a huge debate about it. He actually said I was extreme in my thinking and I was going to be one of those moms whose child can't have fun because I am too paranoid for her to play outside. I mean I am going to be a MOM. And he can't understand how I feel about it. So when we got home, he took a shower, talking on the phone and went to bed without saying another word to me. Am I being extreme as he likes to put it? Or just a cautious mom who want to make sure her child remains safe?

Nope. Not extreme. I'm the same way, but sometimes you gotta let go and just take some risks safely as you can if that makes sense.

Quoting Shaunna's Mom:“ Ok so hubby and I had a wonderful day at the mall and on the way to the car we see this guy putting his ... [snip!] ... word to me. Am I being extreme as he likes to put it? Or just a cautious mom who want to make sure her child remains safe?”

I tthink you're being extreme not in what you want for your child,but in being so upset about it when it's not even an issue yet.And as far as the other guy wih his daughter on his motorcycle-maybe unsafe ,but none of your business,really.I'd worry about it more when the time comes closer,instead of now,when it's really a non-issue.

i am in no way or means a "fun sucker" being a mom .. I do think that there are limitations to what can and should be done with my child ... If it was my child I would have flipped. So I personally dont think that you took the idea of things to the extreme .......

I agree with you! How can a small child who is smaller than a full grown man and not as strong be expected to hold on to him when he traveling at high speeds on the freeway?! I do find that way unsafe. I mean if she was much older like 13 or older I would say no problem because I used to ride on the back of my uncle's motrocycle with no problem. but a 6-7 year old? no way!

Quoting Ms. Von Fate:“ I tthink you're being extreme not in what you want for your child,but in being so upset about it when ... [snip!] ... none of your business,really.I'd worry about it more when the time comes closer,instead of now,when it's really a non-issue.”

That is what he said. He did not have a motorcycle yet and why stress about it. But it is the idea that he thinks it is safe that scares me. As far as the other guy, I mean I am not his wife, gf, or mother of his child, I just think what he did was unsafe. But you are right it is none of my business what he does with his daughter. I just would not like it if it happened to my daughter. That's all.

Quoting Ms. Von Fate:“ I tthink you're being extreme not in what you want for your child,but in being so upset about it when ... [snip!] ... none of your business,really.I'd worry about it more when the time comes closer,instead of now,when it's really a non-issue.”

but it could become an issue in the future, so I don't think she is wrong in adressing it now.

Quoting Shaunna's Mom:“ That is what he said. He did not have a motorcycle yet and why stress about it. But it is the idea that ... [snip!] ... it is none of my business what he does with his daughter. I just would not like it if it happened to my daughter. That's all.”

And you have a right to draw that line,even if others think it's extreme.I just would save my energy for when it's actually an issue-who knows-after your baby is born he might turn into an overprotective freak of a dad-he might change his tune after seeing her,you know?

Quoting ~Ivana331~ 2 weeks le:“ but it could become an issue in the future, so I don't think she is wrong in adressing it now.”

Lots of things could become an issue in the future-doesn't mean she should stress herself out about them before they're even relevant-now that's just unhealthy.

Quoting Ms. Von Fate:“ And you have a right to draw that line,even if others think it's extreme.I just would save my energy ... [snip!] ... your baby is born he might turn into an overprotective freak of a dad-he might change his tune after seeing her,you know?”

True

i agree with u 100%.... i HATE motorcycles!! my uncle died in a motorcycle accident 2 years ago (that being his 3rd accident)... i made my hubby PROMISE to NEVER get one! i think they are so dangerous..

I agree with you. At only 6 or 7 years old that child likely still needs a carseat because of or her weight being under 70 pounds. I would tell hubby that you have no problem with fun, but when it comes to your child fun will not come before safety.

While I would be nervous, if the child weighed enough, I don't see the HUGE issue with it. But then again, no one I know owns a motorcycle and thought of Brandon or Savanna being tossed on the back makes my stomach do flips lol

Still, I was a very small child but when I was only 7 my father rode with me on the back of a motorcycle down the freeway to take me to my grandmothers house.

I don't know much about motorcycles but perhaps there are safety add on for a motorcycle that can ease the minds of worrywart moms like us?  

Quoting Shaunna's Mom:“ Ok so hubby and I had a wonderful day at the mall and on the way to the car we see this guy putting his ... [snip!] ... word to me. Am I being extreme as he likes to put it? Or just a cautious mom who want to make sure her child remains safe?”

I rode on my dad's motorcycle since I could remember. I personally, would not allow my child on the back of a motorcycle-especially not age 7.
I am a worry wart, and my husband would probably agree with you husband.
Fact of the matter is you child could justas easily be injured in a car accident. Sometimes, we have to try to learn to "let go". I am still learning!